Originally posted by: luvly
"What was the dead giveaway? When he said she was a cop?"
No, Sluggo. The three lists he gave was the giveaway!
[DaviDavinci:] "I sincerely feel sorry for the man that marries you and has kids with u."
I equally feel sorry for any woman that would marry you. You need that kind of woman who can take control; else, she would be a "vicitim".
My personal life is none of your biz! For all you know, maybe I plan on getting a sperm donor. Ever thought of that? Maybe you, as a boy, aren't as important in the picture as you imagined.
[Gobadgrs:] "At what point is he playing the victim? He said it was all his fault and that hes bad with money. Hes putting up items for sale on Ebay to try and rectify the problem.... Is it because hes a guy? Also nice to know that you'll drop any potential partner that you have at the first sign of trouble...."
No, he hasn't explicitly played the victim. However, he's done so implicitly. He has sympathisers already faulting his wife and ignoring his irresponsible behaviour. Basically, I was referring to him accepting, as an option, the "you're a victim" doctrine that's starting to surface.
No, I didn't say I would drop a potential partner at the first sign of trouble, not even implicitly. I simply said that this kind of behaviour would be one to warrant a dismissal. Some behaviours, I think, are totally unacceptable. I think this is one of them, since it's no longer about an individual's liberty. At this point, he's harming members of his family by acting irresponsible in this manner. His behaviour could lead to bankruptcy and more. Besides, this kind of behaviour was likely there before he met the lady, even if it wasn't as pronounced as now. In my view, it's clean up now or never. If he isn't shown the door, he won't see a reason to change.