How to punish the boy, ideas?

[z0mb13]

go medieval on his ass!!!

 

[KGB1]

5 simple letter and I don't think I will able t ... uhh oh... Please show mercy...

 

[Czesia]

I would make it known to him that that type of behaviour/language is unacceptable and that you will not tolerate it, and this is his warning. If it happens again, there will be consequences. Then follow through.

 

[BaboonGuy]

who the fsck cares, I wouldn't.. the f bomb isn't too big of a deal

 

[MAME]

how is using the f word bad?

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: BDawg

Originally posted by: Encryptic
Wash his mouth out with soap.

Shoot his eye out.

Crucify him!!!11!!1

 

[PaperclipGod]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
My kids are home sick today, with the flu, they have been sick for a few days, and my oldest, who is 12, is feeling better, but I kept him home one more day to rest up, so he doesn't get sicker for Christmas. So, I'm walking by his room, and he doesn't realize I am out there. And I hear him talking to his brother. I start listening, cause I'm a mother, and I spy when I can, they are still little enough for me to do so. I hear him chatting away, and then, I hear it. He dropped the F bomb to his brother! So... I wait a few minutes, listen a little more, then knock on the door and say "Hey, what were you just saying?" Now, he tries to act all innocent and sweet, and when I say I heard what you said, he repeats the sentence, minus the bad word. So I specifically say the word to him, and say I heard you say that Stanley. Then, he denies it, and tries to tell me I misheard him! His little brother speaks right up, oh no she didn't, you said it, I heard you. (remind me to give that boy a cookie for having my back)

So, its illegal to beat him, and besides that option, I'm blank. Anyone have good ideas for a punishment for him? I was going to keep him from seeing ROTK with me tomorrow, but its our annual family movie, (my mom and brothers go with us) and I would hate to be so mean at Christmas time.

Is this a joke?

He's TWELVE. Kids say TEH BAD WORDS!!1

As long as he uses it around people who accept it and relate to it - his friends - and not people who are offended by it - adults - then who cares?

 

[Adul]

the answer is simple, wash out his mouth

 

[nanyangview]

force him to commit sepukku to regain you honour. Or he can do it with me

 

[element]

What kind of mother are you that you wouldn't use the soap!

Here's what you do: Soon as you hear him say it, pull him aside and say. I heard what you said. Do you even know what that word means? Then promptly take the bar of soap and shove it in and out of his mouth repeatedly and say THIS is what it means.

He won't do it again. If he does, next time shape the bar of Ivory soap into a phallus symbol before doing the same as above.

Note: I'm not responsible for your kid being permanently emotionally scarred. Post in jest, do not attempt. professional nutjob parent raising hellion on closed track. Not harmful if swallowed. Side effects include nausea, vomitting, soap bubbles and sexual side effects. Ask your doctor if Ivory is right for you.

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: jumpr
Just tell him if he says it again, there will be dire consequences. I was always more scared of what could be than what actually happened.

intimidation!

i would have burt through the door with a roar

*makes a note*

and now i will when my child says it herself one day...

 

[snooker]

soap in the mouth? Wash that dirty mouth out

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Force him to read this whole thread.

 

[PaperclipGod]

Originally posted by: Skyclad1uhm1
Force him to read this whole thread.

 

[zhena]

You are very weird. I use the word weird as opposed to saying sick and disturbed because I don't know you so I am hoping maybe you weren't thinking about what you wrote bellow.

What are you part of some religious cult where you beat your kid for doing something wrong? Oh right, that's illegal so you won't do that.

He is 12, he said the F word---oh my god!!!!!

The fact that you are even posting something like this and asking how you should punish him is disturbing enough.
HE is 12 for god sakes not 4. And He didn't say it to you, yes 12 year olds swear sometimes. Just tell him not to do it again and call it a day! I can't believe you have put as much thought into this as you have, you must really have no other things to do.

And as for the "and the whole point isn't the swearing, its the lying to my face" well i just don't have anything to say to this besides "HELLO!?!!???"
you were listening outside the door and spying on your kid!!!!! he said something he shouldn't have---he didn't do anything horrible, of course he would say "no I didn't say it" at first. There is a difference between admitting something important, and saying the F word.

