How do I tell my Highschool sweet heart GF that she is gotten too fat for me to stick around.

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Maybe you should just become gay...I don't won't you infecting the gene pool with your taint...

By taint do you mean the little flap of skin or like impure

I hope you would realize that the perineum isn't part of the reproductive system...

Guess I gave ATOT too much faith.

 

[grjr]

good job on being a shallow person, there's more to a real relationship than just sex

 

[stars]

You should just break up with her. Tell her nothing as to why because she apparently can do better than you.

 

[grjr]

BTW where are you located, I'm 25 and in search of a good woman. I'll gladly take her off your hands

 

[Smackem]

Trust me, I realized when I was 17 or 18 that sex was boring anymore and that I was just gonna chill out until I was ready to have a relationship.

OMG EyeMNathan, I just got back to check these messages, and this is going to take a lot of sorting out. I can't beilive you really think like that. My sex is NOT BORING. and one of the reasons its NOT BORING, is because I refuse to pork the same (getting fat) gf over and over.

 

[Smackem]

Why is everyone upset with me because she can't 'gain a few pounds'. Guys I am 21. I only have a year or two more when The chicks still all look young. Why can't I enjoy it?

 

[IAteYourMother]

Originally posted by: Smackem
Why is everyone upset with me because she can't 'gain a few pounds'. Guys I am 21. I only have a year or two more when The chicks still all look young. Why can't I enjoy it?

I sort of understand how you feel, and if you really can't stand her looks, then sure, leave, her, but if 20 pounds is too much for you, then you may have trouble later on.

 

[MrDudeMan]

OP post a pic of yourself. if you are as good lookin as you think, then you have nothing to lose!

 

[Smackem]

Theres one of my server bro.

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Where's the picture of you?

 

[EmperorIQ]

Originally posted by: loki8481
the thing about weight is that it can be lost.

if she's otherwise great, tell her you're going on a fitness kick and invite her to join you for workouts.

though from the sound of it, she could probably do a lot better...

I'm going to go with loki here, I really think, if you love her enough, you wouldn't mind her gaining weight, and if you do want her to lose weight and not hurt her feelings, why not become more active yourself? Then invite her along with you. "Hey, I'm going to join the gym, want to joing one with me?" Or maybe you can try: "dude, I bet you that I can run 6 miles in 1 hour in 3 months, first one to do it gets to buy the other person whatever they want!"

I haven't read any of the posts in this thread yet, past loki's, but it also sounds like you're getting bored of her, you're worried about her being as fat as her mom? It totally sounds like you're losing what you had for her, maybe the physical changes on her triggered it a little, but yes, most likely you just want a better looking girl, that you can just go crazy with, if you know what I mean. good luck man.

 

[edmundoab]

well give it a try with other girls and see what happens.

 

[Smackem]

You guys are all sidestepping the fact that I do take care of my body, she doesn't do the same. How is this unfair?

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: Smackem
You guys are all sidestepping the fact that I do take care of my body, she doesn't do the same. How is this unfair?

its unfair because that isnt a good enough reason to completely ditch a girl. it can be fixed. if you just talk to her about it nicely then im sure she would change it for you like you said. you are giving up on her for more than just the weight...

she looks VERY attractive in that picture. its hard to make that kind of face and hair look bad, even with more weight. a relationship takes work, and it sounds like you are too immature to meet her in the middle. im 20 btw, so you are just immature at 21 if you dont realize this.

 

[amicold]

Originally posted by: Smackem
You guys are all sidestepping the fact that I do take care of my body, she doesn't do the same. How is this unfair?

You're a meat-head. Are you one of those jock 'in-the-gym-everyday' guys who can't stand having anymore than 2% body fat? If you're skinny maybe you have an eating disorder if you think she's fat. Perhaps you should have your head examined for being a shallow piece of dirt. Just remember if you can't find anyone after this (you don't realize how well you've got it) you go down the street, not across the tracks.

Looking back on my post you remind me of my homosexual friend, he eats like a bird and cringes at anyone that isn't a <19 BMI.

 

[shopbruin]

seriously, fvck you.

as a female, you are quite possibly one of the biggest assholes i've ever encountered on this message board. if the ONLY reason you are dumping this girl because she gained some weight, then you are quite possibly one of the most shallow guys on this message board. and that's saying quite a lot.

i hate having to fight over my weight. that people judge me constantly over how skinny or fat i am. and i live in freaking los angeles, the capital of beautiful, and anorexic/bulimic women trying really hard to make it in hollywood.

by the picture you posted, your gf (and she shouldn't be with you, since you are a jerk) is not hurting herself by gaining 15 pounds. you're too busy looking at all the anorexic women with body enhancements to realize that you have an actual person that is comfortable with you. do you know how long people search to find someone that will be comfortable with them?

being 21 is not an excuse. wanting to bang hot chicks is not an excuse. you can probably find a ton of vapid hot chicks that will attend to your beck and call. but they will not stay with you, and you'll find yourself manwhored out, wondering why all women out there have no substance but slamming bodies. you're too busy being concerned about yourself. being in a relationship is also about caring the other person, which you have completely forgotten about.

perhaps i'm bringing out my own insecurities, since i'm not exactly the thinnest person in the world and it hurts me to the very core of my soul that men can be this inconsiderate, shallow and idiotic and i'm thankful that mine cares more about me than how i look. but to expect to live my life 10-15 pounds underweight, worrying everyday that someone will cast a disapproving eye towards me if i order anything more than a glass of water and a salad at a restuarant, is simply unrealistic.

