Another member of the jaded by engineering in our 30s club. I have an objectively interesting job in UAVs and robotics and fuck if I can imagine doing it for another 20-30 years. Currently the goal is to make a lot of money and FIRE soon-ish so I can do something that doesn’t need to pay bills or save money. What that is, also not sure yet .. I just want to plant trees all day and play music.I think I'm going through a similar thing, but I'm only 38. My dad passed late last year and things at work are "eh" - big company changes coming in the next 2-3 years (I won't be sticking around after spending my entire career here) and lots of BS/idiots to deal with now.
Most of it just seems trivial and dumb now, and I feel like I should be doing something better with my life than working 5 days a week in an office; I want to help people in some way but I have no idea how/what. Going from an engineering job to something... nursing? Community outreach? Grocery store employee (shut my mind off, work part-time, have more time to myself)? I don't know.
I'm incredibly lucky to be where I am - good health, good job, a house - but I'm the same age my dad was when I was born, so it feels like I'm halfway to the end and this is the time to start something.
Another member of the jaded by engineering in our 30s club. I have an objectively interesting job in UAVs and robotics and fuck if I can imagine doing it for another 20-30 years. Currently the goal is to make a lot of money and FIRE soon-ish so I can do something that doesn’t need to pay bills or save money. What that is, also not sure yet .. I just want to plant trees all day and play music.
I’ve done the grocery store employee thing in high school. You don’t want to do that 😂
Sorry to hear about your brother. Have to ask though, what car?Sorry about your recent unfortunate circumstances OP Being in my mid 50's I have had my share of life events lately. Without wanting to thread crap I ran and finished the Western Staes 100 mile endurance run a couple weeks ago. Then I had to travel for work last week, and my older brother chose then to pass away after a long battle with lung cancer. Now I am the one dealing with his estate and the arrangements, yet I get a generous amount of money from him so I'm also buying my dream car with some of it. Tonight will be a small family gathering to go through and write his obituary, yet we will have a nice meal from the local barbecue joint and a few beers. Life is all about the ups and downs, hopefully the downs are mild and the ups crazy good
At my pharmacy I have to show ID for my sleeping pill, which is just one of the two main sleeping pills on the market. So I just got a new license this year. It has my picture from 12 years ago now on it still.
I told the cashier, you know, I just got this license this year but it's my photo from 12 years ago. I rarely have to use it, but when I do, I have a lot of regrets and a mini mid-life crisis
Sorry to hear about your brother. Have to ask though, what car?
There's a new Alzheimer's drugWithin about two weeks time last year my dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's (incorrectly as I recently found out), my step-mom with Alzheimer's, my cat with large cell lymphoma, and one of my best friends who was my age dropped dead of a massive heart attack. As a result I started having low grade anxiety attacks.
My outlook on what's actually important has been substantially reordered to say the least.
Kisunla is an IV infusion therapy given once a month to people in the early stages of Alzheimer's, according to the Alzheimer's Association. The treatment destroys amyloid plaques in the brain to slow the progression of the disease. The cost of this 12-month treatment? $32,000 a year.
Oh my. Just don't get cocky. I see people on icy roads driving their 4x4 like have some special dispensation from the gods. It's still a car and only works when in contact with the road. Aside from that - go wild and enjoyProbably a BMW X5 mostly fully loaded.
There's a new Alzheimer's drug
New treatments for Alzheimer’s cost tens of thousands of dollars a year. Here’s why
Nearly seven million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s, but new drugs for the disease are costly. Is there way to improve this?news.northeastern.edu
That's a lot to get hit with. I can relate. My dad died at 40 - 6 months after being retired from the army after 20+ years. But if it changes your outlook, makes you grateful for shit you never thought of being grateful for, whatever - it could the silver lining of a nasty storm cloud.
Oh my. Just don't get cocky. I see people on icy roads driving their 4x4 like have some special dispensation from the gods. It's still a car and only works when in contact with the road. Aside from that - go wild and enjoy
Heh, it's because I'm transgender Generally men seem to not enjoy the experience of having elevated estrogen levels, so I wouldn't recommend it. But "roid rage" is a thing, probably akin to what you experienced on TRT, if you had better controlled dosing it might have been a better fit for you.That's very interesting, certainly to me. One of my old docs was a big fan of testosterone replacement. I tried a couple of different forms and it made me into a truly, raging asshole. Not only is that a bitch for people you have to deal with (i keep those to a bare minimum anyway) but it's a very unpleasant feeling because you genuinely don't understand why you're acting that way. Of course this assumes that you DO NOT enjoy being an asshole - to each their own I suppose. For me, it was just impossible to control.