I got an idea setup a secret camera in his room, and review it each day. I bet you'll hear him say some other things that will make you go nuts!!! maybe he'll say "sh1t"!!!!

I just can't believe you put this much thought into it, and posted this here. He is 12. If he was 7 saying "fvck you" in every other sentence, that I would understand, if he said this to your face I could understand, but he was in his room talking to his little brother, Jesus whatâ??s wrong with you.

This seems less like you are trying to teach him not to say the F word much more like "ohhh I caught you.. hhaha thought you'd get away with it"

jesus christ woman!

Originally posted by: Yeeny
LOL @ the comments about what kind of mother I am, like I am going to take the opinion of people who have never met me on the internet to heart? My kids adore me, and I adore them, and thats all that matters on that subject.

As for the soap, no way, its just not something I believe in. Not condemning anyone else, to each their own, but its just not something I could ever do. And the whole point isn't the swearing, its the lying to my face. Why is it so hard to see that just isn't acceptable? You screw up in life, you admit it, its part of growing as a person. Does it suck? Hell yeah, but its what you need to do, in order to be a mature adult one day who can handle what life throws at you. More people need to accept responsibility for their mistakes, thats the biggest problem with the world today.

 

Make them read some of luvly's posts. They will probably go stupid while reading them, thus forgetting the f-bomb.

 

[JackDawkins]

See, you wouldn't have this problem if you parented the way you're supposed to. You need to randomly smack them from time to time out of the blue and for no reason at all; keep them terrorized and you won't ever have to worry about things like this. You know you've done your job as a parent when they have that "deer caught in the headlights" look on their face any time they feel your presence or even think about you.

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: zhena
You are very weird. I use the word weird as opposed to saying sick and disturbed because I don't know you so I am hoping maybe you weren't thinking about what you wrote bellow.

What are you part of some religious cult where you beat your kid for doing something wrong? Oh right, that's illegal so you won't do that.

He is 12, he said the F word---oh my god!!!!!

The fact that you are even posting something like this and asking how you should punish him is disturbing enough.
HE is 12 for god sakes not 4. And He didn't say it to you, yes 12 year olds swear sometimes. Just tell him not to do it again and call it a day! I can't believe you have put as much thought into this as you have, you must really have no other things to do.

And as for the "and the whole point isn't the swearing, its the lying to my face" well i just don't have anything to say to this besides "HELLO!?!!???"
you were listening outside the door and spying on your kid!!!!! he said something he shouldn't have---he didn't do anything horrible, of course he would say "no I didn't say it" at first. There is a difference between admitting something important, and saying the F word.

I got an idea setup a secret camera in his room, and review it each day. I bet you'll hear him say some other things that will make you go nuts!!! maybe he'll say "sh1t"!!!!

I just can't believe you put this much thought into it, and posted this here. He is 12. If he was 7 saying "fvck you" in every other sentence, that I would understand, if he said this to your face I could understand, but he was in his room talking to his little brother, Jesus whatâ??s wrong with you.

This seems less like you are trying to teach him not to say the F word much more like "ohhh I caught you.. hhaha thought you'd get away with it"

jesus christ woman!

Let me guess - you are 16 and hate your parents? Yeah I thought so. You have no idea what being a good parent means. Now go back to eating your Play-Doh.

 

[DurocShark]

The lying is the part that I would go after. I don't see a problem really with kids experimenting with language when they think they're alone. I'd make a comment to him about it if I heard it (because other adults get all bothered when a kid says something the rest of us say every day), but that's it.

But lying is not a good thing.

 

[Amorphus]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: zhena
<<Insane ramblings of a stupid boy go here>>

Let me guess - you are 16 and hate your parents? Yeah I thought so. You have no idea what being a good parent means. Now go back to eating your Play-Doh.

pwned!

I hate all these people who have no set of morals in this thread trying to tell Yeeny to be a negligent parent. :|

 

[Homerboy]

you know there have been numerous cases of sons and daughters coming back years later after be repremanded by their parents to totally mutilate them into a bloody corpse. just thought you "parents" would like to know. oh btw if you dont want your child to swear take him out of public school, sell your tvs, get rid of your internet, dont let your son out of the house....oh you dont want to do that? welcome to the real world where bad words exist EVERYWHERE and its inevitable that your offpsring WILL curse. just accept it and like it honey.

