How to punish the boy, ideas?

[Azraele]

Sit down and have a talk with him. Explain to him how inappropriate the use of that word is, and how wrong he was to lie. Ask him where he learned it and why he used it. Then make him scrub the bathroom with a toothbrush and he'll be thankful it's not his mouth being scrubbed with soap.

 

[nick1985]

beat his ass!

 

[amdskip]

liquid soap, worked for me

 

[Pex]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
My kids are home sick today, with the flu, they have been sick for a few days, and my oldest, who is 12, is feeling better, but I kept him home one more day to rest up, so he doesn't get sicker for Christmas. So, I'm walking by his room, and he doesn't realize I am out there. And I hear him talking to his brother. I start listening, cause I'm a mother, and I spy when I can, they are still little enough for me to do so. I hear him chatting away, and then, I hear it. He dropped the F bomb to his brother! So... I wait a few minutes, listen a little more, then knock on the door and say "Hey, what were you just saying?" Now, he tries to act all innocent and sweet, and when I say I heard what you said, he repeats the sentence, minus the bad word. So I specifically say the word to him, and say I heard you say that Stanley. Then, he denies it, and tries to tell me I misheard him! His little brother speaks right up, oh no she didn't, you said it, I heard you. (remind me to give that boy a cookie for having my back)

So, its illegal to beat him, and besides that option, I'm blank. Anyone have good ideas for a punishment for him? I was going to keep him from seeing ROTK with me tomorrow, but its our annual family movie, (my mom and brothers go with us) and I would hate to be so mean at Christmas time.

you know there have been numerous cases of sons and daughters coming back years later after be repremanded by their parents to totally mutilate them into a bloody corpse. just thought you "parents" would like to know. oh btw if you dont want your child to swear take him out of public school, sell your tvs, get rid of your internet, dont let your son out of the house....oh you dont want to do that? welcome to the real world where bad words exist EVERYWHERE and its inevitable that your offpsring WILL curse. just accept it and like it honey.

 

[TekChik]

Originally posted by: Ornery
Isn't it enough for him to know you're disappointed? Tell him using that language is a poor reflection on him, and that it's not going to help him move ahead in the world.

What are the real world consequences of using that language? Point those out to him and leave it at that.

you don't have any kids, do you? LOL

 

[slackerinabox]

Yeah, I think you need a reality check.. In the year 2003 you should be happy that your son is just saying the word and not doing the deed.. It isn't the 60s anymore (oh dear! ralphie said the f word!).. Do you know what they talk about in the locker room? They've got hormones my friend.. Rent 13 or KIDS...NOW..

 

[Yeeny]

Originally posted by: Pex

Originally posted by: Yeeny
My kids are home sick today, with the flu, they have been sick for a few days, and my oldest, who is 12, is feeling better, but I kept him home one more day to rest up, so he doesn't get sicker for Christmas. So, I'm walking by his room, and he doesn't realize I am out there. And I hear him talking to his brother. I start listening, cause I'm a mother, and I spy when I can, they are still little enough for me to do so. I hear him chatting away, and then, I hear it. He dropped the F bomb to his brother! So... I wait a few minutes, listen a little more, then knock on the door and say "Hey, what were you just saying?" Now, he tries to act all innocent and sweet, and when I say I heard what you said, he repeats the sentence, minus the bad word. So I specifically say the word to him, and say I heard you say that Stanley. Then, he denies it, and tries to tell me I misheard him! His little brother speaks right up, oh no she didn't, you said it, I heard you. (remind me to give that boy a cookie for having my back)

So, its illegal to beat him, and besides that option, I'm blank. Anyone have good ideas for a punishment for him? I was going to keep him from seeing ROTK with me tomorrow, but its our annual family movie, (my mom and brothers go with us) and I would hate to be so mean at Christmas time.

you know there have been numerous cases of sons and daughters coming back years later after be repremanded by their parents to totally mutilate them into a bloody corpse. just thought you "parents" would like to know. oh btw if you dont want your child to swear take him out of public school, sell your tvs, get rid of your internet, dont let your son out of the house....oh you dont want to do that? welcome to the real world where bad words exist EVERYWHERE and its inevitable that your offpsring WILL curse. just accept it and like it honey.

Well thank you Dr. Spock!

 

you know there have been numerous cases of sons and daughters coming back years later after be repremanded by their parents to totally mutilate them into a bloody corpse. just thought you "parents" would like to know. oh btw if you dont want your child to swear take him out of public school, sell your tvs, get rid of your internet, dont let your son out of the house....oh you dont want to do that? welcome to the real world where bad words exist EVERYWHERE and its inevitable that your offpsring WILL curse. just accept it and like it honey.

Just because you have no morals does not mean other people do not have them as well.
It's no wonder why swearing is prevalent in our society with an attitude like that.

