How do you feel about?

[YJK76]

How do you feel about?

Your S.O. partying/clubbing/hanging out until really late (2-5 AM)

1. Without you?
2. Without you when it?s a LD relationship where there?s a heavier strain (?) on trust?
3. With mostly friends of the opposite sex (your S.O. has mostly friends of the opposite sex)?
4. With mostly friends of the opposite sex when he/she admitted to you that he/she has a tendency to seek attention/acceptance from the opposite sex?
5. With mostly friends of the opposite sex when he/she admitted to you that he/she has a tendency to seek attention/acceptance from the opposite sex and it was discussed between you two that you yourself have a trust issue stemmed from past experiences (meaning you have a difficulty fully trusting people)?

How would you approach these issues?
What would you do?
Would you limit your S.O.?s going out? Curfew? Filter out some of the opposite sex friends he/she might have when most of his/her friends are of the opposite sex?
When is it compromising for the sake of the relationship and when is it overly controlling?

 

[seanws]

its called trust, look into it.

anyways, i have my life, she has hers, and we have ours. we've both made it perfectly clear we dont want anyone else, and wouldnt screw up what we have. i say let her go

 

[Shawn]

your girlfriend is a whore

 

[SacrosanctFiend]

My fiancee is free to do what she wants, and she does. I really couldn't care less. There's this thing called trust, and it tends to be a necessity in successful relationships. You can't try and control a person, only accept them.

 

[KarenMarie]

Sure, tell her that she is not allowed out, and that if she does go, she has to be home by 11:00PM and most importantly that she is not allowed to even talk to other guys... hahaha!!

J/K
Seriously.. a LD relationship is hard enough without being in it with someone who needs attention/acceptance from the opposite sex.

 

[NorthRiver]

Originally posted by: Shawn
your girlfriend is a whore

Yes

 

I couldn't care less.

BTW, you're in a long distance relationship and worrying about this stuff, she has already cheated on you, has been for some time, and will continue to.

You're blind, give up, find someone else.

 

[TheLonelyPhoenix]

1. I'd let her do what she wanted. If I felt that I couldn't trust her, I wouldn't be going out with her.
2. See #1.
3. See #1.
4. See #1.
5. See #1.

 

[EvilYoda]

These guys keep mentioning "trust"...must be a reason for it.

Granted, I trusted my ex so much that it came around to bite me in the ass, but I'd rather be too trusting than paranoid all the time and too protective.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: SampSon
I couldn't care less.

BTW, you're in a long distance relationship and worrying about this stuff, she has already cheated on you, has been for some time, and will continue to.

You're blind, give up, find someone else.

*cough* Wow, the power of ATOT cynicism rears its experienced head once again.

 

[Conky]

If they are wanting to go out and get drunk/party with members of the opposite sex until the wee hours don't be surprised when they "get drunk and accidentally fvck someone else".

If they were committed to the relationship they wouldn't play those dangerous games.

That's my 2 cents.

 

[imported_nerve]

Put her on a leash and tie her out in the backyard


edit:
that reminds me! gotta go get her food ready!

 

[tami]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Sure, tell her that she is not allowed out, and that if she does go, she has to be home by 11:00PM and most importantly that she is not allowed to even talk to other guys... hahaha!!

J/K
Seriously.. a LD relationship is hard enough without being in it with someone who needs attention/acceptance from the opposite sex.

cheating seems to occur more often than not in the second scenario, and i'm a witness to that even without an imposed curfew. LD relationships are very fragile in that regard.

 

[RelaxTheMind]

give her herpes

 

[faenix]

Originally posted by: Shawn
your girlfriend is a whore

 

[her209]

I've done the long distance thing... didn't work out.

 

[SacrosanctFiend]

Originally posted by: her209
I've done the long distance thing... didn't work out.

Almost never does.

 

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: SampSon
I couldn't care less.

BTW, you're in a long distance relationship and worrying about this stuff, she has already cheated on you, has been for some time, and will continue to.

You're blind, give up, find someone else.

*cough* Wow, the power of ATOT cynicism rears its experienced head once again.

What? I gave him my answer. I couldn't care less if my SO goes out and does that, the answer is I don't care to all of thoes questions. I have the experience, plenty of it. I'm old enough to maintain a mature relationship and rely on trust.

From what I draw from the post, the cirumstance is very stereotypical. If he's long distance he cannot control the situation or his girlfriend. Setting a curfew? Gimmie a break, if my gf told me right now that she is imposing a curfew on me, I would laugh hysterically and go get some beer.

Cynicism is reality, deal with it.

 

[Sheepathon]

she's having sex with someone. right now.

 

[spaceman]

it isnt allowed.

 

[PingSpike]

1. Occasionally...but like all the time? I'm not a clubbing person really, but the idea of a bunch of guys trying to grind her on the dance floor doesn't really appeal to me.
2. Invalid Parameter: "LD Relationship" Execution Halted.

 

[asm0deus]

i wouldnt like that even if it was not a LD relationship, my weakness is maturity though, so im looking for chicks who have outgrown that to a certain extent. More trouble than it's worth usually

 

[StageLeft]

If Mrsskoorb did it I'd be fine. But, if I had a SO and the relationship was as spelled out in the first post I'd probably just forget her and find somebody who's not an attention seeking likely cheater.

 

[purbeast0]

Originally posted by: her209
I've done the long distance thing... didn't work out.

ditto.

 

[stag3]

to get even, go have a fling