Seriously. I'm tired of the drama. WAHHHH. Grow a spine and stand by your wife-to-be as she tells her family to GTFO.
Man up, and support your wife-to-be.
This drama is going to be on-going for the rest of your married life. If you can't cope, this is the time to back out.
they're Spanish and you didn't see this coming?
they're Spanish and you didn't see this coming?
What are you implying?
Life as you knew it is over. Embrace la familia. You're just getting a classic case of cold feet.
So, on Monday, I was came home and the first words that come out of my fiancee's mouth was, "My dad is coming at midnight tonight". OK...no one told me this or even asked if it was OK. As much as my fiancee agreed with me, we both came to the conclusion that it is her dad (and mom, who came a month earlier, with our permission, to help with wedding planning) and that we will allow it since it is just for the wedding (which is in 2 weeks). On Tuesday, I came home, the first person to give me a hug was her brother. Ummm...ok, no one said you were coming. I did not mind until I saw his suit case in the corner. WTF? He just showed up. Did not ask me or my fiancee.
Remember, I live in Cambridge in a 1 bed room apt. The apt is not big my any means. In fact, her brother is sleeping on the floor. Aside from living on top of each other for the past 4 days, I can already see the food expenses going through the roof. My stress level is pretty high right now and my fiancee and I have been arguing non stop about how we are going to handle this. It has got to the point where I purposely stay late at work to just not deal with "home" (if you can call it that anymore). Then I keep getting these requests to be a taxi. WTF!!! We live in the goddam city. Take the T.
Then, last night, it was the cherry on top. My fiancee's dad does not know that I understand Spanish pretty well, so he does the "well, the chino does not understand so i will just speak in my native tongue" attitude. Apparently, he was talking to his son in Spanish and he told him that he wanted to work for 4 months here before going back to South America and he plans to live in my place for 4 months (rent free of course).
It just kind of pisses me off. You can't just show up and expect me to cater towards you just because I am marrying your sister or daughter. What pisses me off even more is that her sister asked if she could stay with us during the wedding. I said no because it would include her, her husband and two kids. There is not enough room. Now, I feel stupid because I said no to her because of space constraints but I am just dealing with the space constraints anyways. To add insult to injury, her sister has no money for a hotel and no where to stay during the wedding. Her brother and parents, on the hand, have offers from other family to stay at other families' places and they even have money to pay for the expense of a hotel.
I do no want to be mean to them, but dam...they are stressing me out beyond belief. Mi Casa Su Casa? Not anymore, not after this....
//rant
Oh....i love them all to death...some in a unique way...
What are you implying?
Hispanic/latino in-laws/extended families are inconsiderate and cheap.
Don't plan on recieving any wedding gifts from her family.
I have already come to those terms. My side is chinese. You have not seen cheap until you see traditional chinese.
Man up, and support your wife-to-be.
This drama is going to be on-going for the rest of your married life. If you can't cope, this is the time to back out.
Oh, look, it's the little misandrist, telling any man to eat all of his wife's and in-laws' shit.
I think you missed part of the story. She's telling her relatives to back off, which is exactly what the OP wants her to do.
What part of that is "eating shit"?
You're right, I guess that's why they've been arguing nonstop?
Actually, where did she tell her family to back off. All I'm seeing is she convinced the OP to allow her dad to stay as well and they've been arguing about it after the brother showed up. In no way does it appear like she's doing anything but trying to convince the OP to just let them for now. The fiancee might be claiming that she didn't know about the brother, but if that were the case, he should not have come home to the brother with his suit case inside, and it should have been made clear that they need to make other arrangements for him.