 

[Hammer]

make him shovel snow all day

 

[Pex]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Yeah, I think you need a reality check.. In the year 2003 you should be happy that your son is just saying the word and not doing the deed.. It isn't the 60s anymore (oh dear! ralphie said the f word!).. Do you know what they talk about in the locker room? They've got hormones my friend.. Rent 13 or KIDS...NOW..

yup kids is a great movie depicting what reall goes on. you parents have NO idea.

 

[bleeb]

Smack him upside his head. Beat him with a stick.

 

[bcterps]

Not sure about what the punishment should be, but in the end, he's gotta know that he's not being punished so much for saying the word, but for lying about it.

 

[Viper GTS]

Originally posted by: Azraele
Sit down and have a talk with him. Explain to him how inappropriate the use of that word is, and how wrong he was to lie. Ask him where he learned it and why he used it. Then make him scrub the bathroom with a toothbrush and he'll be thankful it's not his mouth being scrubbed with soap.

Make him scrub the bathroom with HIS toothbrush, after he's done & quite thoroughly traumatized give him a new toothbrush & say "Next time there won't be a new one."

Viper GTS

 

[TekChik]

Originally posted by: Yeeny

Originally posted by: Pex

Originally posted by: Yeeny
My kids are home sick today, with the flu, they have been sick for a few days, and my oldest, who is 12, is feeling better, but I kept him home one more day to rest up, so he doesn't get sicker for Christmas. So, I'm walking by his room, and he doesn't realize I am out there. And I hear him talking to his brother. I start listening, cause I'm a mother, and I spy when I can, they are still little enough for me to do so. I hear him chatting away, and then, I hear it. He dropped the F bomb to his brother! So... I wait a few minutes, listen a little more, then knock on the door and say "Hey, what were you just saying?" Now, he tries to act all innocent and sweet, and when I say I heard what you said, he repeats the sentence, minus the bad word. So I specifically say the word to him, and say I heard you say that Stanley. Then, he denies it, and tries to tell me I misheard him! His little brother speaks right up, oh no she didn't, you said it, I heard you. (remind me to give that boy a cookie for having my back)

So, its illegal to beat him, and besides that option, I'm blank. Anyone have good ideas for a punishment for him? I was going to keep him from seeing ROTK with me tomorrow, but its our annual family movie, (my mom and brothers go with us) and I would hate to be so mean at Christmas time.

you know there have been numerous cases of sons and daughters coming back years later after be repremanded by their parents to totally mutilate them into a bloody corpse. just thought you "parents" would like to know. oh btw if you dont want your child to swear take him out of public school, sell your tvs, get rid of your internet, dont let your son out of the house....oh you dont want to do that? welcome to the real world where bad words exist EVERYWHERE and its inevitable that your offpsring WILL curse. just accept it and like it honey.

Well thank you Dr. Spock!

No kidding!

Personally, i'm GLAD my parents were strict disciplinarians and what year it is should not change what standards we hold our children to. it's THIS way of thinking that's gotten older children so messed up in recent generation (IMO).

Yeeny, I'm glad you're willing to discipline your children...although this forum might not be the BEST place to get helpful hints (since a large portion of posters are kids themselves...LOL). Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

-TekChik

 

[Ornery]

"...its the lying to my face that really bugged me."

Yeah, I see, but I'd never have put my kids on the spot in the first place. I won't try to catch them in a lie like that. I'd have just said outright that I don't want to hear that out of their mouth again, and there's no reason to use that language in the first place.

One time, while my oldest son was learning to drive, he backed the van into the street, then hit the gas and went right onto the neighbor's lawn across the street. Guess what he exclaimed when that happened? I didn't have to say anything. I think we were both on the same page at that point!

 

yup kids is a great movie depicting what reall goes on. you parents have NO idea.

Apparently your parents have done a terrible job of raising you.

 

[Pex]

as long as you know what you're doing is wrong its fine. its all up to you to make that choice. as long as he knows lying and swearing is bad...fine. but ultimetly its him who decides if he lies in life.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Roger

yup kids is a great movie depicting what reall goes on. you parents have NO idea.

Apparently your parents have done a terrible job of raising you.

Roger... I don't like you.. Instead of hearing our input as younger fellows who grew up in THIS society (not the world of the 40s that you grew up in) you judge him (and, in effect, us)... We're not saying that it's right. Trust me, I think it's terrible that 13 year olds are getting pregnant and the loss of sexual innocence depresses me.. But, as a human being, you have to understand what's going on and work with it. I'm not saying that you should accept it - it's your job as a parent to set up moral guidelines for your kiddies... But you have to understand that the society that your kids lives in is very different from yours...

