How much for Engagement Ring?

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: binister

Originally posted by: NFS4
On the phone talking with the GF. She wants a simple, plain ring and a not so big diamond. And she stated over and over and over AND OVER that she DOES NOT want me to spend a lot of money.

I love this woman!

Again, "a lot of money" is subjective.

how is $2k not "a lot" of money for MOST people?

and NFS4 - you know that means more pics of the future mrs, right? congrats!

 

[judasmachine]

Originally posted by: Josh123
Just curious about how much some of you guys spent?

Just get her one she'll like. I assume since you're proposing you already know her tastes. The tradition of blowing so many month's worth of salary is for the birds, and whipped.

/rant

Now I spend like $20 having my grandmother's ring cleaned.

 

[FP]

Originally posted by: Fenixgoon

Originally posted by: binister

Originally posted by: NFS4
On the phone talking with the GF. She wants a simple, plain ring and a not so big diamond. And she stated over and over and over AND OVER that she DOES NOT want me to spend a lot of money.

I love this woman!

Again, "a lot of money" is subjective.

how is $2k not "a lot" of money for MOST people?

and NFS4 - you know that means more pics of the future mrs, right? congrats!

Ugh, who ever said anything about "most people?'

If NFS4 makes $200,000 a year $2,000 is not "a lot of money."

 

[SaoFeng]

i spent 10k on mine.

 

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

I bought my wife a titanium pressure mount ring with a moissanite stone. It's beautiful, she loves it, and it wasn't that much at all. Maybe $600 or so. My wedding ring is a titanium (high-grade) plane ring iwth a moissanite stone flush mounted (embedded in the ring).

 

[HamSupLo]

blood diamonds!

 

[Ophir]

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: NFS4
So the more money you spend, the more you are committed to a person? That's bullsh!t. If I spend $1,000 on a ring and my roommate spends $12,500 on his ring, that doesn't make my commitment any less genuine, serious or real.

Even if I were to spend $500, I don't think it should matter. My dad spent VERY LITTLE on my mom's ring and they didn't even have a honeymoon. But he did use the money he did have to buy their first house which they moved into right after they got married.

So b/c my dad didn't spend a lot of money on the ring, does his "commitment" mean less?

Are you intentionally being dense or what? Let me paint a picture for you because you are missing my point which does not resemble what you wrote above.

If you make a reasonable amount of money and propose with some cheap as hell ring despite the fact that you can afford a pretty nice one comfortably, what do you think that's going to say to the girl you want to marry?

You can argue all you want that it's a meaningless symbol blah blah blah, but if you show up looking like a cheapskate, it's not going to impress upon someone that you are actually committed to them. I can't speak to your dad's situation but if he was loaded and spent nothing on the engagement ring then I would call him a cheapskate.

I never said you have to spend $13,000 but if you spend a ridiculously low amount then you are missing part of the point of the tradition. Why bother buying a ring at all at that point? Just propose without one. Maybe you can put a wheat thin in the box.

As for the "girl contributes nothing"... go ahead and try to win that battle. Good luck. "will you marry me? yes? Ok, I need you to buy me a new computer then."

You make me laugh. You apparently equate money with love. Marriage isn't a damn loan in which you guarantee your loyalty with collateral. By the time you propose, there should be enough there in the relationship that she'll say yes even if you put a wheat thin in the box.

The proposal isn't a time to win her over with an expensive gesture. If it is, then you've either proposed to a greedy bitch or the relationship is not on solid enough ground to pursue marriage. A horrible situation whichever way you look at it.

Politics aside, if you can afford it then spoil her. Spend $100K if you wish. If not, then don't. At that point she should understand the situation and your reasoning. Spending $5000 (one month net salary) on a ring when you're trying to save for a house, retirement, emergencies, travel, etc. is a stupid idea.

A diamond is a very nice gift, not a dealbreaker.

 

[f1sh3r]

moissanite ftw. i didnt go that route, but its definitely an awesome money saver. i think mine was around $1300, which was a lot for me working part time in college... its a Leo. ahhhh... boy. i hate jewelry.

 

[silverpig]

White gold + .48 ct total weight with a .25 ct center stone for $1400 CAD.

She's really happy, her friends are impressed. I guess I'm in the good.

 

[shopbruin]

Originally posted by: mooncancook
around 1400 for a decent .53 diamond and 200 for a cheap white gold ring. Luckily my wife does not have thick fingers so a half carat looks good on her.

that's what i told the bf and i even put on a one carat one to show him how it dwarfed my fingers.

too bad i had to just love the setting that cost 2k. oh well it's still a while away.

 

[EPCrew]

Originally posted by: NFS4
My roommate spent $12,500 on his engagement ring for his woman. **Shakes head**

Nothing wrong with that really as long as you're comfortable with it. I would also be spending just as much but it helps that my gf has family in the diamond business. I recently found out that a very good friend of mine paid about 60k for his wife's ring. But he also makes enough to afford it.

 

[Triumph]

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: NFS4
So the more money you spend, the more you are committed to a person? That's bullsh!t. If I spend $1,000 on a ring and my roommate spends $12,500 on his ring, that doesn't make my commitment any less genuine, serious or real.

Even if I were to spend $500, I don't think it should matter. My dad spent VERY LITTLE on my mom's ring and they didn't even have a honeymoon. But he did use the money he did have to buy their first house which they moved into right after they got married.

So b/c my dad didn't spend a lot of money on the ring, does his "commitment" mean less?

Are you intentionally being dense or what? Let me paint a picture for you because you are missing my point which does not resemble what you wrote above.

If you make a reasonable amount of money and propose with some cheap as hell ring despite the fact that you can afford a pretty nice one comfortably, what do you think that's going to say to the girl you want to marry?

You can argue all you want that it's a meaningless symbol blah blah blah, but if you show up looking like a cheapskate, it's not going to impress upon someone that you are actually committed to them. I can't speak to your dad's situation but if he was loaded and spent nothing on the engagement ring then I would call him a cheapskate.

I never said you have to spend $13,000 but if you spend a ridiculously low amount then you are missing part of the point of the tradition. Why bother buying a ring at all at that point? Just propose without one. Maybe you can put a wheat thin in the box.

As for the "girl contributes nothing"... go ahead and try to win that battle. Good luck. "will you marry me? yes? Ok, I need you to buy me a new computer then."

You say that as if there's something wrong with being a cheapskate?

 

[kevman]