How to punish the boy, ideas?

[Yeeny]

My kids are home sick today, with the flu, they have been sick for a few days, and my oldest, who is 12, is feeling better, but I kept him home one more day to rest up, so he doesn't get sicker for Christmas. So, I'm walking by his room, and he doesn't realize I am out there. And I hear him talking to his brother. I start listening, cause I'm a mother, and I spy when I can, they are still little enough for me to do so. I hear him chatting away, and then, I hear it. He dropped the F bomb to his brother! So... I wait a few minutes, listen a little more, then knock on the door and say "Hey, what were you just saying?" Now, he tries to act all innocent and sweet, and when I say I heard what you said, he repeats the sentence, minus the bad word. So I specifically say the word to him, and say I heard you say that Stanley. Then, he denies it, and tries to tell me I misheard him! His little brother speaks right up, oh no she didn't, you said it, I heard you. (remind me to give that boy a cookie for having my back)

So, its illegal to beat him, and besides that option, I'm blank. Anyone have good ideas for a punishment for him? I was going to keep him from seeing ROTK with me tomorrow, but its our annual family movie, (my mom and brothers go with us) and I would hate to be so mean at Christmas time.

 

Just tell him if he says it again, there will be dire consequences. I was always more scared of what could be than what actually happened.

 

[Doggiedog]

No PS2 or Gameboy.

 

[StageLeft]

Tell him "I better not fvcking hear that word out of you ever again."

 

[Ogg]

Tell him that he doesnt have to say everything that his friends say. Its inappropriate language and if he does it again, youll "Fvck him up real good" :Q


I guess I have about 6 or 7 years to go before my son drops an F bomb, I hope its that long

 

[TC2181]

Just tell him not to use that word ever again, and if he uses again, their will be dire consequences. I'd punish him if it becomes a problem.

 

[Encryptic]

Wash his mouth out with soap.

 

[FeathersMcGraw]

Forbid him to see the Itchy and Scratchy movie.

 

[Ferocious]

Do you have a good old-fashioned woodshed?

 

[Danman]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Tell him "I better not fvcking hear that word out of you ever again."

Hahhaha! Oh well, they will have to learn sometime what it is. Just make sure you raise your voice and slap them around when they say it. I remember when I was younger if I said it in front of my parents they'd slap me. Hell, I learned. Now they don't even fvcking care.

 

[arcas]

If he were older, you could threaten to make him watch Gigli instead of ROTK. At age 12, I doubt he'll realize just how horrible a punishment that is.

 

[Yeeny]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Tell him "I better not fvcking hear that word out of you ever again."

lol See, I can't let him get away with this, because he tried to lie to me afterwards. Saying it, fine, bad enough, but you do not lie to your momma!

 

Yeeny, do what I do when I hear my boy saying something he's not supposed to, stuff a bar of Ivory soap in his mouth.

It worked on me and my siblings when I was growing up and it works on my little guy as well.

Explain ti him in a calm and cool voice, lying to himself and others will only make matters worse.

 

[Frdm51472]

Yeah spanking your children isnt illegal.

 

[PanzerIV]

Take away some sort of privilege he likes such as no tv or going to a friend's house or playing games...you get the picture.

 

[TekChik]

Originally posted by: Encryptic
Wash his mouth out with soap.

i second this one. it's what MY parents did and it seemed to work.

...at least until i was old enough to use those words the way they're SUPPOSED to be used.

 

[Viper GTS]

Damn, & I came in here thinking he'd raped the dog or something.

Make him write a two page paper on the history of the word, why it is offensive in today's society, and why he shouldn't use it around his younger siblings (and you, out of respect).

I personally don't use that kind of language around my parents, my younger brother is 16 & hears it more at school than he does from me so I don't worry too much about it.

Viper GTS

 

[SagaLore]

I got liquid hand soap in my mouth when I swore once when I was little. YUCK Of course it wasn't by my parents, is was by my babysitter and happen to be a work that I learned from hearing her saying it. :|

 

[slackerinabox]

Instead of going postal on him why don't you explain why it's not appropriate and how it's an adult work that he shouldn't be using it.. THEN punish him - sure.. Or threaten to punish him if he uses it again.. There was a great sponge bob episode out there about kids innocently picking up improper language and how it's unfair for parents to go postal on them - explain what they did and THEN go postal

 

[Shockwave]

Spare the rod spoil the child.
I'd either take'm behind the woodshed so to speak, or wash their mouth out with soap. I'm a hardass parent on my kids, but their very well behaved and know what the lines are, and not to cross them.

 

[Ornery]

Isn't it enough for him to know you're disappointed? Tell him using that language is a poor reflection on him, and that it's not going to help him move ahead in the world.

What are the real world consequences of using that language? Point those out to him and leave it at that.

 

[acidvoodoo]

come on, he's 12. thats what, grade 7/8?
when i moved up to a new school and was in 4th grade, all the kids in 7th grade were swearin alot at recess and thats where i was first introduced to swearing and stuff in that way [ie, not on tv]

what is bad is that he did it in front of his little brother, that should be punished, just rather then say "never say that word again" [which he will, at school, with friends whatever], explain theres a time and a place for everything, that everyone sometimes swears but only when angry and not casually

just my 2 cents

 

[Yeeny]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Damn, & I came in here thinking he'd raped the dog or something.

Viper GTS

Then YOU are a very sick minded individual.

Washing his mouth out with soap... eh, thats not something I really can see myself doing. All I can think is Ralphie from A Christmas Story, cause my son kind of looks like him. I think maybe grounding him from his Gameboy/PS2 is a good idea for a few days. If I wanted to be evil I could ground him from them past Christmas, and make him wait to enjoy some of his new presents.

:evil:

<edit> My kids really are good kids, don't get me wrong. And I don't think him saying this word makes him a bad one, he's just at the age where he thinks he is a man, and I have to remind him that he isn't yet. acidvoodoo: Just because his friends are doing it, that makes it ok for him to? I know what he is probably doing when I am not around, but it doesn't mean I shouldn't correct it when he is, or I find out about it.

Ornery: Yeah, he hates disappointing his mother, but its the lying to my face that really bugged me. If he had just owned up to it, that would have been the end of it pretty much. Since my ex and I broke up, raising him is pretty much all on me, and I worry so much about how he will turn out. Especially since I am so busy lately with school and work, and I just don't have the time for them I used to.

 

[blakeatwork]

just remember that you should double his punishment for yourself if you ever use the word...

otherwise, you're just being hypocritcal...

 

Toughen up Yeeny, Lay the law down.