Originally posted by: creedog
Fritzo, I see this as a good thing for you. Obviously you were not happy (I read the birthday post). Thats just not right. She is just to right for you. Yea, you fusked up with the debt thing. I see you amassing that debt as a way of trying to make yourself happy despite the fact that you are unhappy. People overspend all the time when they are depressed, ya know.
Take control. Of your finances and your life. This is your chance to start over. Sure you have some debt, but you can pay it down.
Get a lawyer BTW/
I celebrate my wife's birthday, but she won't celebrate mine
I make her a cake, take her to dinner, get her a gift.
For me, she buys me a cake if she feels like it, then tells me to go buy myself something for my birthday (oooooo...special ).
I know---why do I do anything for her birthday? Well, if I don't, she'll have the argument of "you didn't do anything for me, why should I?" Where as if I do, I'll have years and years of guilt that I can call upon in the future It's an investment hehheheheh.
Originally posted by: AkumaX
birthday thread here
I celebrate my wife's birthday, but she won't celebrate mine
I make her a cake, take her to dinner, get her a gift.
For me, she buys me a cake if she feels like it, then tells me to go buy myself something for my birthday (oooooo...special ).
I know---why do I do anything for her birthday? Well, if I don't, she'll have the argument of "you didn't do anything for me, why should I?" Where as if I do, I'll have years and years of guilt that I can call upon in the future It's an investment hehheheheh.
Originally posted by: AkumaX
birthday thread here
I celebrate my wife's birthday, but she won't celebrate mine
I make her a cake, take her to dinner, get her a gift.
For me, she buys me a cake if she feels like it, then tells me to go buy myself something for my birthday (oooooo...special ).
I know---why do I do anything for her birthday? Well, if I don't, she'll have the argument of "you didn't do anything for me, why should I?" Where as if I do, I'll have years and years of guilt that I can call upon in the future It's an investment hehheheheh.
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Well, the results are in:
First 15 minutes in the door, she wanted me out by next weekend. We have two young kids that would be scarred for life if their father left during Christmas, so I think I'm going to be able to stay.
Right now I'm posting my vast fortune of stuff in the basement on Ebay and coming up with a plan to have this paid off within the next 12 months. I'm also giving her my credit card (I didn't max it BTW- it has a 17500 limit) and a monthly statement showing what I paid for with my checks.
I've always had a problem living beyond my means. I know I have a problem and really want to work this out. I hope she gives me the chance The fact that my car is paid off this month, I'm getting a $1200 Christmas bonus, and a raise at the start of the year would mean I could probably pull this off. When I do I'm telling them to lower my credit limit to $2000 and never raise it. Hopefully that will stop this from happening ever again.
Oh...and the damned Satan of the Internet is being removed from my "favorites" today heh.
Originally posted by: DaviDaVinci
Originally posted by: luvly
"What was the dead giveaway? When he said she was a cop?"
No, Sluggo. The three lists he gave was the giveaway!
[DaviDavinci:] "I sincerely feel sorry for the man that marries you and has kids with u."
I equally feel sorry for any woman that would marry you. You need that kind of woman who can take control; else, she would be a "vicitim".
My personal life is none of your biz! For all you know, maybe I plan on getting a sperm donor. Ever thought of that? Maybe you, as a boy, aren't as important in the picture as you imagined.
WTF is your prob luvly? And YES, you probably WILL have to get a sperm donor. At least I hope you do so no man has to suffer. I can't agree with flxnimprtmscl more on "call into question your incredible astute psychoanalysis of a person you've never met" You tend to do that quite often. And as in the picture thread, I've told you not to post any more of your garbage towards me, unless you have the ovaries/testicles to answer all my other questions posted to you. Everytime you responds to a poster's questions or comments directed to you, you tend to ONLY answer some of them not all based on convenience or ignorance. Seems like when people point out the truth to you, it hurts, thus you shy away from responding and only respond to something irrelevant.
Do you have any sincere sympathy or humanity in you. Anyone can pretend to be human, but it takes a real women/men to BE one.
So take your jargon elsewhere. You are a walking heartless mannequin. Now go and pretend to eat something.
From me to you once again. Dinner.
BTW, what is a model such as you doing here anyways? I though AT was a place for intellectuals.
Talk to you soon Ms. Cleopatra.
Originally posted by: cashman
Fritzo, I'm really sorry for what she is doing to you. I bet it's killing you inside. The sad thing is IMO, if she really, truly, still loved you, I think she would of let you stay and you guys could work things out. But she just pushed you aside like a problem, not someone you love. I'm really sorry dude, let us know if we can do anything for you.
luvly is definitely right with that statement.I think it's so important to know your significant other's spending habits before committing yourself to marriage. It will become an issue suddenly if it wasn't before.
