how many of you have a gf/bf/wife/husband & why do married people say its so bad?

[aUt0eXebat]

and why do all the married people talk like being married is so bad?

 

[Linflas]

I don't really know. I have been married 16 years and am very happy.

 

[vthorts]

I have had a gf for over 4 1/2 years and I joke about not wanting to get married, but I really think it is because it scares the s&*t out of me!

 

[Shy]

4 and a half years? Wow... waiting for the half a decade mark to ask this girl?

-Shy

 

[Carbo]

<< and why do all the married people talk like being married is so bad? >>

Walk a mile in my shoes, pal..........

 

[NuclearNed]

Been married 7 years. It's not bad - it's great. I think some people are afraid of commitment. Being married means that you will have to give up some aspects of your single life. Neither of these things are bad.

 

[huanaku]

I love being married

 

[StageLeft]

waiting for the half a decade mark to ask this girl?


heh - I did. Been good so far but thats only a little over 3 months.

I think a lot of marriages suck because the people either rush into it or get married when in fact they should have broken up. After two years its a habit and if you're of marriage age sometimes it just seems the right thing to do...but really it isn't. People get too scared to break up so they get married instead.

 

[Zipp]

I heard this from someone,kinda funny

&quot;It's funny,when your a teenager you just can't wait till your over 18 and get out on your own and away from your parents rules and restrictions and not have to ask anyone if you can do this or that and go anywhere you want and just be independant. Then you go off and meet someone and get married some years later and your back to where you started from&quot;

 

[goshdarnindie]

I've been dating for 8 months now. When we are both ready in a few years, we'll probably tie the knot, and we're looking forward to it.

 

[miniMUNCH]

Been married for two years and absolutely love it...

But then again...my wife is super hot, intelligent, and and really spunky/creative...so we have a lot of fun.

I think they are several keys to marriage...this is just my opinion:

Selflessness - gota live for one another and make the choice to live that way every single day

Religion - I think having a moral religious focus in your realtionship is very important, if not a religion then I think you need to at least have a shared vision to pursue.

Time - gotta spend quality time together, my wife and I don't even own a TV because it wastes time.

Low Stress and Rest - Stay outta debt (lots of stress in this one) and don't slave away at the office...in the immortal scheme the things, it will not matter whether you drove a Civic or a 325is. Live within your means and save money in Mutual Fund for the future/retirement. It is actually fun and even addicting to watch your savings grow...from 1,000 to 5k to 10k to 25k to 50k to 80k and so on...

Stay physically fit - can't stress this one enough...sexual attraction really is important in marriage. I'd still love my wife regardless of her weight or looks (at this point, maybe not when we first met). But the fact that she is a hotty is such a big plus...coming home from work is always the best part of my day...except for bedtime. Same goes for me...I've maintained my 31&quot; waist and will continue to lift weights to increase my muscular size and fitness. I'm naturally on the skinny side so it's been a real chore but I'm up to 190-195lbs @ 8-10% body fat (I'm about 6'1-6'2&quot.

Also, being physically fit has many other effects: you get more respect, get paid better, promoted faster, have more energy, etc.


I think if your missing a few of the above components, then marriage will suck.