How do I tell my Highschool sweet heart GF that she is gotten too fat for me to stick around.

[Sixtyfour]

Leave her, she needs a man.

 

[The Green Bean]

polygamy!!

 

[Fritzo]

I'm going to get slammed, but after two kids and some serious back surgery, my wife gained 80 lbs and though I do love her, it's really difficult to keep the sexual desire there. She complains how she looks gross all the time (I would NEVER tell her that-I'm nothing but supportive), but has no will power to do anything about it (been trying diets and exercise for years). After we get our house, I'm thinking of getting her that lap-band surgery then we'll both feel better

Anyway, I feel really shallow for thinking like that, but it's something that can't be helped. I would never leave her over it, but we'd both like her to drop some pounds. She gets really jealous and insecure as well because I'm in great shape, fairly good looking, and work around some attractive females at the office. It kind of sucks sometimes when you have to worry that the wife isn't going to believe the truth about why you're late from the office. If she was able to feel better about herself, this behavior would probably go away.

 

[Saint Nick]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
I'm going to get slammed, but after two kids and some serious back surgery, my wife gained 80 lbs and though I do love her, it's really difficult to keep the sexual desire there. She complains how she looks gross all the time (I would NEVER tell her that-I'm nothing but supportive), but has no will power to do anything about it (been trying diets and exercise for years). After we get our house, I'm thinking of getting her that lap-band surgery then we'll both feel better

Anyway, I feel really shallow for thinking like that, but it's something that can't be helped. I would never leave her over it, but we'd both like her to drop some pounds. She gets really jealous and insecure as well because I'm in great shape, fairly good looking, and work around some attractive females at the office. It kind of sucks sometimes when you have to worry that the wife isn't going to believe the truth about why you're late from the office. If she was able to feel better about herself, this behavior would probably go away.

you know i never thought about that... but your situation is far more important. you are married. this guy is not.

 

[fjorner]

Smackem, you are a loser.

Please dump her. She's obviously way too good for you. She deserves MUCH better. Despite what you say, its obvious you don't love her anyway.

Mercy... I haven't seen a better example of callousness, shallowness and immaturity. You should be a case study.

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
I'm going to get slammed, but after two kids and some serious back surgery, my wife gained 80 lbs and though I do love her, it's really difficult to keep the sexual desire there. She complains how she looks gross all the time (I would NEVER tell her that-I'm nothing but supportive), but has no will power to do anything about it (been trying diets and exercise for years). After we get our house, I'm thinking of getting her that lap-band surgery then we'll both feel better

Anyway, I feel really shallow for thinking like that, but it's something that can't be helped. I would never leave her over it, but we'd both like her to drop some pounds. She gets really jealous and insecure as well because I'm in great shape, fairly good looking, and work around some attractive females at the office. It kind of sucks sometimes when you have to worry that the wife isn't going to believe the truth about why you're late from the office. If she was able to feel better about herself, this behavior would probably go away.

Wow, no comments from the peanut gallery that is ATOT. I'm stunned.:shocked:

I'm in a simular situation myself. My girl as gone from a size 6 to a 18 in the last 2 years or so.

 

[EyeMNathan]

It's a much different story when she is endangering her health. A gain of 80 pounds for any woman is very unhealthy. Or going from a size 6 to an 18.

 

[seanws]

are you high? she looks good in the picks and i cant imagine she looks any different with only a few lbs added

 

[CryHavoc]

This guy is thinking with the wrong head. Youth is sooo wasted on the young.

She is cute and will always be cute. Weight can be lost, your immaturaty might never go away

 

[sweeper2]

Originally posted by: EyeMNathan
If you don't care about her enough to look past a small weight gain, then you shouldnt be together in the first place. So, it needs to end, seriously, you aren't grown up enough for a _real_ relationship yet.

:thumbsup:

 

[Xyclone]

Lol, i thought the "fat" pic was the before one, and you were going to show her like 100 pounds more in the after pic.

