Originally posted by: DonVito
Originally posted by: neosenate
Originally posted by: Taggart
21 is too young to get engaged.
Why?
Because, and I mean you no disrespect, a 21-year-old just doesn't know themselves at all. You might end up continuing to get along and love each other as you get older, or you might not. IMO it's a terrible idea to marry someone if you've never seriously dated anyone but that person, and you're likely to end up regretting it and resenting the other person. Honestly I think 25 is too young, and 21 isn't even close.
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DonVito
Originally posted by: neosenate
Originally posted by: Taggart
21 is too young to get engaged.
Why?
Because, and I mean you no disrespect at all, a 21-year-old just doesn't know themselves at all. You might end up continuing to get along and love each other as you get older, or you might not. IMO it's a terrible idea to marry someone if you've never seriously dated anyone but that person, and you're likely to end up regretting it and resenting the other person. Honestly I think 25 is too young, and 21 isn't even close.
I actually think couples would be better off if they didn't run around dating anyone and everyone they can before they get married because they don't "know themselves." Getting to know one's self is something that's done throughout the course of one's entire life and is best done with a best friend, regardless of when it starts or how many other people one has "dated."
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
I will say that my GF and I got together when she was 20 and I was 21, and we've been together six years now. We've been engaged for most of that time, but due to circumstances beyond our control, have not been able to finalize. I doubt rings, a ceremony, and piece of paper would have changed things so much that we wouldn't still be together
And your one of your cats looks a lot like one of mine
Originally posted by: DonVito
Originally posted by: neosenate
Originally posted by: Taggart
21 is too young to get engaged.
Why?
Because, and I mean you no disrespect at all, a 21-year-old just doesn't know themselves at all. You might end up continuing to get along and love each other as you get older, or you might not. IMO it's a terrible idea to marry someone if you've never seriously dated anyone but that person, and you're likely to end up regretting it and resenting the other person. Honestly I think 25 is too young, and 21 isn't even close.
Originally posted by: neosenate
Originally posted by: DonVito
Originally posted by: neosenate
Originally posted by: Taggart
21 is too young to get engaged.
Why?
Because, and I mean you no disrespect at all, a 21-year-old just doesn't know themselves at all. You might end up continuing to get along and love each other as you get older, or you might not. IMO it's a terrible idea to marry someone if you've never seriously dated anyone but that person, and you're likely to end up regretting it and resenting the other person. Honestly I think 25 is too young, and 21 isn't even close.
No disrespect taken. However...
Since when does age decree how one knows themselves? Many people spend their entire lives looking for themselves. Some people know themselves implicitly from birth. It depends on the person. Also, it's very easy to say that "I didn't know myself" in retrospect. How is one to live if they believe that they might not know themselves well enough to make a life decision.
It's very easy to say that 21 is too young to get married. I'll agree that there are no guarantees in life. Veggiefrog and I will hopefully stay together forever. I hope we'll grow together and become closer every day as we have done so far. If in the event that we don't stay together I will always know that I listened to my heart, I listened to my mind and they both told me what I was doing was correct. If you don't listen to yourself, how can you know yourself?
I just don't believe that 21 is too young to get married when everybody is different and people mature at different rates.
The only thing I will ever regret in my life is wondering what if. What if I hadn't proposed. What if I hadn't taken the chance of happiness. I could never live my life wondering what if. I'd rather "ASSume" I know myself well enough to know what I want, instead of not taking a chance of happiness, all because I'm 23.
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
VeggieFrog and Neosenate got engaged this morning.
:heart:
edit: no doubt she will make an appearance in this thread to give me stuff for starting it.. but as the ever bragging mother... i just couldnt resist.
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
i think that you two are soooo lucky to have gotten it right so early in life.
Originally posted by: KarenMarie
Originally posted by: veggiefrog
To be honest, Mum, some of the responses in this thread are exactly the reason why I didnt want you to post this thread and asked you not to. I don't appreciate people judging my life and having opinions on what I do, and while I do not intend to sound sanctimonious and stuck-up, this is why I lurk and not post.
Yes we are young, but it's not like we're getting married tomorrow. Besides, age != maturity. I'm sorry for those of you who have selected the wrong partner in life, but not everyone is bitter and jaded.
Thank you to those who wished us congratulations.
Edit: who said neosenate is 21? I am 21, and he is older by a few years.
I apologise to you...you were right and i was wrong. I really did not expect anyone to crap the thread.
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DonVito
Originally posted by: neosenate
Originally posted by: Taggart
21 is too young to get engaged.
Why?
Because, and I mean you no disrespect at all, a 21-year-old just doesn't know themselves at all. You might end up continuing to get along and love each other as you get older, or you might not. IMO it's a terrible idea to marry someone if you've never seriously dated anyone but that person, and you're likely to end up regretting it and resenting the other person. Honestly I think 25 is too young, and 21 isn't even close.
I actually think couples would be better off if they didn't run around dating anyone and everyone they can before they get married because they don't "know themselves." Getting to know one's self is something that's done throughout the course of one's entire life and is best done with a best friend, regardless of when it starts or how many other people one has "dated."
Originally posted by: DonVito
Because, and I mean you no disrespect, a 21-year-old just doesn't know themselves at all. You might end up continuing to get along and love each other as you get older, or you might not. IMO it's a terrible idea to marry someone if you've never seriously dated anyone but that person, and you're likely to end up regretting it and resenting the other person. Honestly I think 25 is too young, and 21 isn't even close.
Originally posted by: cobalt
At such a young age you don't want one or both persons to feel that they have missed out on an aspect of life later in the marriage, being single and having fun. I don't think it would be right to be tied down at such a young age. You don't want a person to think that they missed out on certain experiences and decide to walk out when there are kids involved, etc. HOWEVER, what matters is their happiness and if they feel they are ready to be commited and not become another statistic, congrats to them and you have my best wishes in your future together veggiefrog and neosenate.
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: DonVito
Originally posted by: neosenate
Originally posted by: Taggart
21 is too young to get engaged.
Why?
Because, and I mean you no disrespect at all, a 21-year-old just doesn't know themselves at all. You might end up continuing to get along and love each other as you get older, or you might not. IMO it's a terrible idea to marry someone if you've never seriously dated anyone but that person, and you're likely to end up regretting it and resenting the other person. Honestly I think 25 is too young, and 21 isn't even close.
I actually think couples would be better off if they didn't run around dating anyone and everyone they can before they get married because they don't "know themselves." Getting to know one's self is something that's done throughout the course of one's entire life and is best done with a best friend, regardless of when it starts or how many other people one has "dated."
Originally posted by: Ameesh
when you post this pseudo chivalrious drivel, i think you have a vagina, cmon now it really would explain a lot of things
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: Ameesh
when you post this pseudo chivalrious drivel, i think you have a vagina, cmon now it really would explain a lot of things
Oh, sorry, I'll post more asshole stuff later to make up for it.