Do you know one? I do. He's a good friend of mine, but this bothers me incredibly. He's a nice guy, generally harmless, and not malicious like those typical liars. But I really wonder what the mechanic behind it is.
It's to the point you can see through his lies within a sentence coming a mile away. Few examples:
1. GF and I were at Redsox game. He texts me and I say I'm at Fenway. He texts me back saying he's there too. I was genuinely excited so I call him, he suddenly doesn't pick up. I said let's meet after the game, he disappears until evening then says it wasn't a good idea to meet at the game due to the crowd.
2. He says his rich friend has a 100" HDTV and they watch together all the time. Now, this was 7~ years ago when HDTV were just rolling out. I don't think they were even available to consumer let alone how expensive it would be. I looked it up online, no such model & size existed at the time.
3. We went to this promotional event at a lounge where they serve open bar to celebrate new vodka (it was Trump vodka lol). We invite him, then he says he had else where to go with open sushi bar. My BS radar goes right off. I had to call the restaurant just to confirm I'm not going crazy. Yup, no such event was ever held.
4. He and his GF recently got broken up. I was there for him via phone and he was really appreciative. Today, I chat with him online to see how he's doing. Unprompted, he says
Went on a date saturday
me: ooo
Him: Went to barlola and then saw men of valor
Shes a nice girl
Extremely smart
Is a 2nd year associate lawyer at goodwin proctor
me: getting close already?
Him: Nah
1st date
We text everyday
She works from 8 am to midnight
And she worked sat and sunday too (ok? this is a good thing?)
I asked what her name is, he goes afk.
See, I'll provide a context. I know those liars do it out of defense mechanism or insecurity of sort. I'm NOT the one to make someone feel 'less' to trigger this kind of behavior. Actually, I know he does this to everyone. But I end up getting bothered by it personally.
What is wrong with him and other people like this? Being a collective forum, can you shed some light, I'm sure some of you are like this.