I came out to my best friend today........Update 11/7 - It's Finally over!

[kyparrish]

Originally posted by: jumpr
Congratulations for taking such an important and brave step in your life. That takes guts, no matter how you do it.

Good luck to you.

 

[Viper GTS]

OK folks, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but our buddy here's a little inconsistent:

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

I think somebody's sitting back laughing his ass off.

Viper GTS

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
OK folks, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but our buddy here's a little inconsistent:

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

I think somebody's sitting back laughing his ass off.

Viper GTS

Wouldn't that just affirm that he was in the closet. His reponse to "homosexual" threads are a givaway and if my theory holds up there are a couple more people that need to come out.

 

[Viper GTS]

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
OK folks, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but our buddy here's a little inconsistent:

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

I think somebody's sitting back laughing his ass off.

Viper GTS

Wouldn't that just affirm that he was in the closet. His reponse to "homosexual" threads are a givaway and if my theory holds up there are a couple more people that need to come out.

You don't need closets on the internet. Why would he go out of his way to bring up his girlfriend(s) repeatedly over a period of a couple years when if he said nothing at all nobody would be any wiser?

I'm not going to argue it though, I really don't care. I just thought I remembered repeated references to a g/f, & I was right.

Call me skeptical, but in the grand scheme of things my opinion means nothing.

Viper GTS

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
OK folks, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but our buddy here's a little inconsistent:

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

I think somebody's sitting back laughing his ass off.

Viper GTS

Dude, he's obviously a lesbian trapped in a man's body.

Anyway, rbloedow, I salute and honor your courage in coming out. You did the right thing.

 

[daveymark]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
OK folks, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but our buddy here's a little inconsistent:

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

I think somebody's sitting back laughing his ass off.

Viper GTS

I don't think that points to anything. He hasn't even told his parents yet, which means he hasn't brought a boyfriend home(that his parents know of) which makes sense why he had a girlfriend in high school.

Hope everything works out for you OP, maybe some day you'll be able to tell your parents about who you are. That might be the biggest burden off your shoulder.

 

[Nebor]

The easiest part is telling your friends. The hardest part can be telling your family.

Congradulations, it's tough to be that honest. Fortunately, being a gay man, you'll never have to display that level of honesty again! :beer:

Oh, and there's a few of us ATOTers that bat for the other team. If you want someone to talk to, just PM me and I'll set you up with my AIM screen name.

 

[Shanteli]

Congratez...good luck buddy

 

[Nocturnal]

Congrats man. If any of my boys came out to me it would not affect my relationship with them at all. Hopefully now you can be at peace (if you weren't already).

 

[Xionide]

Originally posted by: Jgtdragon
Is this a real post or is this a joke?

:beer:

 

[bootymac]

rbloedow, a homo? (that rhymes)

Who would've known, but who cares anyhow.

 

[ThisIsMatt]

Liar? Motion for ban.

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
OK folks, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but our buddy here's a little inconsistent:

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...mp;keyword1=girlfriend

I think somebody's sitting back laughing his ass off.

Viper GTS

Wouldn't that just affirm that he was in the closet. His reponse to "homosexual" threads are a givaway and if my theory holds up there are a couple more people that need to come out.

You don't need closets on the internet. Why would he go out of his way to bring up his girlfriend(s) repeatedly over a period of a couple years when if he said nothing at all nobody would be any wiser?

I'm not going to argue it though, I really don't care. I just thought I remembered repeated references to a g/f, & I was right.

Call me skeptical, but in the grand scheme of things my opinion means nothing.

Viper GTS

My best friend morphed into what I called my girlfriend in high school. We told people that we dated, but nothing serious ever came of it (I think we kissed, maybe once...). Yes, she shaves her legs, and I took her to the prom, and I worship the cleanliness of my car better than I've ever treated her If anything, it was just a part of me trying to compensate and make myself seem straight.

Also - who doesn't find Kitty Foreman from that 70's Show to be hot!?!?! She's a good looking woman.

 

[Ryan]

Wow - I never expected so much support. I read every reply, and I appreciate them.

I told two coworkers tonight - two people I've worked with for nearly 3 years. It's funny, because I didn't even bring it up. One of them just got off the phone his sister, and he told us he was talking about his gay nephew - so I found it convenient to come out to them. Besides, they're good friends, they shoudl know.

So, life goes on This has put me in such a good mood

 

[SSP]

This has to be the official "Coming out of the closet" year. 2 of my friends came out couple of months ago. Didnt bother me cause it was obvious they were gay.

Congrats on getting that out man. Now that thats out of the way, how the hell do you pronounce your nick, and what the hell does it stand for?

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: SSP
This has to be the official "Coming out of the closet" year. 2 of my friends came out couple of months ago. Didnt bother me cause it was obvious they were gay.

Congrats on getting that out man. Now that thats out of the way, how the hell do you pronounce your nick, and what the hell does it stand for?

Ryan Bloedow - my name. Save me your impressions of what it meant before I told you, I've heard them all before

 

[SuperTool]

Are you attracted to yourself in the mirror?

 

[Ryan]

Originally posted by: SuperTool
Are you attracted to yourself in the mirror?

Are you?

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: rbloedow
I feel really good right now, thanks for the positive reactions, you guys are awesome!

congrats to you man, it took a lot of guts to do that.

 

[lavagirl669]

very brave and honest.

It must feel a lot better to get that out....AT is proud of you!

:beer::thumbsup:

 

[Cerb]

Yeah, y'all fruits get all scared, building it up in your minds.

My best friend came out earlier this year. Very uneventful. "Huh, really? I wouldn't have guessed you."

So apparently my Gaydar never did work. Luckily, my Assholedar is tip-top shape (training it in P&N ).

Just watch out for the fundies. They're the ones that'll get you!

 

[DJFuji]

The only awkard thing about having a friend come out to you is after the initial shock you start to think about how many times you called him a "stupid homo" or "i love you" and how now you feel like a fvcking idiot...

 

[thomsbrain]

good job, that must have taken a lot of guts.

 

[OCNewbie]

Thought I was going to be one of just a few people being mature about your statement and commending you on your openess and honesty, glad that's not the case, guess I didn't give most of the people here enough credit =) It's a fantastic feeling being 100% open and honest with the poeple you care most about, and having them accept you unconditionally. Congrats on your new found assurance that those you care most about truly accept you for you.

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: rbloedow
I feel akward telling a bunch of geeks on AT this, but this community has been very important to me over the past couple of years, so why not share an important piece of who I am with AT.

I've been dreading telling anyone this for a long time, but the question has never really come up wiht my family, and I've hidden it from my best friend since we met. I didn't want to be one of those people who lived fake lives, only to tell their wife and kids they were gay after a 10 year disfunctional marriage or something like that. Why should I fear being who I am, and fear people's reactions? I've finally gotten the nerve to let her know - after all, she is my best friend. I made a pact with myself a few months ago that I would tell her, but everytime I tried, I would either avoid the discussion all together, I'd chicken out.

Seriously, how hard can it be to tell your best friend that you're homosexual, especially considering that she is too? I agonized over it in my head, almost as if I was two people. Part of me would say "Just go it - it's only 3 little words - I AM GAY", the other would fear what kind of reaction I'd get from her, and not want to go through with it. The feeling of uncertainty is something I've never really had to cope with, and the uncertainty of her reaction scared me. Woudl she stop being my friend, would our relationship suddenly change, WHAT WOULD HAPPEN?!?!?! :Q

So today, I hung out at her house (she needed her computer fixed - it's always nice to find spyware and virus infested hardware, but that's another story, obviously!). I had told her yesterday that I needed to talk to her about something important today, so today was the day.

We ran a couple of errands - and on the way back to her place - I know I had to spill the beans. I didn't want this to be any kind of mushy announcement, just simple and to the point.

So, sitting at a red light I looked at her and said "Anna, I'm gay, and I just wanted to let you know. You're the first person I've told". I know I had this scared and confused look on my face, awaiting her reaction.

She laughed and asked if this was a joke. :frown:

That wasn't one of the reactions I thought she would have. In the days prior to today, I felt like one of those hurricane prediction computers, instead of spitting out multiple ways to obliterate Florida, I was calculating what her response would be - and that wasn't one of them. I was expecing something much more harsh. When I told her I was serious, she told me she was a little surprised, but that we were still cool and that she loved me. The weight had been lifted, and I felt like such an idiot for agonizing over something was really no big deal - I had made an elephant out of an ant.

So, one of my life's major mile markers has past, and I just wanted to let you guys know

Cliffnotes:
- Grap lip, pull over head, and swallow

I intended to only lurk today... it being Yom Kippur and all... but this post is worth a reply... Congratulations man. You've made the first step... understand that the next steps won't be so easy, but you get a billion :beer:'s for your bravery.

Cheers!

-Max