Originally posted by: Skoorb
luvly is definitely right with that statement.I think it's so important to know your significant other's spending habits before committing yourself to marriage. It will become an issue suddenly if it wasn't before.
BTW I'm thinking that this isn't just all of a sudden fritzo's wife realizes he's bad with money and suddenly says she wants him out. It's obviously a long term problem (unless she's nuts).
If this is something you've not received flak for in the past and then she turns on a dime and says you're out well then she needs help, or she wanted to end things with you anyway and is merely looking for an excuse. However, if you've had talks with her in the past about this and you continue to wreak havoc on your family's financial future I find it quite acceptable for her to come down on you hard. Doing this at Christmas is questionable, but without her here we only have your side. She may be trying to beat sense into you. If I was making 50k/year and my wife was making 35k year and she was spending a ton of money on crap, while I'm trying just to save money for our kids, you can bet I'd be pissed. It's quite understandable.
Going back to luvly's point when mrsskoorb and I got married it was important to me that I would not marry somebody terrible with money. If one person in a relationship is good with it and the other is bad it's easier for the other to sabotage the finances than the good person to repair them. Finances are such an intricate part of our lives that those two people will find it almost impossible to get along well. Money is not the most important thing in our lives, but you have to be realistic with things. If you're up to your ass in debt you lose freedom to do things like send the kids to a private school.
Anyway, as I've mentinoed before and always will mention: Adults should not have credit card debt (emergencies/job loss, etc. aside). If you have any then you're, by definition, over spending. I don't care if your interest rate is 0% or 30%. It's money you don't have that you're spending on frivolous crap you _do not need_. If you have credit card debt _stop bloody well spending_ money on crap. Some think that $20k in debt is ok for their income. Others think 5k is, or $500. Well, the fact is you shouldn't have any.
Something you should try is to have a joint checking account. Mrsskoorb and I do and we're aware (me more than her, since she can't be bothered to check!) of any spending that goes on together. It's inconceivable for us that either one would eventually find out about hidden spending since we both spend from the same source and have our own card on the same credit card account.
Originally posted by: lizardboy
Look at the bright side, since she makes more than you maybe you'll get some alimony out of this
Originally posted by: freegeeks
Originally posted by: Skoorb
luvly is definitely right with that statement.I think it's so important to know your significant other's spending habits before committing yourself to marriage. It will become an issue suddenly if it wasn't before.
BTW I'm thinking that this isn't just all of a sudden fritzo's wife realizes he's bad with money and suddenly says she wants him out. It's obviously a long term problem (unless she's nuts).
If this is something you've not received flak for in the past and then she turns on a dime and says you're out well then she needs help, or she wanted to end things with you anyway and is merely looking for an excuse. However, if you've had talks with her in the past about this and you continue to wreak havoc on your family's financial future I find it quite acceptable for her to come down on you hard. Doing this at Christmas is questionable, but without her here we only have your side. She may be trying to beat sense into you. If I was making 50k/year and my wife was making 35k year and she was spending a ton of money on crap, while I'm trying just to save money for our kids, you can bet I'd be pissed. It's quite understandable.
Going back to luvly's point when mrsskoorb and I got married it was important to me that I would not marry somebody terrible with money. If one person in a relationship is good with it and the other is bad it's easier for the other to sabotage the finances than the good person to repair them. Finances are such an intricate part of our lives that those two people will find it almost impossible to get along well. Money is not the most important thing in our lives, but you have to be realistic with things. If you're up to your ass in debt you lose freedom to do things like send the kids to a private school.
Anyway, as I've mentinoed before and always will mention: Adults should not have credit card debt (emergencies/job loss, etc. aside). If you have any then you're, by definition, over spending. I don't care if your interest rate is 0% or 30%. It's money you don't have that you're spending on frivolous crap you _do not need_. If you have credit card debt _stop bloody well spending_ money on crap. Some think that $20k in debt is ok for their income. Others think 5k is, or $500. Well, the fact is you shouldn't have any.
Something you should try is to have a joint checking account. Mrsskoorb and I do and we're aware (me more than her, since she can't be bothered to check!) of any spending that goes on together. It's inconceivable for us that either one would eventually find out about hidden spending since we both spend from the same source and have our own card on the same credit card account.
best post in this thread
STOP SPENDING MONEY THAT YOU DON'T HAVE
good luck Fritzo
Originally posted by: Maverick
ouch man I feel your pain...my gf gets on my case about the cc purchases as well. Women like to keep guys in line when it comes to buying gadgets.
Originally posted by: Fritzo
I've had a 7000-13000 balance for a couple of years now. I make $35000/yr, but she makes about $50000. Man, what a screwup