I Feel Left Out...

[Cash79]

I used to be a lot like you...angry, frustrated, alone and wondering why everyone else is scoring and not me. Im a guy, so being a virgin is much more worse a fate

But its not by choice, my game is tight, i have enough friends to fill a stadium. You see, im only a 5'5 foot man, so girls dont look at me way...

Years and years of being alone and anger caused me to join a gang. Now i take my out my anger and lonliness towards society by robbing people, fighting, doing drugs, getting tattoos, just being as bad as i wanna be until somebody saves me


So i recommend you get some ass, fast, cause you dont wanna live this thug life

ST

 

[Ionizer86]

Dude, thats so true, you're just in denial, as I stated before. Your sex drive kicks in at ~13, you really have no choice in the matter. If you don't want to get laid(with a girl), then your gay and need to come to grips with yourself, not hard to understand.

Well, humans also have natural desires to do all sorts of weird stuff that we really shouldn't be doing. If everyone plays CS, that means that maybe humans like to kill, naturally!? IMHO, perhaps you're right that all da guyz want to get laid, but then again, some guyz think about the consequences before doing something that may not be very beneficial in the long run, and then they use their higher intelligence to decide that they really don't want to get laid, as it won't be beneficial to succomb in the long run.

Nonetheless, you're right that all da guyz animalistic desires do cause them to want to get laid. It's the human higher intelligence that kicks in then (hopefully)

 

[Viper GTS]

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<< Do we all want to? Of course!

Of course there are also times when I want to kill people, blow things up, and generally make myself a deadly threat to certain people. Do I? No.

Just because somebody has a desire to do something does not mean they do, nor that they should.

Viper GTS >>


Oh PLEASE son, don't make such poor analogies, you insult yourself and this thread.

Killing people (your own species) is not an instinct.
Your body TELLS you to reproduce.

And try not to retort with such skewed logic. >>



It wasn't meant as an analogy, merely as an example that sometimes what we want to do & what we believe we should do are separate things. I do not equate sex to a vengeful killing, but I certainly have urges for both (the urge for sex is much more common, in case you're wondering ).

At some point the urge for sex becomes driven by more than just hormone & instinct, & becomes a longing for the ultimate in physical & emotional intimacy. People who see sex as nothing but human instinct may not understand the weight others place on the decision with whom to share your first encounter.

Viper GTS

 

[Beau]

<< It is not human instinct to kill your own, or your own species. If you can show me different, be my guest. >>



When a male Lion takes over the pride, the first thing it does is murder all of the babies to bring the lionesses into heat and spread his gene-pool. Survival of the fittest.

 

<< IMHO, perhaps you're right that all da guyz want to get laid, but then again, some guyz think about the consequences before doing something that may not be very beneficial in the long run, and then they use their higher intelligence to decide that they really don't want to get laid, as it won't be beneficial to succomb in the long run. >>



That's where you left the "instinct" arena.

 

[Sir Fredrick]

<< I had sex with myself earlier today. :Q



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I'm saving myself for later tonight. I'll light some candles, make myself a nice romantic dinner, put on some mood music...and seduce myself all over again.

 

[StormRider]

<< dude, that number should be higher... i know a guy who's 34 , still a virgin... wants to get laid badly...
couldn't find anyone ....

also.. being that old.. he stop useing excuses... and just openly admits that he wants to get laid badly...
>>



Actually, if he waits any longer, he might get to the point where "it" becomes such a big deal that he will never have sex.

That's when the drawbacks (nervousness, not really know how to approach a girl, feelings of low self esteem) become so insurmountable, he will not be able to overcome them. Also as you get older, your sex drive diminishes so at some point, trying to have sex doesn't seem worth the bother anymore.

StormRider <-- who beats your friend by being a 38 year old virgin.

 

[blakeatwork]

<< Just because one chooses something willingly does not make it easy, nor does it make it pleasant. All of us have sex drives, & the closer you get to someone (both physically and emotionally) the harder it gets to maintain what you believe to be right. >>



Wondering which one's doing the choosing....


<----------------- Thinking we should all start the Viper Viagra Fund....

 

[skace]

*ahem*

 

[DannyLove]

stop crying and do something about it!

 

[jooxed]

Why would one state their a virgin in an open forum anyhow?

Curious to know what you hoped to gain.

 

[weezergirl]

oops.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

i get all my love advice from SmooveB.


How can you argue with this?:

"...When we are together, I will not merely whisper into your ears sweet words that will melt your heart and prove to you that you are the most precious creature I have ever laid my eyes upon. No, in addition to such various whisperings, I will provide you with all the love a real woman like yourself requires. I will pamper you. I will wine you and dine you. I will make your dreams come true....."

 

[DannyLove]

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<< How can girls have trouble finding sex???
Just smile and the guys will follow! >>



Finding it isn't the problem, you dolt, she has simply chosen abstinence thus far.

Viper GTS >>



So why complain about it in public? >>

my thoughts exactly!

