how would your parents react if you married outside your race?

[ThatsABigOne]

My mother would care if I will fall into a relationship with other race because she is Belorussian. In soviet union, those people with tone on their skin are considered as a disgrace.

So in some ways I feel uncomfortable around those who are outside my race because I was born and raised there.

My father is in the same boat as my mother.
My biology is predominately Eastern Orthodox which gets rid of that fear.

My stepfather would not mind anything as he was raised as a mormon. Thankfully he is not part of the church anymore as I cannot handle with the fact that you HAVE to go to church every sunday, and 10% of your income goes to church.

 

[Leros]

My girlfriend is Asian. My dad did a bit of a double-take when he first met her, but he's been pretty cool about it. Her parents on the other hand don't like that I'm white, but they kind of accept the fact that I'm dating her.

 

[steppinthrax]

Dad never got over with me marrying an Asian. Eventually, he tolerated it, but was never happy.

Mom has come to terms.

Wife still has not come to terms with the way that she was treated for 30+ years by them.

Funny thing is that Dad was in Europe (WWII) not in the Pacific theatre.

Interesting, my wife is from China. Both my dad and mom had similar reactions. My wife has a hard time dealing with the way my parents treated her.

 

[NetGuySC]

Their feelings would vary would depend on the race of the person that I married.

 

[steppinthrax]

I think if parents reactive negative to their children brining home someone from a different nationality, it may have something more to do with fear rather than discrimination/prejudice (which is commonly thought). Some of the common thoughts I think parents may have are:

1. I will have a harder time (due to cultural differences) getting along with or understanding my son/daughter in-law.

2. There is a misconception that person's of different nationalities have higher divorce rates.

3. I'm worried how my family will be perceived since my son/daughter married this person.

Or it could simply be racism (i.e. I don’t like ____ kind of people).

 

[Taejin]

That's actually common across cultures.

White skin was valued in western cultures when being poor meant you most likely worked outside and wound up tan. The lighter the skin, the clearer it was that you had the leisure to not work.

As jobs have shifted in Western culture to indoor work, tans have gotten popular. Now being tan indicates that you have the leisure to lay around and not work, while pasty white skin means you're a cube monkey.

interestingly, this hasn't happened in asian countries that have been relatively affluent for a period of time (Korea, Japan, etc)

 

[meltdown75]

np

 

[PhoKingGuy]

None of the girls parents ive dated have ever had a problem with me. Hell my ex's parents always invited me to stay at their house whenever we visited.

Half indian/half white kids are cute

 

[pontifex]

my mom would be fine. not sure how my dad would react. he probably would initially but then get over it. i think the biggest reaction would be if she was black. asian or latino would probably be less of a problem.


I was at party this weekend for a friend from work and it was probably 95% asian (vietnamese mostly). Definitely felt out of place at first but I got used to it. It helped that I like asian girls and there were plenty of hotties there.

 

[shortylickens]

They would have no issue with it.
In my moms case she would be bugging me for grandkids immediately.

 

[mmntech]

I met a Chinese girl online a couple years ago. My parents were more concerned about her trying to scam me to get into the country. Turns out her mom is here so its not like she needs me.

Aside from that, they've never been bothered.

 

[zerocool84]

My brother just married a Japanese girl. My brother lives in Japan. My mom really doesn't care.

 

[Jeff7]

Utterly thrilled, in that it would mean that I got married to someone.

 

[Matthiasa]

Utterly thrilled, in that it would mean that I got married to someone.

After some thinking probably this.
That or would depend on the race, though most likely they would have no issue.

 

[bfdd]

I wouldn't give a shit and since my parents love me, even if they did have a problem with it by proxy they wouldn't give a shit.

 

[Powermoloch]

my family is mixed, i'm mixed. NO one cares

 

[lothar]

Has nothing to do with race and everything to do with culture.

My mom would react the same way whether I want to marry a white person, an African-American or an Asian.
She would disapprove and do her best to dissuade me. At the end of the day, I would probably come to her point of view.

 

[mafia]

Both of my parents were born and raised in Poland. They probably wouldn't approve and would try to force a break up. That won't happen since I like Polish women, so I probably wouldn't date someone from another race in the first place. But if I did, they wouldn't be too happy about it.

 

[ModerateRepZero]

It's all about culture in my mom's view, and I consider her more tolerant and open-minded than my dad.

So I suspect they would strongly disapprove, but as long as the S.O. met with the parents and she seemed like a nice enough person, I'd make clear to my parents that as long as she's a good person, while I respect their opinion, I'm the person who's considering marriage, not them.

 

[BassBomb]

my parents are pakistani, so the last one

 

[RKS]

My wife's parents actually called her aside to make sure she knew I was "colored". My parents didn't want me to dating a whitey. Everybody was upset when we started going out. Her parents even made her read Not Without My Child which I still don't fully understand.

We celebrated our 10th Anniversary (after dating for 7 years) a few days ago and both sets of parents love hanging around us but I believe it's because we have two awesome and cute kids.

 

[Zebo]

My mom would not care she's a saint. My dad would do what mom says. But in private and with my brothers I'd get some shit. You know just fuckin around half serious banter like guys do. Basically no big deal.

 

[Sumguy]

They don't give a fuck. My parents are Haitian, my dad's side is light skinned since his grandfather was of pure German descent. A few of my cousins are half Japanese, some are blonde haired and blue eyed, others are (of course) black. Its funny because the oldest half-Japanese cousin has an accent, but can only speak broken Japanese