- Jun 10, 2005
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My girlfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half. I've had about 5 serious relationships in the past (serious means long term). This one was different.
I knew it was great. Everything has been perfect. No fights, nothing. We've taken two different vacations together. We got a dog. I thought we were going to get married. She lived with me over the summer before moving 20 minutes away for school.
And therein lies the problem. I'm 26 and she's 20.
She's at the point in her life where she wants to be single now. She wants independence. She sees her whole life in front of her and wants to change the world.
She told me she wants to breakup.
We talked all night last night and i told her that I can give her the freedom she needs and the ability to be herself. I'm not being controlling. I told her that I can give her space and that she can grow and that we can grow. I told her, for the sake of all we've gone through, and for the sake of how much we love eachother (she really cares about me, but there just isn't much room in her life for me right now) that its worht it to give it another try.
She didn't think she could, but after lots of talking we decided to spend New Years together, and then afterwards, i would give her space. We wouldn't 'break up' persay, but she would kind of leave me for a while. I think this is just her seeing an opportunity to end it without me freaking out.
We started this talk on christmas morning. The last three days have been hell. My family is in a bad situation right now with lots of illness and surgurys. My friends are all now either moved away or in very serious relaitonships. I used to rock climb a lot but i broke a few fingers on my hand and it kills me to climb. I can't take care of the dog by myself. I don't know what to do. I keep crying- and i'm not a crier, the only other time in recent memory is when my dad had a heart attack. I haven't eaten since the 24th. I have trouble sleeping. I feel like I can't deal. And, like i've said, i've dealt with heartbreak and break ups and stuff. But this is to an end that I can't even fathom. I keep having panic and anxiety attacks.
I know that this probably isn't the most supportive site in the world. but its really the only one i contribute to and I dont' know what to do or where to go. I'm so sad and i'm so scared.
I'm sorry for posting this emo bullshit but i never thought this would happen.
I knew it was great. Everything has been perfect. No fights, nothing. We've taken two different vacations together. We got a dog. I thought we were going to get married. She lived with me over the summer before moving 20 minutes away for school.
And therein lies the problem. I'm 26 and she's 20.
She's at the point in her life where she wants to be single now. She wants independence. She sees her whole life in front of her and wants to change the world.
She told me she wants to breakup.
We talked all night last night and i told her that I can give her the freedom she needs and the ability to be herself. I'm not being controlling. I told her that I can give her space and that she can grow and that we can grow. I told her, for the sake of all we've gone through, and for the sake of how much we love eachother (she really cares about me, but there just isn't much room in her life for me right now) that its worht it to give it another try.
She didn't think she could, but after lots of talking we decided to spend New Years together, and then afterwards, i would give her space. We wouldn't 'break up' persay, but she would kind of leave me for a while. I think this is just her seeing an opportunity to end it without me freaking out.
We started this talk on christmas morning. The last three days have been hell. My family is in a bad situation right now with lots of illness and surgurys. My friends are all now either moved away or in very serious relaitonships. I used to rock climb a lot but i broke a few fingers on my hand and it kills me to climb. I can't take care of the dog by myself. I don't know what to do. I keep crying- and i'm not a crier, the only other time in recent memory is when my dad had a heart attack. I haven't eaten since the 24th. I have trouble sleeping. I feel like I can't deal. And, like i've said, i've dealt with heartbreak and break ups and stuff. But this is to an end that I can't even fathom. I keep having panic and anxiety attacks.
I know that this probably isn't the most supportive site in the world. but its really the only one i contribute to and I dont' know what to do or where to go. I'm so sad and i'm so scared.
I'm sorry for posting this emo bullshit but i never thought this would happen.