I Hate My Kid

[Isla]

I have a wise and wonderful 14 1/2 year old daughter who humbles the hell out of me. Even when I have to 'lay down the law' with her, she always comes around and tells me how much she loves me. I guess maybe if there is a God, he or she was being merciful by sending her down to me... I really admire and respect her. She's amazing! She has all the compassion I ever had PLUS a sense of self worth, which I lacked. She's dignified AND sensible... she's tender and creative. I would have to say she is one of the women I admire most, my little Miss Jade who is almost as tall as me! Maybe I am just lucky, I don't know. But I think my other kids are pretty amazing, too...

My kids are teaching me so much...

 

[AaronP]

I'm not a parent, but I think you need to beat her into submission.

 

[Siddhartha]

Your daughter needs a reality check. Insist she gets a job for her own pocket money. Tell her that she has to be on her own, move out of the house, six months after she graduates high school.

 

[datalink7]

Originally posted by: RudeBoie
This is the kind of stuff that makes me worry about having kids. If most kids are this way, our world is in trouble. While Bernie Mac jokes around, if I had kids and they acted this way, I'd BEAT THE CRAP out of them. And that's being f'ing nice.

Probably best not to have kids then.

 

[NOTAHAPPYCAMPER]

I rarely participate in these posts but could not pass this one up.
When girls hit 13 things seem to go straight to he!!. My darling daughter skipped school daily, drank, smoked pot, did all of the same things mentioned above, stole my car, blew up the engine, left it along side the road in another state, hiked half way across the country, only to call wanting money to come home on. All of this before she was 16. She ended up graduating from high school as a junior...ranked 25th in a class of almost 200,and skipped 28 days of school that year. (just think what she could have done if she had actually opened a book)
She is now a 22 year old criminal justice major...starting law school in the fall.
My advice...give her some time and lots of love...she'll probably come back and make you proud.

 

[HiveMaster]

Guess what, Carbo? She is a product of her upbringing.

If she is a no good worthless, self centered brat it is because YOU made her that way. Only you, and her mother. It is a wonder that she does not hate you, just look what kind of person you made her into!

Hopefully she will avoid drugs and evil people long enough to go into serious therapy as an adult. Then, the only thing you can hope for is that she forgives you.

For you to not take responsibility for her behaviour is even more despicable than the person she has become.

 

[MoboN00B]

print out your post and force her to read it. Make her realize the brat that she really is. and put your foot down for god sakes.

 

[schdaddy]

Spanking does NOT = child abuse or violence




Carbo,
great POST & much needed

 

[Carbo]

I wanted to pass along a big thank you to all who took the time to reply and offer their sincere and genuine opinions on an important topic that touches us all.
Clearly, there is no one correct answer. Nor will there ever be. This generational battle has existed since the dawn of man and will continue to rage on.
Thank you all, again.

 

[Corn]

Guess what, Carbo? She is a product of her upbringing.

If she is a no good worthless, self centered brat it is because YOU made her that way. Only you, and her mother. It is a wonder that she does not hate you, just look what kind of person you made her into!

Hopefully she will avoid drugs and evil people long enough to go into serious therapy as an adult. Then, the only thing you can hope for is that she forgives you.

For you to not take responsibility for her behaviour is even more despicable than the person she has become.

You're a real piece of work, aren't you ButtMaster? Sittin' on your pearch, high above the "stench" of parenthood, imparting your words of "wisdom" to the ignorant masses.............

While I agree that I would handle my "self centered brat" in a different fasion than Carbo has done, that's not why she's a brat. It's not always about "upbringing".

Let's talk about your upbringing for a moment:

Who the hell raised you to become such an arrogant, seething, ninny, who lashes out against someone for what exactly? Raising a bratty kid?

You've got issues HiveMaster, issues that you should have resolved prior to getting on that high horse of your's.....

Perhaps you should re-examine your support for the liberal movement whom castrates parent's ability to punish thier children. It's people like you who have poisoned so many people into believing that its the schools responsibility to raise their children, that fathers are not necessary, and that parents don't need to be home for their children.............

 

[Red Dawn]

Corn

You're a real piece of work, aren't you ButtMaster? Sittin' on your pearch, high above the "stench" of parenthood, imparting your words of "wisdom" to the ignorant masses.............

Hehe..That much is a given. I read his post and knew that he was totally clueless.

 

[Hammer]

You're just now realizing this Red? He's had quite a few "choice" posts before.