you're too busy looking for others that will agree with you. but note they are agreeing that if you are not attracted to her, then you should not be with her. you're only dumping her because you think she's fat, and NOT because you're not attracted to her. look at yourself. you're the reason why there are eating disorders. why the perception is size zero or nothing. why the entire world is so obsessed with how fast denise richards lost her pregnancy weight or how skinny jessica simpson got for her latest movie role.

she's not your sweet heart. dump her. go for it. she doesn't deserve you, but someone that will appreciate her for the way you are. go ahead and list the other reasons why you don't like her. it will all stem from the fact that you have allowed your brain to rot with the idea "she's fat and i can't handle this. i can't be seen with this. it is so not cool and everyone will just think i only like fat chicks, and if i'm ever seen with her and a hot chick strolls by, she'll never give me the time of day."

impale yourself with a sword. or better yet, just stop posting.

 

[oogabooga]

You realize any girl you meet will most likely become physically unattractive to you. Most of the relationships that last don't last on just sheer physical attraction alone. It'll be something 'deeper' that keeps it going. So either grow up or expect never to be able to commit to a real relationship. I doubt you're getting and younger and as a 21 year old male, you're starting to go over the hill physically buddy.

I hope that in reality : i hope she's a b!tch and has actually been gaining weight because she finds you unattractive sexually and can't think of any other way to break up with you.

 

[Kadarin]

I was going to say something, but freesia39 said it all already.

 

[lavagirl669]

Originally posted by: Smackem

Originally posted by: bootymac
You don't love her anymore so break it off!

Just hope the break up doesn't motivate her to work her fine, tight ass back

I know it will. It is just how women work. If she could just keep her fine, tight ass ..ass We wouldn't be stuck in this situation in the first place. TAKE NOTE WOMEN!

Oh yeah like ALL guys keep their fine buff hardbodies during the
relationship -
that goes both ways you know.
Lets see pics of you so we can take notes on how we "should" look.

 

[RaiderJ]

She's put on some weight and you're an ATOT dork like the rest of us - welcome to life post-high school.

 

[montanafan]

Just tell her you're too busy with WoW and trying to figure out how to ask the UPS girl out right now. BTW, did you ever have that surgery to get your eyes slanted?

And, who were you before you were banned?

 

[w00t]

get her a member ship to a fitness center is the best idea i can think of.

 

[Sentrosi2121]

I want to know where the OP lives so I can go hang out at his front porch and tease him as he walks to school shouting, "You're in love with a FATTEYYYY!" then go and beat him up and steal his lunch.

About as mature a post I can reply with due to the maturity level of the OP.

 

[w00t]

Originally posted by: freesia39
seriously, fvck you.

as a female, you are quite possibly one of the biggest assholes i've ever encountered on this message board. if the ONLY reason you are dumping this girl because she gained some weight, then you are quite possibly one of the most shallow guys on this message board. and that's saying quite a lot.

i hate having to fight over my weight. that people judge me constantly over how skinny or fat i am. and i live in freaking los angeles, the capital of beautiful, and anorexic/bulimic women trying really hard to make it in hollywood.

by the picture you posted, your gf (and she shouldn't be with you, since you are a jerk) is not hurting herself by gaining 15 pounds. you're too busy looking at all the anorexic women with body enhancements to realize that you have an actual person that is comfortable with you. do you know how long people search to find someone that will be comfortable with them?

being 21 is not an excuse. wanting to bang hot chicks is not an excuse. you can probably find a ton of vapid hot chicks that will attend to your beck and call. but they will not stay with you, and you'll find yourself manwhored out, wondering why all women out there have no substance but slamming bodies. you're too busy being concerned about yourself. being in a relationship is also about caring the other person, which you have completely forgotten about.

perhaps i'm bringing out my own insecurities, since i'm not exactly the thinnest person in the world and it hurts me to the very core of my soul that men can be this inconsiderate, shallow and idiotic and i'm thankful that mine cares more about me than how i look. but to expect to live my life 10-15 pounds underweight, worrying everyday that someone will cast a disapproving eye towards me if i order anything more than a glass of water and a salad at a restuarant, is simply unrealistic.

you're too busy looking for others that will agree with you. but note they are agreeing that if you are not attracted to her, then you should not be with her. you're only dumping her because you think she's fat, and NOT because you're not attracted to her. look at yourself. you're the reason why there are eating disorders. why the perception is size zero or nothing. why the entire world is so obsessed with how fast denise richards lost her pregnancy weight or how skinny jessica simpson got for her latest movie role.

she's not your sweet heart. dump her. go for it. she doesn't deserve you, but someone that will appreciate her for the way you are. go ahead and list the other reasons why you don't like her. it will all stem from the fact that you have allowed your brain to rot with the idea "she's fat and i can't handle this. i can't be seen with this. it is so not cool and everyone will just think i only like fat chicks, and if i'm ever seen with her and a hot chick strolls by, she'll never give me the time of day."

impale yourself with a sword. or better yet, just stop posting.

You Just Got Fcking Owned!

 

[quakefiend420]

OP, just break up with her now...be sure that's what you want though...i broke up with my gf recently and...well, it may have been a mistake

of course i didn't break up with her for something that shallow :roll: