Originally posted by: MrChad
I hope you're making six figures if you can rack up $13,000 in CC charges that easily.
Actually, I think I heard the average credit card balance for Americans a few weeks beek. If I recall correctly, it was about $13K.
Originally posted by: MrChad
I hope you're making six figures if you can rack up $13,000 in CC charges that easily.
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: Xionide
Damn, skrewed up situation. But dont worry there is definately hope. My neighbors wife gambled there house away, yes their house! And guess what, they are still together. The problem isnt money it seems like something maybe deeper. So try to repair things the best you can and try not to do it again. If things between you and her really absolutely cannot be solved, dont stay together for the kids. My parents did that and it did ten times more harm than good. Good luck on getting this all back together.
-Xionide
This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as "Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!" "What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?"
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: Xionide
Damn, skrewed up situation. But dont worry there is definately hope. My neighbors wife gambled there house away, yes their house! And guess what, they are still together. The problem isnt money it seems like something maybe deeper. So try to repair things the best you can and try not to do it again. If things between you and her really absolutely cannot be solved, dont stay together for the kids. My parents did that and it did ten times more harm than good. Good luck on getting this all back together.
-Xionide
This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as "Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!" "What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?"
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault
Originally posted by: pillage2001
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: Xionide
Damn, skrewed up situation. But dont worry there is definately hope. My neighbors wife gambled there house away, yes their house! And guess what, they are still together. The problem isnt money it seems like something maybe deeper. So try to repair things the best you can and try not to do it again. If things between you and her really absolutely cannot be solved, dont stay together for the kids. My parents did that and it did ten times more harm than good. Good luck on getting this all back together.
-Xionide
This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as "Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!" "What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?"
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault
With all respect due, she has some serious issues! :Q
That's my girl! She's analytical, which is cool and very useful in life. I sense some perfectionism in the process. It can be harmful too, but a smart person uses it positively. She would do detective work or law . . .
Originally posted by: luvly
"I've always had a problem living beyond my means. I know I have a problem and really want to work this out. I hope she gives me the chance"
Fritzo, you do not deserve that chance. Nevertheless, I do hope you give your family and yourself that chance. You have the situation in your control, not the other way around.
"First 15 minutes in the door, she wanted me out by next weekend. We have two young kids that would be scarred for life if their father left during Christmas, so I think I'm going to be able to stay."
Well, I guess you do have a chance to redeem yourself. Get creative fast! Take care of your debts and redeem yourself. Necessity is the mother of invention.
If I were in this situation, in spite of the children, I would ask him to leave and straighten himself first. I could work with him whilst he's away if he's serious about changing. You aren't enabling your family by spending unreasonably; rather, you're disabling your family. Not only did you spend foolishly, you concealed the truth thereby opening wounds and distrust. I really wish, not you, but your family well. Hope you work things out, and get your acts together! Keep us updated. (Of course, the above are my expressed opinion, not a divine revelation or truth.)
[Red Dawn:] "You are a fine one to talk, you haven't even come to terms on whether you are going to digest or purge your dinner yet!"
LMAO! It wouldn't be so funny if it were true. Good one, especially considering the fact that I haven't even had dinner or contemplated it.
Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
so what she think the bike new entertainment system, game consoles and computers magically appeared at your house...she should have known...
so seriously why do you feel the need to go behind her back..it seems your afraid of her...why?
Originally posted by: MattCo
Originally posted by: ITJunkie
Then don't go home...go get drunk :beer:Originally posted by: Fritzo I tend to buy things without her knowing...looks like they stacked up a little too much. 4 minutes until I go home :/
Five minutes between your double posts.... whats up with that?
-MC
Originally posted by: luvly
"This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as 'Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!' 'What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?'
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault"
That's my girl! She's analytical, which is cool and very useful in life. I sense some perfectionism in the process. It can be harmful too, but a smart person uses it positively. She would do detective work or law . . . it's excellent for that kind of personality. You free that part of you and avoid putting it upon your loved ones. A perfect match would be a guy who's good-tempered, has a good sense of discipline, including good habits, respectful, remorseful but able to stand up for himself. Of course you see how that personality could go wrong.
