I came out to my best friend today........Update 11/7 - It's Finally over!

[RagingBITCH]

I thought you had a wife/girlfriend, a kid, and a new house? Or am I thinking of someone totally different?

Anyway, that explains the choice of vehicle in a xB, but :beer: to you for coming out

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: notfred
I'm wondering why you were worried about telling a lesbian that you are gay. What was she going to do? Call you a pervert and say you'd burn in hell? Doesn't seem likely. I dunno... seems to be about the least threatening person you can come out to.

Now, when you tell your parents - that might be harder.

Yeah, that was the first thing that crossed my mind.

Anyway, good luck with when it comes time to clue the folks in, rbloedow; hopefully they'll understand but life can be harsh sometimes and you never know, so keep your chin up. Oh, and stay away from Nebor, I think he and Alkemyst have something going.

 

[pyonir]

And here i'm worried about telling my parents i'm an atheist (my mom is pretty religious). :Q

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: jumpr
Congratulations for taking such an important and brave step in your life. That takes guts, no matter how you do it.

Good luck to you.

 

[CrazyHelloDeli]

Congrats?

I told everyone on here that I was insane, and I didnt get any congrats. WTF?

Congrats that you're Gay, I guess

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: HelloDeli
Congrats?

I told everyone on here that I was insane, and I didnt get any congrats. WTF?

Congrats that you're Gay, I guess

we all knew you were insane though.

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: brigden
Well done, mate.

I find it amusing that the large majority of posts are supportive and positive in nature, considering my thread about being mistaken for gay, where most people used the term in a derogative context. Of course, they know I'm straight, so that makes it acceptable, right?

Unfortunately, many people on this board will treat you differently now.

That's because you're in denial, and people praise honesty.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Never mind that. How do you feel about the uncircumcised penis?

Seriously though, good luck with that coming out thing. That must be a tough part of the country to be openly homosexual in.

Not if he's in or near Orlando.

...and yeah, about the whole "cut v uncut" debate....yours would be a fresh perspective.

Seriously though, way to go.

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: HelloDeli
Congrats?

I told everyone on here that I was insane, and I didnt get any congrats. WTF?

Congrats that you're Gay, I guess

Hey, congrats on your insanity HD, I hope that works out for you too. Of course, "works out" in your case means a straight jacket, padded room, and a lifetime supply of jell-o and plastic spoons.

 

[frankierx]

Originally posted by: rbloedow
I feel akward telling a bunch of geeks on AT this, but this community has been very important to me over the past couple of years, so why not share an important piece of who I am with AT.

I've been dreading telling anyone this for a long time, but the question has never really come up wiht my family, and I've hidden it from my best friend since we met. I didn't want to be one of those people who lived fake lives, only to tell their wife and kids they were gay after a 10 year disfunctional marriage or something like that. Why should I fear being who I am, and fear people's reactions? I've finally gotten the nerve to let her know - after all, she is my best friend. I made a pact with myself a few months ago that I would tell her, but everytime I tried, I would either avoid the discussion all together, I'd chicken out.

Seriously, how hard can it be to tell your best friend that you're homosexual, especially considering that she is too? I agonized over it in my head, almost as if I was two people. Part of me would say "Just go it - it's only 3 little words - I AM GAY", the other would fear what kind of reaction I'd get from her, and not want to go through with it. The feeling of uncertainty is something I've never really had to cope with, and the uncertainty of her reaction scared me. Woudl she stop being my friend, would our relationship suddenly change, WHAT WOULD HAPPEN?!?!?! :Q

So today, I hung out at her house (she needed her computer fixed - it's always nice to find spyware and virus infested hardware, but that's another story, obviously!). I had told her yesterday that I needed to talk to her about something important today, so today was the day.

We ran a couple of errands - and on the way back to her place - I know I had to spill the beans. I didn't want this to be any kind of mushy announcement, just simple and to the point.

So, sitting at a red light I looked at her and said "Anna, I'm gay, and I just wanted to let you know. You're the first person I've told". I know I had this scared and confused look on my face, awaiting her reaction.

She laughed and asked if this was a joke. :frown:

That wasn't one of the reactions I thought she would have. In the days prior to today, I felt like one of those hurricane prediction computers, instead of spitting out multiple ways to obliterate Florida, I was calculating what her response would be - and that wasn't one of them. I was expecing something much more harsh. When I told her I was serious, she told me she was a little surprised, but that we were still cool and that she loved me. The weight had been lifted, and I felt like such an idiot for agonizing over something was really no big deal - I had made an elephant out of an ant.

So, one of my life's major mile markers has past, and I just wanted to let you guys know

Cliffnotes:
- Grap lip, pull over head, and swallow

I told my buddy that he is obviously gay.....he shows no interest in making convo with women he or we meet in public..

He denies this and gives me the 'innocent until proven guilty' crap....I am hesitant to even call him on the phone....communicating only via email....

I am not badgering gayness....just when my buddy is obviously gay but not admitting to it........pulling this lawyer wannabe crap on me inorder to win his argument...well ya know what....im just not going to talk to him via phone and only communicate via email...if we don't ever see or talk to each other in person...then well......just have to move on then......we'll see...

 

[T2T III]

Good job!

I'm sure you must feel that an unbelievable weight has been lifted. Most of us live our lives with fear of judgement. I can only imagine that hiding who you really are isn't so good for oneself either.

 

[lokiju]

:thumbsup:

 

[Ogg]

:thumbsup::beer:

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: Ogg
:thumbsup::beer:

 

[Shelly21]

Wow.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: frankierx


I told my buddy that he is obviously gay.....he shows no interest in making convo with women he or we meet in public..

He denies this and gives me the 'innocent until proven guilty' crap....I am hesitant to even call him on the phone....communicating only via email....

I am not badgering gayness....just when my buddy is obviously gay but not admitting to it........pulling this lawyer wannabe crap on me inorder to win his argument...well ya know what....im just not going to talk to him via phone and only communicate via email...if we don't ever see or talk to each other in person...then well......just have to move on then......we'll see...

Dude....get a clue and grow up. Who cares if your friend is gay? What do you hope to accomplish by browbeating him into giving you an answer about his sexuality? If he is gay, all you're going to do is drive him away from you, as if not talking to him in person wasn't bad enough.

If he's gay and wants to tell you, then let him do it when he feels comfortable. Otherwise, you're making yourself sound like a homophobe or a closeted gay who can't even admit it to himself. :roll:

To the OP: Congratulations on being able to come out to your friend and I hope your parents are equally accepting of it.

 

[Bryophyte]

The people who love you probably already figured it out, and those that haven't figured it out will probably react with the same acceptance as your friend. Don't worry yourself sick about it, rbloedow.

:beer:

 

[TheVrolok]

Good deal. Congrats to you, glad things are finally out.

 

[gopunk]

wow congrats... never suspected you were gay!

 

[Mo0o]

There really aren't that many people out there that will truely shun you. Atleast where i lived, i haven't met anyone that said they hated gay people.

 

[Azraele]

That took a lot of courage to say, I'm sure. Good job.

 

[iamme]

aw, where's the "Congrats on your Gay Thread" pic when you need it???

 

[iamme]

Originally posted by: frankierx

I told my buddy that he is obviously gay.....he shows no interest in making convo with women he or we meet in public..

He denies this and gives me the 'innocent until proven guilty' crap....I am hesitant to even call him on the phone....communicating only via email....

I am not badgering gayness....just when my buddy is obviously gay but not admitting to it........pulling this lawyer wannabe crap on me inorder to win his argument...well ya know what....im just not going to talk to him via phone and only communicate via email...if we don't ever see or talk to each other in person...then well......just have to move on then......we'll see...

you're an idiot.

 

[ohtwell]

I'm sure that must have been tough on you. I'm glad you had the courage to do it, and I'm also glad that you felt comfortable telling us about it as well.


: ) Amanda

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: brigden
Well done, mate.

I find it amusing that the large majority of posts are supportive and positive in nature, considering my thread about being mistaken for gay, where most people used the term in a derogative context. Of course, they know I'm straight, so that makes it acceptable, right?

Unfortunately, many people on this board will treat you differently now.

You are not straight. There isn't anything wrong with that I guess but constantly denying it is probably not good for your mental health. Come on out it isn't like it will cost you a bunch of money for a new wardrobe or anything.