I think shes more overly concerned with the fact that he swore AND he lied directly to her face. As a parent myself (granted of a 2yrold and 5month old... sleep anyone?) I do not long for the day when my son lies directly to my face. I dont know what I will do. Swearing is bad enough. But LYING? I will ahve to physically restrain myself.

Its a tough decision Yeeny. I would do my best to explain to him why swearing isn't the most positive thing to do, and more importantly why lying is down right wrong. ESPECIALLY to ones parents. There are no small lies period.

Physical punishment is a hard choice. I was never physically punished, yet I knew were the lines were and more importantly WHY they were there. A 12yr old you can reason with and discuss with. Removing privledges etc is the other obvious ooptin.

 

[PaperclipGod]

Originally posted by: Homerboy

you know there have been numerous cases of sons and daughters coming back years later after be repremanded by their parents to totally mutilate them into a bloody corpse. just thought you "parents" would like to know. oh btw if you dont want your child to swear take him out of public school, sell your tvs, get rid of your internet, dont let your son out of the house....oh you dont want to do that? welcome to the real world where bad words exist EVERYWHERE and its inevitable that your offpsring WILL curse. just accept it and like it honey.

I think shes more overly concerned with the fact that he swore AND he lied directly to her face. As a parent myself (granted of a 2yrold and 5month old... sleep anyone?) I do not long for the day when my son lies directly to my face. I dont know what I will do. Swearing is bad enough. But LYING? I will ahve to physically restrain myself.

Its a tough decision Yeeny. I would do my best to explain to him why swearing isn't the most positive thing to do, and more importantly why lying is down right wrong. ESPECIALLY to ones parents. There are no small lies period.

Physical punishment is a hard choice. I was never physically punished, yet I knew were the lines were and more importantly WHY they were there. A 12yr old you can reason with and discuss with. Removing privledges etc is the other obvious ooptin.

Here's an idea: Maybe she shouldn't be spying on her kids in the first place.

 

[Richdog]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
LOL @ the comments about what kind of mother I am, like I am going to take the opinion of people who have never met me on the internet to heart? My kids adore me, and I adore them, and thats all that matters on that subject.

As for the soap, no way, its just not something I believe in. Not condemning anyone else, to each their own, but its just not something I could ever do. And the whole point isn't the swearing, its the lying to my face. Why is it so hard to see that just isn't acceptable? You screw up in life, you admit it, its part of growing as a person. Does it suck? Hell yeah, but its what you need to do, in order to be a mature adult one day who can handle what life throws at you. More people need to accept responsibility for their mistakes, thats the biggest problem with the world today.

LOL @ the mother who asks this question to the "bunch of people on the internet"...

 

[Amorphus]

Originally posted by: PaperclipGod

Originally posted by: Homerboy

you know there have been numerous cases of sons and daughters coming back years later after be repremanded by their parents to totally mutilate them into a bloody corpse. just thought you "parents" would like to know. oh btw if you dont want your child to swear take him out of public school, sell your tvs, get rid of your internet, dont let your son out of the house....oh you dont want to do that? welcome to the real world where bad words exist EVERYWHERE and its inevitable that your offpsring WILL curse. just accept it and like it honey.

I think shes more overly concerned with the fact that he swore AND he lied directly to her face. As a parent myself (granted of a 2yrold and 5month old... sleep anyone?) I do not long for the day when my son lies directly to my face. I dont know what I will do. Swearing is bad enough. But LYING? I will ahve to physically restrain myself.

Its a tough decision Yeeny. I would do my best to explain to him why swearing isn't the most positive thing to do, and more importantly why lying is down right wrong. ESPECIALLY to ones parents. There are no small lies period.

Physical punishment is a hard choice. I was never physically punished, yet I knew were the lines were and more importantly WHY they were there. A 12yr old you can reason with and discuss with. Removing privledges etc is the other obvious ooptin.

Here's an idea: Maybe she shouldn't be spying on her kids in the first place.

whoops. I meant to have content here. but I'm fully in favor of disciplining the kid.

 

[huesmann]

Originally posted by: Encryptic
Wash his mouth out with soap.