Having said that, I think she does exhibit obssessive behaviour. Her analytical nature seems to have changed into controlling nature. She picked the perfect guy for that, so I'm not about to beat her up for it. You make yourself available for it, so be it. A perfect match for this extreme, in contrast, is a submissive guy, soft-spoken, quick to be remorseful, and has no back bone. Of course this could work too! Let me guess: are you Libra or she Capricorn? Is she older than you?
That said, I still think you acted irresponsible and deserve what you're getting. Her nature doesn't exonerate you of the irresponsible conduct. Perhaps you can begin making excuses/justification for your behaviour, both the spending and hiding, by blaming her and her lack of affections. Nevertheless, it's not going to get you anywhere in life playing the victim role.
Originally posted by: luvly
"This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as 'Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!' 'What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?'
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault"
That's my girl! She's analytical, which is cool and very useful in life. I sense some perfectionism in the process. It can be harmful too, but a smart person uses it positively. She would do detective work or law . . . it's excellent for that kind of personality. You free that part of you and avoid putting it upon your loved ones. A perfect match would be a guy who's good-tempered, has a good sense of discipline, including good habits, respectful, remorseful but able to stand up for himself. Of course you see how that personality could go wrong.
Having said that, I think she does exhibit obssessive behaviour. Her analytical nature seems to have changed into controlling nature. She picked the perfect guy for that, so I'm not about to beat her up for it. You make yourself available for it, so be it. A perfect match for this extreme, in contrast, is a submissive guy, soft-spoken, quick to be remorseful, and has no back bone. Of course this could work too! Let me guess: are you Libra or she Capricorn? Is she older than you?
That said, I still think you acted irresponsible and deserve what you're getting. Her nature doesn't exonerate you of the irresponsible conduct. Perhaps you can begin making excuses/justification for your behaviour, both the spending and hiding, by blaming her and her lack of affections. Nevertheless, it's not going to get you anywhere in life playing the victim role.
Originally posted by: luvly
"What was the dead giveaway? When he said she was a cop?"
No, Sluggo. The three lists he gave was the giveaway!
[DaviDavinci:] "I sincerely feel sorry for the man that marries you and has kids with u."
I equally feel sorry for any woman that would marry you. You need that kind of woman who can take control; else, she would be a "vicitim".
My personal life is none of your biz! For all you know, maybe I plan on getting a sperm donor. Ever thought of that? Maybe you, as a boy, aren't as important in the picture as you imagined.
Originally posted by: Sluggo
Originally posted by: pillage2001
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: Xionide
Damn, skrewed up situation. But dont worry there is definately hope. My neighbors wife gambled there house away, yes their house! And guess what, they are still together. The problem isnt money it seems like something maybe deeper. So try to repair things the best you can and try not to do it again. If things between you and her really absolutely cannot be solved, dont stay together for the kids. My parents did that and it did ten times more harm than good. Good luck on getting this all back together.
-Xionide
This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as "Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!" "What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?"
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault
With all respect due, she has some serious issues! :Q
They both have some serious issues.
She is a control freak and a perfectionist, he rebels against her by doing things he KNOWS will make her livid.
Her job requires an authoritarian complex at most times, and she most likely has trouble dropping this persona when she is off-duty. He spends time fighting her authority by sneaking around and spending money, running up bills that are double of what she believes them to be.
My guess is that your marriage is on thin ice, and paying off this CC balance wont fix it. Some serious marriage and financial counseling would go a long way.
Of course, I could be wrong.
Originally posted by: luvly
"Honestly, why even post?
Translated: 'He's a spineless wonder and she's a domineering bitch'
Well, thank you captain fvcking obvious
By the way, I hate to call into question your incredible astute psychoanalysis of a person you've never met... however, an analytical person most likely does not dump things at the first hint of a problem. Like a vehicle for instance. Also, a controlling analytical perfectionist would also probably know what forms and amounts of debt they have.
Just a thought."
Why bother going through all that trouble of acting as a spokesman for the original poster?He's still alive, you know? I don't think he needs someone else--in addition to his wife--to represent him all the time. He can read himself. He can also dismiss or confirm something said, can't he?