I wasn't completely surprised though. I think my biochemistry is less dependent on testosterone than for most males. To the extent that's true, it's probably something I inherited from my paternal grandfather since I'm 10% Druze. Yup. I had no f'ing idea what that was either but you can think of them as a 2000 year old group that absolutely forbids mating outside of the group - bad grampa.
It's kind of ironic since on dad's side I can trace my lineage back to the 1300s and even on mom's side, much of her family have become devoted to geneaology. But they start with great gramma. As for mom's father, no one seems to know jack. And since mom's family came from mountain villages in Northern Italy, that's a tough row to hoe - since Italy is probably the epicenter for the one-two punch that is the bane of geneaologists - bad peasant record keeping and wholesale destruction of historical records by war, natural disasters and whatnot.
You may not like white Anglo-Saxon protestants (WASPs) but they kick ass when it comes to recordkeeping and OCD behavior generally - blame the black plague, but that's another tangent.
I'm not really a fan of emotion generally. It's always felt like more of a distracting annoyance. But again, don't look to me for any guidance on the matter. Long before I ever heard of Star Trek, my ideal was to something akin to an automaton - completely free of any emotion. Oddly, the drugs have actually helped with that so . . . cause; effect? Don't really care.
But getting back to the quote, a combo of estrogen and testosterone sounds extremely interesting - just not interesting enough to try.
Literally all I take is estrogen now, same deal for trans men, all they typically need is testosterone, the human body for the most part isn't real picky over which sex hormone is dominant as long as it's one or the other. I wasn't scared at all, some folks are, but usually one can tell within a few weeks if it's right for them.@nakedfrog - Wow. Were you scared? Are the post transition meds most folks can tolerate?
I don't think I'd have the the cajones. Sorry, couldn't resist.
TY for the reply. So for most trans folks, the transition is just something you know that you need to do. Not doing it isn't an option. That changes your entire perspective about whatever pain, discomfort, etc. that's involved. Maybe like an ER doc saying, if I don't get that bullet out you're going to die. Well, when you put it THAT way.Literally all I take is estrogen now, same deal for trans men, all they typically need is testosterone, the human body for the most part isn't real picky over which sex hormone is dominant as long as it's one or the other. I wasn't scared at all, some folks are, but usually one can tell within a few weeks if it's right for them.
For lots of us, yeah, it's pretty rough. I could have kept on without doing so (probably?), but the way I've typically described it is the difference between merely "existing" and "living". Just a much happier person with increased emotional and mental capacity, and in far better physical shape than I was throughout my 20s and 30s (not because of the medication, but through feeling more attached to this meatsuit I live in and more motivated to take care of it). Mileage varies per person. For me doing it wasn't even really an option until around a decade ago, before there were pretty strict guidelines, they tended to require you to be attracted solely to men, and you had to want to be a Barbie girl more or less, all the makeup and dresses and high heels and such, super feminine.TY for the reply. So for most trans folks, the transition is just something you know that you need to do. Not doing it isn't an option. That changes your entire perspective about whatever pain, discomfort, etc. that's involved. Maybe like an ER doc saying, if I don't get that bullet out you're going to die. Well, when you put it THAT way.
I have lived most of my life in Berkeley, CA. Went to the U of C here, came back, left and came back again. I remember way back when someone saying in a conversation we were having, this: "Berkeley's a good place to have an identity crisis." Such a thought does not get forgotten, hopefully, and I surely never have forgotten it. I sometimes feel/think that I've been in a perpetual identity crisis, a sort of wistful rumination. I am never shocked to think that way. It's OK, partly because nobody looks at you funny if you aren't toeing the line. It's not unexpected here. If anything, I'd like to take it further. What's the limit afterall?To be honest I don't understand how someone doesn't go through some form of mid life crisis. Our 40's is when we start seeing our own peers and family members pass, expectedly or otherwise. Death is horrifying. Never apologize for wanting to reevaluate aspects of your life. Whether that means making major changes to how you live or just buying or doing something you always wanted.