Originally posted by: Fritzo
I've had a 7000-13000 balance for a couple of years now. I make $35000/yr, but she makes about $50000. Man, what a screwup
Originally posted by: Squisher
13K isn't so bad when your combined income is 85K, but not telling her about it is.
Take the whipping boy, say you're sorry, say you'll never do it again, and give her something to make her forget about it.
Sounds like a case of Lackus Nutsackus to me.Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
so what she think the bike new entertainment system, game consoles and computers magically appeared at your house...she should have known...
so seriously why do you feel the need to go behind her back..it seems your afraid of her...why?
Originally posted by: luvly
"Wife found out my large credit card balance, called me at work, and said she was going to have a 'talk' when I get home. Oh man.....probably going to be single for Christmas"
Maybe you deserve it really, especially when running a relationship as if you're single! Forget about the spending habit (which is bad enough), but concealing the facts from her awareness?
I think it's so important to know your significant other's spending habits before committing yourself to marriage. It will become an issue suddenly if it wasn't before. There are usually signs, but people often ignore it.
She makes more than you? Now, that makes it worse 'cuz your behaviour seems ruder. Sorry, but the prospect isn't good at all . . . the only alternative is treating this as an addiction and agreeing to get help 'cuz you've really gone faaaaaaaaaaaaar. . . . All right, it's your issue and yours to resolve, Fritzo. Best of luck!
You are a fine one to talk, you haven't even come to terms on whether you are going to digest or purge your dinner yet!Originally posted by: luvly
"Wife found out my large credit card balance, called me at work, and said she was going to have a 'talk' when I get home. Oh man.....probably going to be single for Christmas"
Maybe you deserve it really, especially when running a relationship as if you're single! Forget about the spending habit (which is bad enough), but concealing the facts from her awareness?
I think it's so important to know your significant other's spending habits before committing yourself to marriage. It will become an issue suddenly if it wasn't before. There are usually signs, but people often ignore it.
She makes more than you? Now, that makes it worse 'cuz your behaviour seems ruder. Sorry, but the prospect isn't good at all . . . the only alternative is treating this as an addiction and agreeing to get help 'cuz you've really gone faaaaaaaaaaaaar. . . . All right, it's your issue and yours to resolve
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
You are a fine one to talk, you haven't even come to terms on whether you are going to digest or purge your dinner yet!
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
You are a fine one to talk, you haven't even come to terms on whether you are going to digest or purge your dinner yet!
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Sounds like a case of Lackus Nutsackus to me.
Originally posted by: Thoreau
Makes me appreciate being single and living at home. Granted, I've got almost as much debt from various sources, not to mention a fortune (to me, and most people with some credit sense) tied up in a new Nissan SE-R (GO NISSAN!)
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Wife found out my large credit card balance, called me at work, and said she was going to have a "talk" when I get home. Oh man.....probably going to be single for Christmas
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Well, the results are in:
First 15 minutes in the door, she wanted me out by next weekend. We have two young kids that would be scarred for life if their father left during Christmas, so I think I'm going to be able to stay.
Right now I'm posting my vast fortune of stuff in the basement on Ebay and coming up with a plan to have this paid off within the next 12 months. I'm also giving her my credit card (I didn't max it BTW- it has a 17500 limit) and a monthly statement showing what I paid for with my checks.
I've always had a problem living beyond my means. I know I have a problem and really want to work this out. I hope she gives me the chance The fact that my car is paid off this month, I'm getting a $1200 Christmas bonus, and a raise at the start of the year would mean I could probably pull this off. When I do I'm telling them to lower my credit limit to $2000 and never raise it. Hopefully that will stop this from happening ever again.
Oh...and the damned Satan of the Internet is being removed from my "favorites" today heh.
Originally posted by: Fritzo
It's all my money. I pay all the bills except for her car payment. She's going to get me on the "WE COULD HAVE HAD THAT MUCH MONEY IN OUR SAVINGS" angle. *sigh*...what's a good single's website?
Originally posted by: Red Dawn
You are a fine one to talk, you haven't even come to terms on whether you are going to digest or purge your dinner yet!Originally posted by: luvly
"Wife found out my large credit card balance, called me at work, and said she was going to have a 'talk' when I get home. Oh man.....probably going to be single for Christmas"
Maybe you deserve it really, especially when running a relationship as if you're single! Forget about the spending habit (which is bad enough), but concealing the facts from her awareness?
I think it's so important to know your significant other's spending habits before committing yourself to marriage. It will become an issue suddenly if it wasn't before. There are usually signs, but people often ignore it.
She makes more than you? Now, that makes it worse 'cuz your behaviour seems ruder. Sorry, but the prospect isn't good at all . . . the only alternative is treating this as an addiction and agreeing to get help 'cuz you've really gone faaaaaaaaaaaaar. . . . All right, it's your issue and yours to resolve
Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
Ok, so let me get this straight... She wanted to kick you out over some debt? Meanwhile you make less than her AND pay all the bills? Yah, that makes a lot of sense.
Yet another reason why I refuse to get married. Screw fighting my wife over how I spend the money I've made while she does whatever with hers.