Most employers are like the above, whether they mean to be or not. You can play the game, or you can seriously tone down your hopes of advancement within that company.
On a serious note, getting to interact with superiors in a social environment is an absolute "can't miss" opportunity for anyone in their 20s or 30s.
Right or wrong, managerial decisions often take into account factors other than performance. I have found myself doing it, and I know for a fact I have received treatment that is different than more experienced or tenured employees because I hit golf balls with the boss after work on a Friday.
My last employer would promote the clueless idiots who sucked up and back stabbed over anyone else.
Most employers are like the above, whether they mean to be or not. You can play the game, or you can seriously tone down your hopes of advancement within that company.
My last employer promoted someone far less qualified over me earlier this year. I gave the CIO an ultimatum, they wouldn't meet my demands, and I basically told them to go fuck themselves as I took a new job for 70% more money. That's how you play the game.
Nicely done.
70% wtf? And I thought my 50% was crazy.
You were either grossly, disgustingly underpaid or been long overdue for a new job that also move you up.
I did say "advancement within that company," ideally we could all do what you did. Most people aren't half that lucky, so we suck it up until we can either find or make our own luck.
I was underpaid but also caught a really lucky break and everything fell into place.
Congrats mofo! :beer;
Mind if I ask what you're doing now? Still pursuing PM position or IT lead/manager?
It is pathetic, but many companies take these things seriously and judge you if you don't go. My philosophy was that I'd attend an event if it were during business hours (last company had Xmas parties during the day) but if they were on my own time, I wouldn't go. One company had formal Christmas parties where you were expected to wear a suit or tux and I never went to crap like that.
My last employer promoted someone far less qualified over me earlier this year. I gave the CIO an ultimatum, they wouldn't meet my demands, and I basically told them to go fuck themselves as I took a new job for 70% more money. That's how you play the game.
This. It is not uncommon to work 60-70 hours a week so my personal time is important to me. This years party was after work hours and about 25 miles away so when asked if I was going the answer was "nope!". Even the owners have not been at the last few parties so no worries there, besides their offices are just down the hallway from mine and I interact with them almost every day so who cares what anyone else thinks.
i believe i read in a previous post of yours, but didn't you go from being an employee of a company to a contractor position?
Most employers are like the above, whether they mean to be or not. You can play the game, or you can seriously tone down your hopes of advancement within that company.
Yep
Where I'm at right now people that do nothing get promoted raises, while people that bust their ass become the peasants/treated like crap/2nd class citizens.
Shit is backwards
At my last job, the only negative thing they could say about me was: "You need to socialize with your coworkers more." In this case, he was referring to another group in another building that had completely different responsibilities and was composed of incompetent idiots. That kind of "feedback" was all the confirmation I needed that the manager was an incompetent boob.
EDIT: To be clear, that was on my last review. I was speechless at the level of stupidity.