I could use some advice.

[flyguy214]

I received a message on myspace the other day from a name I didn't know, so I ignored it. Yesterday I opened it and this is what it said,

"its ****** please read asap.

so this is the story...
im in a relationship that i need help to get out of. he thinks he owns me. im scared to be here, but im scared to leave. im basically scared shytless to live my life right now. im emailing you from this because if he gets into my myspace and sees that ive written you he will fly off of the handle and lord knows what else. im literally scared for myself and my life right now and i dont know what to do. my parents know some of the situation but not the entire thing. im scared to let anyone know, i thougth i could save up the money to leave him but i have so many bills that it would be impossible. i dont know what to do, i need help. please only talk to me on here, at this email address. if you call me he will probly do something to me or the phone, so dont do that either until i get another cell phone that he doenst knwo about, please dont tell anyone either, cause i cant have other ppl knowing.



The day after that she left a message on her regular account saying that her cell phone was no longer...she predicted it. I hadn't talked to this girl for over two years and then she sends me this message. Its pretty obvious that she needs help. Since I haven't talked to her in so long the only thing I know is where she works, (its on her myspace page.) I sent her a message back on the screen name she sent me the message on, but haven't gotten any response. I have drove the 50 mile (one way) trip to her work twice now trying to catch her there without any luck. What should I do? Call her parents? Go to the clubs I know she goes to (knowing that her boyfriend will be there, more than likely resulting in me going to jail)...or just ignore it and go on with my life? I don't really have any feelings for her anymore, but there is no way I can let her get beat without trying to help her.

I have been listening to that Nickelback song "Never Again" nonstop since I got her message. I need someone to tell me what to do.

 

[Schadenfreude]

First advice: stop listening to Nickelback
Second advice: ...
Third Advice: Profit!

 

[adairusmc]

Originally posted by: Schadenfreude
First advice: stop listening to Nickelback
Second advice: ...
Third Advice: Profit!

:thumbsup:

 

[S Freud]

Kinda weird, I would at the most talk to her parents...then let the proper people handle it.

 

[KarenMarie]

She has parents... she needs to get in touch with them and see if she can go home.

i would suggest that you not get too involved with this.

 

[SacrosanctFiend]

She's an ex. Do nothing.

 

[flyguy214]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
She has parents... she needs to get in touch with them and see if she can go home.

i would suggest that you not get too involved with this.

May I ask why I shouldn't? She reached out to me, said that none of her other friends knew. It seemed to me that she wanted me to do something, but I don't know what. My friend said it sounded like she wanted money, and to ignore her. Would you agree?

 

[doze]

Stay out of the drama dude, if your worried then get in touch with one of her good friends or her parents and let them take it from there.

 

[buck]

I have been listening to that Nickelback song "Never Again" nonstop since I got her message. I need someone to tell me what to do.

....

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: flyguy214

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
She has parents... she needs to get in touch with them and see if she can go home.

i would suggest that you not get too involved with this.

May I ask why I shouldn't? She reached out to me, said that none of her other friends knew. It seemed to me that she wanted me to do something, but I don't know what. My friend said it sounded like she wanted money, and to ignore her. Would you agree?

I have no idea what she wants, but she is an ex for a reason, no?

Why do you suppose that she cannot or has not gone to her friends and family but reached out to an EX b/f?

Are you prepared to give her money to get a place or let her stay with you? Because that is probably what will end up happening.

As for the Nickelback thing... never listened to them afaik... so I wont comment on that.

 

[DaWhim]

stay out of it.

 

[flyguy214]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: flyguy214

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
She has parents... she needs to get in touch with them and see if she can go home.

i would suggest that you not get too involved with this.

May I ask why I shouldn't? She reached out to me, said that none of her other friends knew. It seemed to me that she wanted me to do something, but I don't know what. My friend said it sounded like she wanted money, and to ignore her. Would you agree?

I have no idea what she wants, but she is an ex for a reason, no?

Why do you suppose that she cannot or has not gone to her friends and family but reached out to an EX b/f?

Are you prepared to give her money to get a place or let her stay with you? Because that is probably what will end up happening.

As for the Nickelback thing... never listened to them afaik... so I wont comment on that.

she is an ex because I used to be a huge player. I would give her money without her asking. I have money, if she needs that to get away from being hurt than that is ok. I would get her a place, prolly wouldnt stay with her though. I have a girl right now...but if that's what it took to get her out of trouble, yeah I would.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: flyguy214

she is an ex because I used to be a huge player. I would give her money without her asking. I have money, if she needs that to get away from being hurt than that is ok. I would get her a place, prolly wouldnt stay with her though. I have a girl right now...but if that's what it took to get her out of trouble, yeah I would.

What is your new girl gonna say about you getting involved with an ex... giving her money and getting emotionally involved?

Girls dont like that sorta thing.

 

[indamixx99]

So does your girl know the situation and if not, would she be cool with you helping your ex out?

 

[Kadarin]

I see no upside to getting involved in this situation.

 

[Dr. Detroit]

Contact her parents and let them interfere

If she really needs your help she will call

 

[flyguy214]

Originally posted by: indamixx99
So does your girl know the situation and if not, would she be cool with you helping your ex out?

not right now, because I haven't done anything. But I would tell her, and if she didn't want me trying to save someone from being hurt, then she would be gone.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: flyguy214

Originally posted by: indamixx99
So does your girl know the situation and if not, would she be cool with you helping your ex out?

not right now, because I haven't done anything. But I would tell her, and if she didn't want me trying to save someone from being hurt, then she would be gone.

From your OP:

I have drove the 50 mile (one way) trip to her work twice now trying to catch her there

That's not an insignificant amount of effort.

 

[flyguy214]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: flyguy214

Originally posted by: indamixx99
So does your girl know the situation and if not, would she be cool with you helping your ex out?

not right now, because I haven't done anything. But I would tell her, and if she didn't want me trying to save someone from being hurt, then she would be gone.

From your OP:

I have drove the 50 mile (one way) trip to her work twice now trying to catch her there

That's not an insignificant amount of effort.

I just don't want her to hurt anymore.....

she doesn't....no one deserves to have that happen to them

 

[thetxstang]

Originally posted by: doze
Stay out of the drama dude, if your worried then get in touch with one of her good friends or her parents and let them take it from there.

 

[maziwanka]

im not sure what kind of evidence you would need in order to get the police involved, but maybe you should go talk to the police and ask them about it.

 

[slurmsmackenzie]

call her boyfriend and tell him your her ex and you think she's cheating on him.

 

[xSkyDrAx]

of all the people she messages you? you listen to nickelback? how old are you? Anyone with some kind of logic would realize there is something REAL fishy about this. After 2 years and out of nowhere she decides the only person she can contact is someone she hasnt spoken to in 2 years? Riiight.

 

[flyguy214]

Originally posted by: slurmsmackenzie
call her boyfriend and tell him your her ex and you think she's cheating on him.

you are a tool and suck at life. I suggest you off yourself now

 

[TechBoyJK]

is this a parody? ending the opening post with something about nickelback kinda makes it suspicious......