How shameful is living at home for a man at what age?

[alkemyst]

Easy old man. Just because you turned out to be a failure doesn't mean young hamburger must suffer the same fate.

Sorry I forgot you have bigger thighs than most NFL players.

Please don't hurt me, bro.

 

[GagHalfrunt]

Shame not found. If he's working steadily and doing it for the obvious financial benefits, then why not? If he's cool with it and his parents are cool with it then everybody wins. I imagine it's kind of a drawback to his dating life though, the line "your place or my parents place" just doesn't quite cut it.

 

[alkemyst]

Way to make everything about yourself again. I wasn't even talking about you; everyone knows that in your relationship, you are the one giving out the bennies to your squeeze.

And you're one to talk about not having a penny, lol.

My squeeze has been making $20/hr for a while.

Not sure what you have blocking your eyesight here.

Regardless to that, why would it matter?

Post up your awesome accomplishments.

Probably be chapstick, anal lube and a bus pass.

 

[pcgeek11]

We have had an ongoing debate over how shameful living at home is.

He makes 120+ range.

(we are both 33)

Anyway my friend owns an s2000 a Mercedes c class and us ordering a 2015 m3.

That and he says "its socially acceptable now since lots of people moved home during the recession so its not as weird".

But he should move out right?

I left in the points that are applicable.

He makes 120K Plus a year, he is 33 years old and owns three cars two of which are fairly expensive IMO. He thinks that it is acceptable to live at home with his parents.

First I think there is something wrong with wanting to live with your parents at that age. Like he has some mental issues with moving out. That being said it is their choice to make. I do feel like he should be paying generously to live there. If he isn't paying his share then I think he is really screwed up.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

My squeeze has been making $20/hr for a while.

Not sure what you have blocking your eyesight here.

Regardless to that, why would it matter?

Post up your awesome accomplishments.

Probably be chapstick, anal lube and a bus pass.

You've bragged many times about the things you have purchased for your new family. How are my eyes bad here? Again, you keep dodging the question. How does NOT having a gf/wife indicate financial issues?

 

[alkemyst]

You've bragged many times about the things you have purchased for your new family. How are my eyes bad here? Again, you keep dodging the question. How does NOT having a gf/wife indicate financial issues?

There have been single guys that fail, much like yourself.

 

[brianmanahan]

There have been single guys that fail, much like yourself.

but plenty of other single guys that manage to save a million or two by their mid-to-late 40's, and can do whatever the heck they want then

that is my goal

 

[HamburgerBoy]

There have been single guys that fail, much like yourself.

How would finding a girlfriend help my financial situation? I easily put 95% of my graduate stipend into the bank every year. Even if I found a similarly stingy gf and we split rent and all expenses evenly, there's no way I'd be coming out ahead with how little I make every year for teaching and research.

 

[OILFIELDTRASH]

but plenty of other single guys that manage to save a million or two by their mid-to-late 40's, and can do whatever the heck they want then

that is my goal

So you're gonna wait till you're 45 to start living life? You also think that magically everything will change once you're rich?

 

[brianmanahan]

So you're gonna wait till you're 45 to start living life?

oh i live life now, i just find ways to do it on 30$k per year. don't have to go all baller to have fun.

You also think that magically everything will change once you're rich?

nah, but it'll be less stressful and i will have more time to do more things i want to do (hiking, biking, cheap trips, cheap golfing)

wife and kids would probably push that date back 20 years

 

[Capt Caveman]

OP is your friend single? I wouldn't want to live at home b/c I like my freedom and women.

 

[solsa]

Live with parents? Good idea for saving tons of money.
Spend money on expensive car and live with parents? I don't know... You've got to have a life of your own before you have a car.
The things I've learned by not living with my parents is worth several Mercedes cars.

 

[Merad]

Speaking as someone who lived at home most of the time until age 28:

If you go the normal route of finishing college directly after high school (meaning you graduate by 22-23) there's nothing wrong with moving home to save money, but if you stay there much past 25 it would be a red flag to me that something's wrong.

I stayed at home so long because I was working and saving money to go back to school. If I'd known then what I know now, I would have just gone back 3-4 years earlier and eaten more student loans. Would've been worth it.

 

[Fritzo]

Why would that hint at financial disaster? Maybe they just have a shitton saved up in the bank.

If they did, they would either move out or be taking care of their parents.