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Corn

You're a real piece of work, aren't you ButtMaster? Sittin' on your pearch, high above the "stench" of parenthood, imparting your words of "wisdom" to the ignorant masses.............

Hehe..That much is a given. I read his post and knew that he was totally clueless.

 

[Red Dawn]

You're just now realizing this Red?

No.

 

[UltraQuiet]

Hehe..That much is a given. I read his post and knew that he was totally clueless.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this.

 

[Sir Fredrick]

Clearly a change in parenting style is needed.

My parents said I was horrible as a teenager and made their lives hell, but your daughter makes me look like a saint!

This may be hard since you both work, but have you ever considered homeschooling? A lot of her bitchyness is supported by her peers, who will likely eventually lead her to pot, alcohol and sex if she values their opinions more than she values your own. A year or two off from school can completely change one's perspective. Trust me.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: HiveMaster
Guess what, Carbo? She is a product of her upbringing.

If she is a no good worthless, self centered brat it is because YOU made her that way. Only you, and her mother. It is a wonder that she does not hate you, just look what kind of person you made her into!

Hopefully she will avoid drugs and evil people long enough to go into serious therapy as an adult. Then, the only thing you can hope for is that she forgives you.

For you to not take responsibility for her behaviour is even more despicable than the person she has become.

May you be blessed with a child just like yourself

 

[GasX]

Originally posted by: HiveMaster
Guess what, Carbo? She is a product of her upbringing.

If she is a no good worthless, self centered brat it is because YOU made her that way. Only you, and her mother. It is a wonder that she does not hate you, just look what kind of person you made her into!

Hopefully she will avoid drugs and evil people long enough to go into serious therapy as an adult. Then, the only thing you can hope for is that she forgives you.

For you to not take responsibility for her behaviour is even more despicable than the person she has become.

Where did you get your pop psychology degree? Whatsamatta U.?

 

[Carbo]

You'll notice I didn't acknowledge ol' HiveMaster's public display of ignorance and stupidity. I was tempted, but thought better of it. I figured the masses here at ATOT would take him to task.

 

[UltraQuiet]

You'll notice I didn't acknowledge ol' HiveMaster's public display of ignorance and stupidity. I was tempted, but thought better of it. I figured the masses here at ATOT would take him to task.

There's nothing to acknowledge. His MO is that he slithers into a thread, rants some moronic rant and then tunnels out.

Carbo- You didn't solicit any advice about your daughter so I won't offer you any. My son's are 10 and 8 so I still have some of what you are going through to look forward to. I didn't get the impression that you were blaming your daughter for her behavior but venting your frustration at not being able to make a connection. I'm sure you'll be able to figure it out but if you want some advice I would ask for it via PM, that way you don't get the children and the childless of ATOT giving their $.02 worth. JMO

Dave

 

[CPA]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose


Most parents fatal error is being their child's friend, you're not her friend, you're her parent, and that entails a whole different set of rules.

 

[hpkeeper]

Why is everyone in this thread replying to it as that Carbo doesn't do enough to discipline his daughter? I Don't think that this is the case at all, it's his kid, he can do what he wants to raise her and and your opinion about his kid's behaviors is just and opinion. This is one of these threads that should just be classified as a rant and that shouldn't be replied to, he mentioned it that the thread was created in response to "I hate my dad" thread.

I don't think that Carbo hates his daughter nor do I think that she needs to be disciplined. I knew when I was drawing the line as a kid, my father wasn't hesitant to raise his hand and beat my ass in public if he thought I was being obnoxious or disrespectfull. Of course I learned well and I learned quick my limitaitons. But that's just the way my parents chose to do things. I think the reason for this thread was just pure example. Just to show the glaring contradiction that ma and pa aren't to blame for your infidelities.

 

[Hammer]

heh, hey I said it applies to ALL women not just teenage daughters.

Its true btw. Its that extra X chromosome that does it.

Originally posted by: DaveSohmer
that way you don't get the children and the childless of ATOT giving their $.02 worth. JMO

Dave

 

[Kev]

saying you hate your kid because she is a typical teenager shows a lot of maturity on your part.

if you ask me, i think your whole attitude is pathetic.

 

[UltraQuiet]

if you ask me, i think your whole attitude is pathetic.

Pathetic is when you read the thread title and come in and post something stupid without reading the whole thread. Get a clue moron. He said in the ninth sentence in his first post he didn't hate her.

 

[GasX]

if you ask me, i think your whole attitude is pathetic.

This is the very definition of the SKOORB EFFECT.

Dumbass...