I wonder how long it took her to write this? She probably sits down, with thesaurus and dictionary in hand, for a good half-hour to type this tiresome babble. Why don't you spend the half-hour finding a head to replace your box?
Originally posted by: luvly
"This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as 'Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!' 'What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?'
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault"
That's my girl! She's analytical, which is cool and very useful in life. I sense some perfectionism in the process. It can be harmful too, but a smart person uses it positively. She would do detective work or law . . . it's excellent for that kind of personality. You free that part of you and avoid putting it upon your loved ones. A perfect match would be a guy who's good-tempered, has a good sense of discipline, including good habits, respectful, remorseful but able to stand up for himself. Of course you see how that personality could go wrong.
Having said that, I think she does exhibit obssessive behaviour. Her analytical nature seems to have changed into controlling nature. She picked the perfect guy for that, so I'm not about to beat her up for it. You make yourself available for it, so be it. A perfect match for this extreme, in contrast, is a submissive guy, soft-spoken, quick to be remorseful, and has no back bone. Of course this could work too! Let me guess: are you Libra or she Capricorn? Is she older than you?
That said, I still think you acted irresponsible and deserve what you're getting. Her nature doesn't exonerate you of the irresponsible conduct. Perhaps you can begin making excuses/justification for your behaviour, both the spending and hiding, by blaming her and her lack of affections. Nevertheless, it's not going to get you anywhere in life playing the victim role.
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: Fritzo
It's all my money. I pay all the bills except for her car payment. She's going to get me on the "WE COULD HAVE HAD THAT MUCH MONEY IN OUR SAVINGS" angle. *sigh*...what's a good single's website?
You make $35K, she makes $50K.. You pay all the bills (rent, utils, food, etc.) except her car payment. She makes $50K, and only pays her car payment. I'd guess the reason your credit balance is so high is because your cash flow is tied up because she's not helping out with the expenses. And then she has the gall to be mad at you... :disgust:
Sounds to me like she's using you.
Originally posted by: boyRacer
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Originally posted by: Xionide
Damn, skrewed up situation. But dont worry there is definately hope. My neighbors wife gambled there house away, yes their house! And guess what, they are still together. The problem isnt money it seems like something maybe deeper. So try to repair things the best you can and try not to do it again. If things between you and her really absolutely cannot be solved, dont stay together for the kids. My parents did that and it did ten times more harm than good. Good luck on getting this all back together.
-Xionide
This seems to be an ongoing question, so I should clear it up. My wife is a very intollerant person. She's also very untrusting and suspicous of everyone due to her upbringing and her job (she's a cop). Some examples:
1. She manually checks the facts of anyone that gives her information on something, such as "Hey! Consumer Reports rated that dishwasher tops!" "What month and what page of the magazine listed that review?"
2. Got a puppy. Wanted to get rid of it the first time it peed on the floor.
3. Got a small dent on her van from someone hitting it in a parking lot. Instead of fixing it, she thought it would never be right again and got a whole new van.
She's got a lot of good qualities too, and she's not as bad as she used to be, but this is the reason she would want a divorce over this. This is a major problem, so instead of dealing with it, she'd rather get rid of the problem all together. Fortunately I don't think she'll do it, but I'm still sweating it out. *sigh* Life sucks and it's my own fault
holy isht... honestly... if you didnt have any kids... i wouldve been happy to get a divorce if i were you. sorry.
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Update: She called me at work and said she'd have a bag packed for me when I got home. Looks like it's over My parents live in town, maybe I could shack up there for a while.
Originally posted by: Zebo
This is so sad
Personally I see totally different personalities which are unable to communicate at an adult level. How long did you date this woman before marraige? Or did you both Just grow appart?
I'm not blaming anyone...theres a fundemtal problem in this relationship or you would'nt go on sophmoric spending sprees and she wold'nt LORD over you.
Originally posted by: Fritzo
Update: She called me at work and said she'd have a bag packed for me when I got home. Looks like it's over My parents live in town, maybe I could shack up there for a while.
Originally posted by: 66FMC
If my significant other was spending a bunch of money with out discussing it with me, well, id be f***in pissed too.
Your wife obviously wears the pants in the family which is probably a good thing.
Id dump YOUR ass.
Originally posted by: JBAR
13K is not much. I just paid off close to 40K in CC debt.
Originally posted by: Amorphus
just finished reading the thread, and the first thing I have to say is HOLY FSCK LUVLY IS AN IDIOT!
she embodies human stupidity at its "finest". this is amazing, how she can just keep babbling on and on.
Fritzo: take a hint from SaigonK's divorce thread: do not move out. she can't make you move out of the house. sleep in a different room, and at least stay until Christmas is over. don't let the kids get involved in your strife - that will just scar them.
Originally posted by: Amorphus
just finished reading the thread, and the first thing I have to say is HOLY FSCK LUVLY IS AN IDIOT!
she embodies human stupidity at its "finest". this is amazing, how she can just keep babbling on and on.
Fritzo: take a hint from SaigonK's divorce thread: do not move out. she can't make you move out of the house. sleep in a different room, and at least stay until Christmas is over. don't let the kids get involved in your strife - that will just scar them.