 

[Yeeny]

Maybe alot of parents don't know what goes on, but I do. My kids don't go anywhere without me knowing when, where, why and what time will you be home. They are not allowed to just hang out with friends, and wander all over town all day with no where to go. I have phone numbers of where they are when they do go, and I am a hard ass about who they hang out with. In school, sure, I can't control that as much, but I really am not worried about my kids.

They are always winning things like Student of the Week, they are involved in Friendship Club, and Make A Difference Day club, they go to nursing homes to visit the elderly, I have three great kids, who I am very proud of. Kids like to know you care, and are involved in their lives, and that includes discipline.

 

as long as you know what you're doing is wrong its fine. its all up to you to make that choice. as long as he knows lying and swearing is bad...fine. but ultimetly its him who decides if he lies in life.

EXACTLY, and without the proper guidance, he cannot make that decision for himself, it will be made by the children swearing around him. (peer pressure)

This is why it is imperative that she steps in now and does something about it.

Roger... I don't like you..

I have no love for you either.

Instead of hearing our input as younger fellows who grew up in THIS society (not the world of the 40s that you grew up in) you judge him (and, in effect, us)... We're not saying that it's right. Trust me, I think it's terrible that 13 year olds are getting pregnant and the loss of sexual innocence depresses me.. But, as a human being, you have to understand what's going on and work with it. I'm not saying that you should accept it - it's your job as a parent to set up moral guidelines for your kiddies... But you have to understand that the society that your kids lives in is very different from yours...

There is a serious flaw in your reasoning, just because society acts like this does condone the behavior, this is the parents job to set the children straight on what is permissable and what is not.

 

[Pex]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
Maybe alot of parents don't know what goes on, but I do. My kids don't go anywhere without me knowing when, where, why and what time will you be home. They are not allowed to just hang out with friends, and wander all over town all day with no where to go. I have phone numbers of where they are when they do go, and I am a hard ass about who they hang out with. In school, sure, I can't control that as much, but I really am not worried about my kids.

They are always winning things like Student of the Week, they are involved in Friendship Club, and Make A Difference Day club, they go to nursing homes to visit the elderly, I have three great kids, who I am very proud of. Kids like to know you care, and are involved in their lives, and that includes discipline.

ahah you think you do...but sadly its impossible that you can never know even the half of where they go and what they do unless your kid has a camera strapped to his head.

 

[Yeeny]

Originally posted by: Ornery
"...its the lying to my face that really bugged me."

Yeah, I see, but I'd never have put my kids on the spot in the first place. I won't try to catch them in a lie like that. I'd have just said outright that I don't want to hear that out of their mouth again, and there's no reason to use that language in the first place.

One time, while my oldest son was learning to drive, he backed the van into the street, then hit the gas and went right onto the neighbor's lawn across the street. Guess what he exclaimed when that happened? I didn't have to say anything. I think we were both on the same page at that point!

LOL, I think at that time that word might have been an almost acceptable response to the situation at hand. And yeah, usually I am right to the point, but I decided to try and talk about it this time. I think that may have been my first mistake, he saw weakness and went for it.

Thats my boy.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
Maybe alot of parents don't know what goes on, but I do. My kids don't go anywhere without me knowing when, where, why and what time will you be home. They are not allowed to just hang out with friends, and wander all over town all day with no where to go. I have phone numbers of where they are when they do go, and I am a hard ass about who they hang out with. In school, sure, I can't control that as much, but I really am not worried about my kids.

They are always winning things like Student of the Week, they are involved in Friendship Club, and Make A Difference Day club, they go to nursing homes to visit the elderly, I have three great kids, who I am very proud of. Kids like to know you care, and are involved in their lives, and that includes discipline.

They sound like great kids - don't be too hard on them right before christmas - don't take their video games away! Just explain how disappoited you are and then walk away.. that fvckin' works all the time..

 

[Yeeny]

Originally posted by: Pex

Originally posted by: Yeeny
Maybe alot of parents don't know what goes on, but I do. My kids don't go anywhere without me knowing when, where, why and what time will you be home. They are not allowed to just hang out with friends, and wander all over town all day with no where to go. I have phone numbers of where they are when they do go, and I am a hard ass about who they hang out with. In school, sure, I can't control that as much, but I really am not worried about my kids.

They are always winning things like Student of the Week, they are involved in Friendship Club, and Make A Difference Day club, they go to nursing homes to visit the elderly, I have three great kids, who I am very proud of. Kids like to know you care, and are involved in their lives, and that includes discipline.

ahah you think you do...but sadly its impossible that you can never know even the half of where they go and what they do unless your kid has a camera strapped to his head.

nope, I know I do. They are only 12, 10 and 6, of course I do. And any parent worth anything would too, at those ages. Thats what being a parent is all about.

 

[Pex]

i dunno around 12 kids start to shoot stuff into their forearms...drink cases of beer, smoke pounds of mary jane, have sex with other 12 year olds.....your kids are evil and there is no stopping it.














































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