How to punish the boy, ideas?

[hjo3]

Originally posted by: notfred
Wow, you're a fvcking prude. You going to wash my mouth out with soap now?

Heh

Yeeny: Yeah, don't be a bitch about it.

 

[EagleKeeper]

Originally posted by: Ameesh
you should punish his the other one for being a tattle tale and not being lyal to his brother for such a small thing.

At what point then should the little one decide what should be known by the parent and what to keep a secret to protect the brother.

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Tell him "I better not fvcking hear that word out of you ever again."

LOL

How about give him pron mags for chirstmas then as punishment for saying those words........... take them away till he is 18

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[Sid59]

you should reward him.

 

[stormbv]

Start crying and tell him how disappointed you are. Use the good old Catholic Guilt Trip on him!

 

[Ness]

You should trick him. Say you aren't going to punish him as long as you never hear him say it again. Once he thinks he's in the clear, tell him he's grounded for lying to you, though.

 

[LordMorpheus]

y'know what? Heres how my parents did it: As long as we weren't talking to n adult or in the presence of an adult (who wasn't hiding) we are allowed to say whatever we liked.

This eliminates the whole "mommy, guess what word Billy just said!" aspect of child raising (i'm one of four).

And you know what? I generally don't use it in conversation unless I'm really fired up, and I know people who use it non-stop who were punished severely for using it as a child.

Which way worked?

 

[gopunk]

i would just punish him for lying, not the other thing. for swearing, i would just tell him that you wish he didn't say that.

 

[BDawg]

Originally posted by: Encryptic
Wash his mouth out with soap.

Shoot his eye out.

 

[Pepsi90919]

wtf? he's 12 years old, leave him alone. you think he's not going to say that word eventually?

 

[MaxDepth]

Ffffffffffuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuudge!



whip out the lifebouy! (I love that movie)

 

[Platypus]

Why punish him? What is that going to solve except he will probably grow further apart from you and end up hating you. Oh wai

 

[Richdog]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
My kids are home sick today, with the flu, they have been sick for a few days, and my oldest, who is 12, is feeling better, but I kept him home one more day to rest up, so he doesn't get sicker for Christmas. So, I'm walking by his room, and he doesn't realize I am out there. And I hear him talking to his brother. I start listening, cause I'm a mother, and I spy when I can, they are still little enough for me to do so. I hear him chatting away, and then, I hear it. He dropped the F bomb to his brother! So... I wait a few minutes, listen a little more, then knock on the door and say "Hey, what were you just saying?" Now, he tries to act all innocent and sweet, and when I say I heard what you said, he repeats the sentence, minus the bad word. So I specifically say the word to him, and say I heard you say that Stanley. Then, he denies it, and tries to tell me I misheard him! His little brother speaks right up, oh no she didn't, you said it, I heard you. (remind me to give that boy a cookie for having my back)

So, its illegal to beat him, and besides that option, I'm blank. Anyone have good ideas for a punishment for him? I was going to keep him from seeing ROTK with me tomorrow, but its our annual family movie, (my mom and brothers go with us) and I would hate to be so mean at Christmas time.

Tell him off, don't criminally over-react by punishing him in any serious way. Children are subject to this language form their friends, films and God knows what else. Christ, glad my mother wasn't like you...

 

[Amorphus]

all you people who don't have kids going the whole "its inevitable, just let him swear" route.... *sigh*...

you do realize that these kids who start swearing at that young age are prone to start swearing more, to be more crass and vulgar, and that just leads to them being the jerks and pretentious ones that will infest the high schools, colleges, and eventually, YOUR LIFE.

on the other hand, Yeeny - make sure you discipline him on both counts (saying the word AND lying to you; lying to you most of all), but more importantly, have his home life be tranquil and not making him want to swear. make him understand that swearing randomly is not a "cool" thing to do, and that it stirs up emotions that don't need to be stirred up.

proper parenting is a must, but don't view it as being strict towards the child; it's being strictly adherent to the rules you set in the house, both for you and your children.

 

[Pepsi90919]

make him understand that swearing randomly is not a "cool" thing to do

this isn't the barney and friends show and we don't live on sesame street.

 

[MrMilney]

In my opinion what happened (not the swearing as much as the lying) calls for serious punishment. Don't take him to see ROTK with the family. It'll be hard for you and for him, but losing that privilege will convey the message better than probably any other punishment. Sit down with him, explain why what he did was wrong (again, I say the lying was the more serious problem) and explain to him why you have to punish him this way. Lying can become a serious problem and has to be nipped in the bud.

Just my 2 cents...

 

[Howard]

Originally posted by: Roger
Yeeny, do what I do when I hear my boy saying something he's not supposed to, stuff a bar of Ivory soap in his mouth.

It worked on me and my siblings when I was growing up and it works on my little guy as well.

Explain ti him in a calm and cool voice, lying to himself and others will only make matters worse.

And clamp his jaw closed. I'm pretty sure soap is nontoxic.

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Amorphus
all you people who don't have kids going the whole "its inevitable, just let him swear" route.... *sigh*...

you do realize that these kids who start swearing at that young age are prone to start swearing more, to be more crass and vulgar, and that just leads to them being the jerks and pretentious ones that will infest the high schools, colleges, and eventually, YOUR LIFE.

and you think that's caused by the swearing huh?

 

[Ns1]

call him an @sshole and kick him to the curb

 

[Sid59]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: Amorphus
all you people who don't have kids going the whole "its inevitable, just let him swear" route.... *sigh*...

you do realize that these kids who start swearing at that young age are prone to start swearing more, to be more crass and vulgar, and that just leads to them being the jerks and pretentious ones that will infest the high schools, colleges, and eventually, YOUR LIFE.

and you think that's caused by the swearing huh?

i never swore when i was a kid. got to high school and swore every 4th word of a given sentence.

got a wake up call when i was invited to go on a summer camping trip and my friends told me i swore too much. that was 1995 and i prolly use a curse word a few times a week.

 

[Yeeny]

LOL @ the comments about what kind of mother I am, like I am going to take the opinion of people who have never met me on the internet to heart? My kids adore me, and I adore them, and thats all that matters on that subject.

As for the soap, no way, its just not something I believe in. Not condemning anyone else, to each their own, but its just not something I could ever do. And the whole point isn't the swearing, its the lying to my face. Why is it so hard to see that just isn't acceptable? You screw up in life, you admit it, its part of growing as a person. Does it suck? Hell yeah, but its what you need to do, in order to be a mature adult one day who can handle what life throws at you. More people need to accept responsibility for their mistakes, thats the biggest problem with the world today.

 

[Xionide]

Man when I was little I cussed around my friends when my parents werent around. It was kind of like work or school. You dont cuss around your boss or teacher, but when they are not there it doesnt really matter. Since you caught him skin his ass for it. If he is gonna cuss he should atleast know when to do it or not. damn if my little brother ratted me out like that I would kick his @ss

-Xionide

 

[KarenMarie]

My daughter....

At that point, she would have gotten a lecture for saying the bad word, but I would bubble her azz for lying right to my face.

 

[onelin]

I definitely agree on making a big issue about lying...because my parents did. Less on the swearing is personal preference, but basically the ruler over the house says what goes and that's that. I broke the umbrella playing out in the wind as a kid? I owned up to it, and because of that my parents weren't upset. I think a couple instances of grace based on honesty make a fine point about not lying...you just can't be too indifferent (and from the sound of it, you certainly aren't) and let them walk all over the place.

 

[melly]

Whoop his goddamned ass for lying to you.