 

[splat_ed]

I moved to university at 17, been pretty much independent since. I would have been able to save more money had I stayed at home but the experience was definately worth it. Ultimately it's up to him. If he's not just mooching, and everyone's happy then go for it. Different strokes for different people and all that!

 

[HamburgerBoy]

If they did, they would either move out or be taking care of their parents.

Why? A nice down payment on a home isn't cheap.

 

[frostedflakes]

Don't see the big deal. Kind of shitty IMO if he's making $120k+/year and has cars and other expensive toys, but isn't at least helping out with the mortgage if there is one, property taxes, groceries, utilities, etc. But just my two cents, and he may help out with other stuff around the house. Obviously the parents are OK with the arrangement which is all that matters, otherwise he wouldn't still be living there.

 

[Hugh Jass]

It's amazing how many people think their opinions about how others live their lives should really matter to anyone but themselves.

Mind your own damn business and let the man and his family live how they choose...it has no bearing on you.

 

[zerocool84]

Whatever works, though personally when I got old enough to go live on my own I could not wait to move out and have my own independence but I knew I had to finish school and get a job before doing that. I graduated at 21 and got a full time job then saved up for a house and moved out at 23.

If I was making over 100k I would have been out much sooner than that. Maybe he's saving up to buy a house cash to avoid all the interest. Making that kind of money, may as well. If he's helping support family then I don't see it as being shameful.

Well the guy in the OP is obviously not saving up to buy a house. He's buy expensive car after expensive car.

 

[T9D]

It's only pathetic when the kids just float through in life and piss around with no real goal. No aspirations. And a burden on others. Which is a lot of adult kids that live at home. They basically want to just go out and play. And have no worries about anything. Don't want the necessary life burdens that all of us have to learn to deal and cope with.

However it can be a great idea. If your parents like having you around, you enrich their lives, and/or help them out. And you are saving up money to get ahead and eventually get a house of your own and actually have a long term goal.

 

[Imp]

It's amazing how many people think their opinions about how others live their lives should really matter to anyone but themselves.

Mind your own damn business and let the man and his family live how they choose...it has no bearing on you.

You shouldn't be amazed... Just see your political parties (all of them) and government.

 

[Mai72]

Because at some point you lose out on too much of life by living at home. While with your parents it's much harder to make new friends, find potential girlfriends or boyfriends, and get out of your comfort zone. Moving out is very good for building character and allowing a person to figure out how they want to live their life.

The one caveat is that you need a stable foundation before leaving or its not worth it. For me the balance was living at home until all my student debt was paid off and I had a solid high paying career(3 years).

I agree with what you said. Living st home is fine but if you stay at home for too long you do miss out on what life offers. You never experience how to live thru difficult times. How can you when mommy is cooking hot meals for you? Also, waiting for your parents to die so you can get the house is f**kin grim. What if they live another 20 years?

Women still find it unattractive for a grown man to be living with his parents for a long time . Unless you're taking care of mom because she has a terminal illness its going to be hard to convince a woman that your intentions are good. If she is sympathetic I guarantee you that her tune will change if after a year you're still at home. If it's serious she's going to want you to move out and start a family on your own.

OP's friend makes $120k a year. I don't care where you live That's still a lot of money. Are you telling me that he can't find a rental?

I don't know Op's friend and I'm not here to judge. It's his life and if he's happy than that's great. To me, life is about experiences. I might not have the high salary that he has, but when I'm on my deathbed I can say that I've traveled and lived around the world. Money is fine but you're not taking any of it with you.

 

[Mai72]

It's amazing how many people think their opinions about how others live their lives should really matter to anyone but themselves.

Mind your own damn business and let the man and his family live how they choose...it has no bearing on you.

His life was put on an internet forum. This is what happens. If you don't want to read opinions from other people then don't put it out there!

 

[Mai72]

Loser. Sorry but its the truth. What self respecting woman wants a momma's boy with a fancy car and no balls? He's missing out on life simple as that.

It get more difficult as you get older. You become set in your ways. I guess it happens to most of us.

In the beginning you're that good looking guy who flirts with all the fly hunnies. You make friends very easily Then, you become the old geezer who has his curtains drawn masterbating furiously to a copy of a Sears woman's catalog you found in the trash.

 

[Meghan54]

All I have to say is.....

OP, could you write your topic's title any worse?

How shameful is living at home for a man at what age?


That "sentence" would be much better written as:

At what age would it be shameful for a man to live at home?