How to dump her

[BrianH1]

"Dont give me the its not you its me speech baby! I invented it's not you its me!" ~George Costanza

 

[alm4rr]

i'd say hold out until late jan, but you graduate in may?
no way i'd stick around that long if i was miserable
better chance of being friends with her parents if the relationship doesn't go nuclear

 

[Papagayo]

Stop doing her chores.. make her dump you..

 

[TUKIN18S]

Originally posted by: Papagayo
Stop doing her chores.. make her dump you..

I'm in the same damn boat. I have tried the above, and she is still around. At least she has picked up some of the work around the house. I have been with mine for about 4 years now, and am glad I haven't been sucked into the engagment vortex. We barely ever have sex, she has also gained probably 30 pounds since we met. She used to be about 105 now she is tetering around 130. I'm not sure what to do. I agree that I get along better with her family than I do her too. It just seems like we are in the same situation.

I also don't want to do it because I can't afford to. She pays half the rent, I wouldn't be able to afford it on my own and I have a 4 year old son (previous relationship) that needs his own room. If I didn't have two car payments I think I would dump her in a heartbeat. I don't know what to do either

Another thing, if we ever do break up, we have the same friends. It would be totally awkward. I would have to just stay away for awhile I guess.

:edited for spelling:

 

[purbeast0]

some of you are a bunch of pvssies.

just tell her you don't want to be with her, holy fvck it's not that hard.

well yea it is hard, but no matter what you do or say its going to be hard. and the more and more you keep making up these excuses, like "she got me a gift for xmas i cant do it now", "her dad got me a job for when i graduate, i cant do it just yet", the more and more you are going to put it off and you will never get ouf of the relationship.

i had to break up with my high-school sweetheart after like 5 years ... it was not easy! but i sat down and just told her straight up. when i was done and walked in my door, i balled crying because i couldn't believe what i had done, although i knew it was definitely for the best.

and now a few years later, i'm in a great relationship w/my current GF, and i am %100 open with her and tell her exactly how i feel. just TALK TO YOUR GIRL.

 

[geno]

I just broke up with my GF of 4 years, it was a gradual thing - and one night during an argument she asked me if I was thinking we needed time apart and I said yes, I do, and I'm taking it.

 

[Excelsior]

You should just tell her you are sick of dealing with her ******.

 

[bugle25]

Sounds like "Days of Our Lives". What I would do, is do what girls do. Tell her you just want to be friends.

 

[Stuxnet]

There's no such thing as "time apart". No relationship can recover from one of the people saying "I just need you to fsck off for awhile".

The truth is, once the idea of "time apart" is out in the open, the damage is done and it's a lost cause. Besides, two people who are truly compatible with one another don't need "time apart". If they do, they weren't compatible in the first place.

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: bugle25
What I would do, is do what girls do. Tell her you just want to be friends.

Or bang her best friend in one of the wildest, most filthy sexual acts that human history has ever witnessed.

Either way.

 

[Tremulant]

Originally posted by: bugle25
Sounds like "Days of Our Lives". What I would do, is do what girls do. Tell her you just want to be friends.

Tell her that you just want to be friends, but the kind of friends that you see once or twice a year and just say 'hey' to, promising to get together sometime to do something, but never get around to actually doing anything with them.

 

[ragazzo]

Like purbeast said, TALK TO HER. Just because she's getting lazy, doesn't mean you should dump her. Dump her only when you two can't work something out or there's no more love between you two.

 

[theatmguy]

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: bugle25
What I would do, is do what girls do. Tell her you just want to be friends.

Or bang her best friend in one of the wildest, most filthy sexual acts that human history has ever witnessed.

Either way.

Like this friend? And yes the head is cut off because I'm a paranoid schizo. friend.jpg

I'll pretend I'm kidding for just a second.

Okay.

Maybe I'm not kidding.

 

[Tremulant]

Originally posted by: theatmguy

Originally posted by: jbourne77

Originally posted by: bugle25
What I would do, is do what girls do. Tell her you just want to be friends.

Or bang her best friend in one of the wildest, most filthy sexual acts that human history has ever witnessed.

Either way.

Like this friend? And yes the head is cut off because I'm a paranoid schizo. friend.jpg

I'll pretend I'm kidding for just a second.

Okay.

Maybe I'm not kidding.

yes.

 

[Lola]

For your sake and hers, don't keep dragging things out. That is just wrong and hurtful.

It will get worse and harder as time goes on.

If you have talked about breaking it off mutually, then do it. Do it nicely. don't call names or anything.

Just tell her it is not working out.

In regards to the job and her/her parents, you will just have to deal with that. Sure you might run in to them around town, but why keep yourself and (the way it sounds) her miserable as well.

Good Luck. something like this is never easy, but don't drag it out just beacuse she got you a nice gift or you like her parents. It will hurt at first, but the quicker it is done, the quicker the healing process can begin.

 

[GroundZero]

just kick her to the curb.
yo, fatass, hit the bricks biotch.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Well if it's time to end things, then it's time to end things. But I'd give her a choice. Change things or it's over.

 

[CaptnKirk]

Then

Now

 

[EmperorIQ]

Originally posted by: sygyzy
Man, that was actually very well written and seemed to be sincere. I think you should have a serious talk with her but don't be mean. It seems like she might not be all "there"

see what happens to a thread if the OP has structure?

 

[Al Neri]

you gotta man

before and after pics?

 

[WildHorse]