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: Muadib
I'm in a simular situation myself. My girl as gone from a size 6 to a 18 in the last 2 years or so.

who cooks or buys the food that is in the cupboard/ pantry?

 

[Chrishuff1]

So, do I tell her? I always grab her fat and stuff, just to let her know that I am on to her and her getting fat ways. But these gentle fat grabs are not cuttin it. She needs to lose weight ASAP. I feel like I am out of her league :/.

You are a pathetic worthless piece of sh!t. Ya your out of her league! She deserves a much better person than you! Now I know why my gf thinks she's fat, its cause of assholes like yourself that tell them they are when infact they are perfect the way they are. You really should post a pic of her now so that we can see your lies about her looking hideously ugly.

 

[ng12345]

This has to be one of the funniest threads I've read.

Smackem, did you break up with that girl yet?

I'm just confused as to why you would post on AT ... need an ego boost?

 

[JulesMaximus]

If I could, I'd tell her to dump your self-absorbed sorry ass. You've gotten too self centered for her and pretty much anyone else to stick around.

Seriously, you might as well dump her. It's not going to work out anyway. Relationships usually start out because of a physical attraction. It's the other things that come later that make the relationship strong, like trust, respect, love, honesty...you clearly have none of those. Cut her loose now so she doesn't waste anymore of her life with you.

 

[Adul]

Originally posted by: Smackem
Okay, I had dated this girl for maybe 3-4 years off and on. She is smart, funny, would do anything for me, etc etc.

Someone posted these links, so Ill just use these:

• Sheusedtobecute.jpg
  both.jpg

I wana show yall the fat I am talking about. If people want it, i can show you, after I edit out the face and non-atot friendly body parts.

Its a camera phone, i just posted it to get the general idea of how she looked. That picture was taken like 2 years ago. She has since gained maybe 10-15 pounds. Not a WHOLE lot I know, But i wana nail hot chicks. She is no longer attractive to me. She is begning to .... look like her mother... *shudder*. I guess I knew this was a possibility all along. But it is time get the message across, that unless she wants to become as hot as she used to be, there is no place for her in my life.

That is based on some assumptions:
1. 1/3rd of an adult sexual relationship is based on... sex! If I can not have great sex with her anymore, maybe its time for her to go.
2. If I didn't know her and saw her at school/club/bar/gym I would not go up and hit on her. I would auctually make fun of the friend that did for talkin to a chud.


So what do you guys think. I am 21 btw. Older guys, please chime in. Esp. if you stuck with the chick who got fat and now you are miserable.

I can not tell her that she has gotten to fat out of fear of crushing her self esteem. That would be a horrible thing to do to the girl i (once) loved.


So, do I tell her? I always grab her fat and stuff, just to let her know that I am on to her and her getting fat ways. But these gentle fat grabs are not cuttin it. She needs to lose weight ASAP. I feel like I am out of her league :/.

Don't bother posting if its gonna sound something like 'you are shallow' etc etc. How could I ever be happy with the relationship if I am not happy with who she is? I would always be thinking about other chicks will i hump her.



So far, my method has been total avoidance. I had a big life changing event in my life happen and since then I have told her that I want to handle it(lifechanging event) by myself. Now I am avoiding her phone calls. I happened to see her at the pool, She caught me talking to a chick that was MUCH hotter than her. I freaked out and went and sat by my buddies, out of fear of her causin a scene. I then walked up to her and told her i needed time (stalled).


