Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I have a feeling that mr. Fritzo is misrepresenting his wife just a bit... The person at fault always has a tendency to villify the victim in an effort to make his crimes understandable.. Don't get me wrong - I understand that shopping bug and understand that fritz just made a mistake.. Notice how fritz initially said that he spends all of his money on household expenses and that his wife only pays for her car? Then the truth came out that she also pays for everyday expenses and food.. That, my friends, adds up.. The initial statement made his wife seem like a mean bitch who saves up her $$ for fun while Fritzo pays for everything... Sure, Mrs. Fritzo probably hasn't been in a pleasant mood lately (I have a feeling that this isn't the first time that this happened - notice she's the one saving for a rainy day and he's not .. perhaps he's unable to save anything so they have his pay automatically go to paying the bills?) but I have a feeling that his spending is a major long term problem in their relationship..
No, I never meant to misrepresent my wife and make anyone thing she keeps all of her money while I pay for everything. The reason we have this situation is she gets benefits for having a direct deposit into her job's credit union. The credit union does not have electronic banking. She tends to procrastinate in mailing out bills (she obviously has plenty of money to pay them, just getting stamps and putting the bill in the mail was the problem). My bank has better benefits for me, and has electronic banking. I can pay all of our bills in 10 minutes through my account, so I pay the bills. It's something I elected to do.
Next, my wife is not a villain. This entire situation is my fault, no one else's. She has an abrasive personality, as opposed to my "laid back, shy" personality. I always tease her that she was a bully when growing up, and I was the one she picked on heheheh. However, she's about the best, most caring mother I have ever seen. However, other issues would be that she seems to love the kids more than me (we rarely do anything as a couple, the kids are always involved. When we do get away by ourselves, she spends most of the time missing the kids). I've always had a "walking on eggshells" relationship with her...especially when I come home from work or when she gets home. She works from 8pm-4am, and would tend to wake me up and start bitching at me when she got home about things like "there's dishes in the sink!" or "you could have picked up the toys before you went to bed!" As a result I would get a sinking feeling when I would hear her car pull up in the drive. This hasn't happened in a year and a half though because she's been going through a rehabilitating back injury that pretty much had her bed ridden all of last year. She had spinal surgery in July and I've been helping her recover since. She's calmed down a lot in the last year and a half, but she does still tend to be angry when I get home from work (normally from the kids driving her nuts, then taking it out on me).
You know, as I'm typing this, I think I'm seeing something...my marriage DOES stink. I'm actually thinking we should try this separation. The major loss of income and her awesome health benefits would be seriously missed, but not feeling anxious all the time might be a relief. I don't know. I think I would miss my kids too much (they would definitely miss me...especially my son). They would be better off living with their mother than me as I'm too busy to devote the amount of time to them that she does. Tough decision