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Lifer
- Oct 24, 2000
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I would shy away from the "allowance idea". This means she's the slave, coming to you for her handout. This would spell doom for your marriage.
My suggestion:
I assume you are the only bread winner in the family and that she is the homemaker.
1) PAY OFF THE CREDIT CARDS AND THEN CUT THEM UP! Keep one Mastercard/Visa for urgent purposes. (Pay off any remaining debts while you're at it...aside from MAYBE the mortgage and car payments.)
2) Have your salary auto-credited to Savings Account 1. (Taxes will already be take out by this point, but you know what your gross income is.)
3) Savings Account 1 is off-limits to all but your debtors. If your bank sends you a debit card for this account, shred it, and throw it away. Do the same with any checks they send you for that account.
4) Take 15% of your gross income, call it X, and transfer X to Savings Account 2 every month, without fail, no questions asked. Savings account 2 is off-limits to ALL. If your bank sends you a debit card for this account, shred it, and throw it away. Do the same with any checks they send you for that account.
5) Set up an auto-debit system for Savings Account 1 with... your bank (for your mortgage, car payment, etc.), with your insurance company (auto, health, home, etc.), with your telecom companies (internet, TV, cell phone, etc.), and with any other companies from which you have fixed monthly expenses. Savings Account 1 will be the one you monitor on a daily or weekly basis. You don't want it to run dry or else your debtors will be drawing on an empty account, and that's no good.
What if amount taken by debtors is > what is in the account? 1) Do NOT go into debt by paying minimums. Draw from Savings Account 2 in this situation to pay everything off fully, but 2) You now realize your are spending too much! You need to lower your fixed montly expenses by ditching your cell phone, home internet connection, cable TV, etc. Remember, these are luxuries, not needs!
6) What ever is left over in this account after the debtors have taken their share at the end of the month, transfer it to your Checking Account, which is jointly owned by you and your wife. This is the "mad money" for both of you. Have two debit cards/checkbooks for this account. Once this account goes dry, it goes dry. No skirts, no games, no eating out, etc.
Family finances are serious business, no laughing matter. You know that. The name of the game is personal and financial discipline. You both must understand the concept of delayed gratification. Want that new skirt this month but there's not enough money in your Checking Account, then tough luck. She's got to wait until there is enough in that account. The same goes for you next time you want that new motherboard or videocard.
Edit: When Savings Account 2 gets to $10,000 (for example), then take $4,000 out and invest it. Buy stocks, bonds, metals, Roth IRA accounts, IRA accounts, property, etc. Anything that has the potential to appreciate in value. Try to keep a minimum of $6,000 in Savings Account 2. Repeat the investment process every time the account reaches that level.
Edit: The hope is, if you get an early enough start, the investments you buy and the money you save will have a combined worth of a MINIMUM of $1 million dollars by the time you reach your retirement age, be it 55, 65, or 70.
Edit: When little John or little Jane pop out, the belts get tighter and the savings rate gets higher. Consider 20% at least. Remember ONE college education at Harvard in the year 2035 will be about $500,000. Kids are to be planned for financially as well as in any other regard. Can't afford them now? Then you can't!
My suggestion:
I assume you are the only bread winner in the family and that she is the homemaker.
1) PAY OFF THE CREDIT CARDS AND THEN CUT THEM UP! Keep one Mastercard/Visa for urgent purposes. (Pay off any remaining debts while you're at it...aside from MAYBE the mortgage and car payments.)
2) Have your salary auto-credited to Savings Account 1. (Taxes will already be take out by this point, but you know what your gross income is.)
3) Savings Account 1 is off-limits to all but your debtors. If your bank sends you a debit card for this account, shred it, and throw it away. Do the same with any checks they send you for that account.
4) Take 15% of your gross income, call it X, and transfer X to Savings Account 2 every month, without fail, no questions asked. Savings account 2 is off-limits to ALL. If your bank sends you a debit card for this account, shred it, and throw it away. Do the same with any checks they send you for that account.
5) Set up an auto-debit system for Savings Account 1 with... your bank (for your mortgage, car payment, etc.), with your insurance company (auto, health, home, etc.), with your telecom companies (internet, TV, cell phone, etc.), and with any other companies from which you have fixed monthly expenses. Savings Account 1 will be the one you monitor on a daily or weekly basis. You don't want it to run dry or else your debtors will be drawing on an empty account, and that's no good.
What if amount taken by debtors is > what is in the account? 1) Do NOT go into debt by paying minimums. Draw from Savings Account 2 in this situation to pay everything off fully, but 2) You now realize your are spending too much! You need to lower your fixed montly expenses by ditching your cell phone, home internet connection, cable TV, etc. Remember, these are luxuries, not needs!
6) What ever is left over in this account after the debtors have taken their share at the end of the month, transfer it to your Checking Account, which is jointly owned by you and your wife. This is the "mad money" for both of you. Have two debit cards/checkbooks for this account. Once this account goes dry, it goes dry. No skirts, no games, no eating out, etc.
Family finances are serious business, no laughing matter. You know that. The name of the game is personal and financial discipline. You both must understand the concept of delayed gratification. Want that new skirt this month but there's not enough money in your Checking Account, then tough luck. She's got to wait until there is enough in that account. The same goes for you next time you want that new motherboard or videocard.
Edit: When Savings Account 2 gets to $10,000 (for example), then take $4,000 out and invest it. Buy stocks, bonds, metals, Roth IRA accounts, IRA accounts, property, etc. Anything that has the potential to appreciate in value. Try to keep a minimum of $6,000 in Savings Account 2. Repeat the investment process every time the account reaches that level.
Edit: The hope is, if you get an early enough start, the investments you buy and the money you save will have a combined worth of a MINIMUM of $1 million dollars by the time you reach your retirement age, be it 55, 65, or 70.
Edit: When little John or little Jane pop out, the belts get tighter and the savings rate gets higher. Consider 20% at least. Remember ONE college education at Harvard in the year 2035 will be about $500,000. Kids are to be planned for financially as well as in any other regard. Can't afford them now? Then you can't!