 

[Jugernot]

Well, I can tell you this.... keep to your decision! I lost my virginity a year ago and can say that I regret it. Sex is nice, but it's something that you'll be able to get anytime when you're ready later in life.

Good luck and don't let your friends get you down, if you do you might just regret it for many years to come.

 

[BruinEd03]

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<< How can girls have trouble finding sex???
Just smile and the guys will follow! >>



Finding it isn't the problem, you dolt, she has simply chosen abstinence thus far.

Viper GTS >>



So why complain about it in public? >>

my thoughts exactly! >>



cuz it helps to vent out ur frustrations sometimes =P I'm sure y'all have complained about something here one time or another...:|

-Ed

 

[pulse8]

<< cuz it helps to vent out ur frustrations sometimes =P I'm sure y'all have complained about something here one time or another... >>


I'm sorry, but get a friend.

If 80,000 horny teens are the only place you can get advice, then I feel for you.

I mean, at least PM someone with this. Why post an entire thread?

 

[TheBlondOne]

I honestly didn't think telling everyone I was a virgin was such a big PRIVATE issue. To me, it's a fact of my life. I would admit it to anyone who asked, so to admit it in an open forum is no big deal to me.

That's all. I'm going to go work off all of my pent-up sexual energy now.

--Sarah

 

[BruinEd03]

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<< cuz it helps to vent out ur frustrations sometimes =P I'm sure y'all have complained about something here one time or another... >>


I'm sorry, but get a friend.

If 80,000 horny teens are the only place you can get advice, then I feel for you.

I mean, at least PM someone with this. Why post an entire thread? >>



mmm... i don't see you ripping blahblah99 for his rant on dsl... click here

and don't tell me you've never complained here before Mr. Pulse8?

-Ed

 

[Beau]

<< I honestly didn't think telling everyone I was a virgin was such a big PRIVATE issue. To me, it's a fact of my life. I would admit it to anyone who asked, so to admit it in an open forum is no big deal to me. That's all. I'm going to go work off all of my pent-up sexual energy now. --Sarah >>



:Q:Q:Q:Q:Q Uhhhh..... Where do you work?

 

[pulse8]

<< and don't tell me you've never complained here before Mr. Pulse8? >>



Nope, I never have and you can check on that if you want.

And a rant on DSL on a TECH FORUM and one on something as personal as your sex life are VERY different things.

 

[rahvin]

Sex is a wonderfull thing and can be very very passionate when you are in love. But there is a consequence to waiting that I have personally experienced. Those girls that wait a long time without having an orgasm run the risk of NEVER having one. My fiancee didn't have an orgasm before meeting me and had never really enjoyed sex, I realized she wasn't orgasming and put some extreme effort into forcing her to have one. After her first it got much easier, but without the effort of the first she would have never had one and very few people would have went to the effort I did to push her over the edge. Sex shouldn't be something you are afraid of, it's natural, our bodies desire it and the risks of it can be negated with the proper precautions. Just remember, if you wait too long you may never know what sex is really about. I feel it's an adjustment some female's bodies make, without the stimulation when the desire is there the pleasure becomes nearly imposible later.

 

[eakers]

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<< And just like weed or X, sex is one of those things where the ones who are doing it feel better when everyone else around them is doing it too. >>


Oh please. I don't have sex because its cool, or everyone else is doing it. That is such a load of crap. >>


i agree, i have never felt pressure to have sex from my friends.

well except for sampson that one time and thats cuz we were alone in that hotel room and my clothes fell off

*kat. <-- liar liar pants on fire (about the last part, she was pressuring him )

 

[AreaCode707]

<< Those girls that wait a long time without having an orgasm run the risk of NEVER having one. >>



Huh? Find me that medical research, it sounds like you are making a claim based on a single person. I have never heard that, read that, or otherwise been informed of that fact in any medical journal, human sexuality class, or other. And I sincerely doubt you'll find backup.

 

[linuxboy]

Huh? Find me that medical research, it sounds like you are making a claim based on a single person. I have never heard that, read that, or otherwise been informed of that fact in any medical journal, human sexuality class, or other. And I sincerely doubt you'll find backup.

M'dear, at this point I believe we are entering the area of psychosomatic disorders. Human beings are queer creatures. They fear that which is novel in an effort to maintain those walls they have built up around themselves in order to cope with the world. Their precious ego shaken and shatered by themselves and the world around them, in part due to dualism and objectification, they require those walls and this may indeed prevent an enjoyment of their sexuality.

Much in life and in those scientific journals is a bunch of crap. Although your point is valid, the empirical observation of a particular instance does not imply causation.

What I mean in, it really depends and the real point of this thread was to make us aware that people are fragile, usually need much support from others, and that one should not boast about random events as it tends to put people down, which in most cases just builds up those walls we put around us. Sarah's effort here is to be open and to remain helthy and balanced. For that, I must commend her and disagree with Jean. Some things, when pent up, form themselves into vile creatures that haunt us in our dreams and make living repulsive. But what happens when we give them a hug? That's exactly what we're finding out here.

Cheers !