So naturally, after avoidin the problem as long as possible, I post on ATOT on how I should handle this problem. Maybe I should ask the UPS girl.(hahahha, btw, i have talked to other friends who say 'man my ups chick is so hot' turns out, she has a cult following.)



edit: maybe its more like 15-20 lbs. All I know is that it doesn't look well on her at all.
I am very thin and take much care to be that way.





edit: Keep in mind guys, that I can never have a HEALTHY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP if I am not SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to her. so, you tell me whats worse, me admitting I would never be happy and always fantasizing about other chicks? Or stopping the problem before it begins and give her (and me) a chance to go out and find someone that is better for each of us.


edit: I would post after pics, but I do not think they are appropriate for this forum. I will get a pic of her at the pool to prove to you guys how painfully unattractive she is now.

please just do us a favor and walk off a cliff.

 

[Preyhunter]

Originally posted by: Smackem
How do I tell my Highschool sweet heart GF that she is gotten too fat for me to stick around.

'Sup fatty, breakup?

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: aidanjm

Originally posted by: Muadib
I'm in a simular situation myself. My girl as gone from a size 6 to a 18 in the last 2 years or so.

who cooks or buys the food that is in the cupboard/ pantry?

Most of the weight was because she was on medication, but the diet is crap too. We eat out or have stuff delivered about 5 days out of the week. It never bothered me before though, because I rode my bike to stay in shape. I can't say that now.

 

[XNice]

people get too worked up over this, jesus... no one cares about your winy girlfriends that need to lose weight and are too lazy to do it. with obvious exceptions to the rule. she is still fat, fat is fat. some people consider it sexy, some people dont. more people dont, get over it...

 

[Otaking]

Originally posted by: sonz70

Originally posted by: Smackem

Okay, I had dated this girl for maybe 3-4 years off and on. She is smart, funny, would do anything for me, etc etc.

The girl I liked.

Its a camera phone, i just posted it to get the general idea of how she looked. That picture was taken like 2 years ago. She has since gained maybe 10-15 pounds. Not a WHOLE lot I know, But i wana nail hot chicks. She is no longer attractive to me. She is begning to .... look like her mother... *shudder*. I guess I knew this was a possibility all along. But it is time get the message across, that unless she wants to become as hot as she used to be, there is no place for her in my life.

That is based on some assumptions:
1. 1/3rd of an adult sexual relationship is based on... sex! If I can not have great sex with her anymore, maybe its time for her to go.
2. If I didn't know her and saw her at school/club/bar/gym I would not go up and hit on her. I would auctually make fun of the friend that did for talkin to a chud.


So what do you guys think. I am 21 btw. Older guys, please chime in. Esp. if you stuck with the chick who got fat and now you are miserable.

I can not tell her that she has gotten to fat out of fear of crushing her self esteem. That would be a horrible thing to do to the girl i (once) loved.

Just an observation, not saying you are shallow, but you never loved her if you can leave her for this. So it might help if you realise that

Oh sh!t, pwned by sonz70. :Q

 

[Soggysocks]

Originally posted by: Smackem

Originally posted by: Nebor
If you're not attracted to her anymore, that's that. Dump her. It doesn't matter if you're shallow, or she's fat. That's irrelevant. You don't want her anymore, so get rid of her.

Ignore all the people in here who would rather "settle."

I knew it all along, I just had to have someone tell me. I can't beilive someone on ATOT told me though.

I think you need to grow-up a bit. Your pubie hair and pimples are showing.

 

[Xyl3ne]

I know someone already said this, but she can call me!

 

[Smackem]

Yea, so I broke it off with her. Someone tell me how to ignore a user!


Ill keep you posted, There is a new girl around, and she is HOT. and wieghs like 105lbs.

 

[mi xiao]

you're being an idiot.

i'm sure this girl is nice will find someone better she deserves.
10-15 lbs is not a big deal.
100 is.
grow up.

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: Smackem
Yea, so I broke it off with her. Someone tell me how to ignore a user!


Ill keep you posted, There is a new girl around, and she is HOT. and wieghs like 105lbs.

It took 400 posts but I figured it out. You're an attention whore. All these people telling you what a shallow and worthless human being you are and you still keep posting (almost bragging) about the vain and pathetic activities you're up to.

No such thing as bad publicity eh?