I just do not get women sometimes

[cerebusPu]

tell her you are seeing someone casually right now but you'll meet up to be friendly and have a good time. she'll do her best to attract you this way. be prepared to vaguely describe the other girl if she asks..

 

[Proletariat]

Golddigger

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: rstove02
Think one of the many reasons is because I am an engineer. if only they came with a fixed list of requirements that do not change.

Anywho here is my story....

Four months ago I go on a blind date with a gal. Was one of those friend of a friend of a friend of a coworker kinda deals. I had a good time and from what I heard through the grape vine so did she. I leave a message on her voicemail asking to go out bowling or some other activity. She does not call back but leaves me a "Dear John" email saying that even though she had a good time she could not find enough in common to build a relationship on. Told her I understand and farewell.

Last night....
I get an email from her saying that she can not stop thinking about me and to give her another chance. Was going to accept at first...but then started thinking what could of brought this on...was I the best out of the discard pile or something.


Cliffs:
1) Blind date 4 months ago where both had fun
2) Got Dear John email when trying to set up 2nd date
3) Four months later (yesterday) got email asking for 2nd date

why spend time analyzing and re-analyzing? if you enjoyed her company take her up on it and go out with her again.

 

[Proletariat]

Originally posted by: Gravity
Good job on the cliffs. Any woman, ignored totally, will usually be attracted to the ignorer.

Totally untrue, if you're an ugly mug you're most likely not gonna get any women in the first place.

Now if there was some basic attraction there, than yes that could happen.

 

[Ausm]

Women are an enigma.

/thread


Ausm

 

[gigapet]

seems like you have the upper hand here. Make her work for it if you decide to see her again .....let her know that she is fighting an uphill battle to impress you. I think I wouldn't even consider that option though and would jsut fire back an email telling her to F-off

 

[BooGiMaN]

sounds like she is just tired of the other guy that treats her bad walks all over her and if any of the other YAGT on here are any indication you two will go out, have a great time and just when it seems she is the one and your ready for a serious relationship....

she will dump you and go back to the loser of an ex bf

 

[Leper Messiah]

Originally posted by: gigapet
seems like you have the upper hand here. Make her work for it if you decide to see her again .....let her know that she is fighting an uphill battle to impress you. I think I wouldn't even consider that option though and would jsut fire back an email telling her to F-off

rofl, but thats because you're a "pimp".

I dunno OP. You're probably a rebound.

 

[DigDug]

I believe Verdi has it right:

I believe Verdi is longwinded. A simple "Women are nuts" would suffice.

 

[Schwan]

Originally posted by: oboeguy

Originally posted by: Zanix
You have to start betting on yourself, my friend.


Edit: and whatever you do, be sure to tease her about the bs she gave you earlier!

 

[FoBoT]

charge her $20

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: rstove02
Think one of the many reasons is because I am an engineer. if only they came with a fixed list of requirements that do not change.

Anywho here is my story....

Four months ago I go on a blind date with a gal. Was one of those friend of a friend of a friend of a coworker kinda deals. I had a good time and from what I heard through the grape vine so did she. I leave a message on her voicemail asking to go out bowling or some other activity. She does not call back but leaves me a "Dear John" email saying that even though she had a good time she could not find enough in common to build a relationship on. Told her I understand and farewell.

Last night....
I get an email from her saying that she can not stop thinking about me and to give her another chance. Was going to accept at first...but then started thinking what could of brought this on...was I the best out of the discard pile or something.


Cliffs:
1) Blind date 4 months ago where both had fun
2) Got Dear John email when trying to set up 2nd date
3) Four months later (yesterday) got email asking for 2nd date

why spend time analyzing and re-analyzing? if you enjoyed her company take her up on it and go out with her again.

He is a self confessed Engineer...

Just go out on a few dates. Don't spend too much £££. Guys shouldn't spend too much £££ on dates to impress a girl. That is f0cked up. Sure spend some £££ but not too much £££.

Go have fun and don't take things too seriously.

You had fun the first time right? Go enjoy yourself somemore. If she turns out to not be that fun then just be amicable about it. Don't be a d!ck.

Koing

 

[PricklyPete]

You can't lose by going out a time or two.

 

[GasX]

If you want a woman to love you, open your heart.

If you want a woman to obsess over you, close it.

-Jim Profit.

 

[Marthisdil]

If you're posting here asking for advice about women, then obviously you don't have them crawling up your doorstep.

If she wants to go out, and you can afford it, and she seemed nice enough to you the first time, go for it...Can't hurt....and if you find you don't like her, drop it.

But well, since you came here in the first place, beggars can't be choosers.

 

[gigapet]

ask yourself how many other 1-date-losers she sent that email to? She's jsut seeking validation. Some guy just ditched her or dicked her over I guarantee.

 

[Phoenix86]

Originally posted by: K1052
While this could be good for you, I'd suggest a measure of caution.

Maybe I'm just being a bit paranoid but the circumstances are suspicious.

No I agree, proceed with caution. She may be genuine in her feelings, or she may be looking for someone to support her.

A "Dear John" after one date? WTF, and she couldn't be bothered to talk in person about it? Heck at least over the phone. She blew him off, in an e-mail... Definatly worthy of caution.

 

[SampSon]

They arn't meant to be understood.
You cannot approach women logically and expect it to work.

 

[Aquila76]

Originally posted by: DigDug

I believe Verdi has it right:

I believe Verdi is longwinded. A simple "Women are nuts" would suffice.

Well, Verdi was Italian. We can't do anything in a brief period of time; especially when it's about women.

 

[ew915]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
don't waste your time trying to understand women. many have tried, all have failed.

Amen to that.

dont go settle sloppy seconds, she probably went out with other people during those 4 months. you can find someone who has more things in "common"

you can always be friends and see what happens from there.

 

[MikeMike]

who cares, just atleast tap it and leave