I just do not get women sometimes

[jaedaliu]

Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy
This is ATOT nobody gets women here!

pfft! iamwiz not only has a wife, but he got implants for her!

to the OP, don't make it into a real date. something simple like pizza and a movie at your place. If she calls you back then you'll know she's not shopping around any more.

 

[acemcmac]

you don't get them sometimes?????

That's better than me- I never get them.

 

[Toasthead]

Originally posted by: Juice Box
seriously.....why not? You have nothing to lose

this is exactly what I was thinking

 

[skrilla]

Ditch her. Find a woman that can make up her mind.

She is putting way too much thought into a date. Analyzing whether a relationship can be built.....no it can't .....now she can't stop thinking about you 4 months later. Its just a date, come on.

 

[rstove02]

Originally posted by: RBachman

I just do not get women sometimes

If you understand them other times, you're way ahead of all of us. Share your knowledge!
ps. I'd ignore the email... but that's just me.

Sometimes I do not get them, the rest of the time I have no freaking clue about them. The only 2 I seem to understand are my 2 sisters.

I understand that the only reason they call me is when then want something.

 

[yoda291]

you're probably her fall/backup guy when her first/second/third so on and so forth don't pan out.

 

[Argo]

Here's what I think happened

1) She met you, you seemed nice but she thought she could do better
2) Time passed and she realized that she can't do better
3) After staying single for a while she decided to take you why she has a chance.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: rstove02
Think one of the many reasons is because I am an engineer. if only they came with a fixed list of requirements that do not change.

Anywho here is my story....

Four months ago I go on a blind date with a gal. Was one of those friend of a friend of a friend of a coworker kinda deals. I had a good time and from what I heard through the grape vine so did she. I leave a message on her voicemail asking to go out bowling or some other activity. She does not call back but leaves me a "Dear John" email saying that even though she had a good time she could not find enough in common to build a relationship on. Told her I understand and farewell.

Last night....
I get an email from her saying that she can not stop thinking about me and to give her another chance. Was going to accept at first...but then started thinking what could of brought this on...was I the best out of the discard pile or something.


Cliffs:
1) Blind date 4 months ago where both had fun
2) Got Dear John email when trying to set up 2nd date
3) Four months later (yesterday) got email asking for 2nd date

Ditch her, she found someone in that 4 months and then, he used and abused her, so she feels lonely and wants to use you as a crutch. :thumbsdown:

 

[thraashman]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: rstove02
Think one of the many reasons is because I am an engineer. if only they came with a fixed list of requirements that do not change.

Anywho here is my story....

Four months ago I go on a blind date with a gal. Was one of those friend of a friend of a friend of a coworker kinda deals. I had a good time and from what I heard through the grape vine so did she. I leave a message on her voicemail asking to go out bowling or some other activity. She does not call back but leaves me a "Dear John" email saying that even though she had a good time she could not find enough in common to build a relationship on. Told her I understand and farewell.

Last night....
I get an email from her saying that she can not stop thinking about me and to give her another chance. Was going to accept at first...but then started thinking what could of brought this on...was I the best out of the discard pile or something.


Cliffs:
1) Blind date 4 months ago where both had fun
2) Got Dear John email when trying to set up 2nd date
3) Four months later (yesterday) got email asking for 2nd date

Ditch her, she found someone in that 4 months and then, he used and abused her, so she feels lonely and wants to use you as a crutch. :thumbsdown:

I hate for your sake to think this is the case, but I think it's the most likely reasoning. But hey, give it a shot, talk to her, make sure you find out if she had a bf for the last 4 months and get her to give you a reason why after 4 months she wants you again. It may work out it may not work out. You may end up getting a short lived fun time with her.

 

[AMDZen]

I would simply write her back. Forward to her the original email after the first date. Say something like:

"Just in case you forgot, this was your email after our original date. And to be honest, I was pretty much in agreement with you (on the fact that we don't share much in common). I am more then willing to give you another chance, because I did like you as a person. But what has changed since that email and this one?"

Something to that extent

 

[woowoo]

Maybe she is not "Active" right now....
Modern drugs can work wonders.

 

[dirtboy]

Don't go out with her... yet.

You have the opportunity to position yourself as the desired person in the relationship, or you could just bow down and go out with her.

Write her back... say something like...

Four months ago I enjoyed our date and I wanted to go out a few more times to see if we had a basis to have a relationship. Apparently you were able to make that determination after our first date. Now four months later you claim you haven't stopped thinking about me.

What has happened in the past four months to change your mind?

Why should I give you another opportunity when you didn't even have enough respect to call me and tell me you didn't want to see me again?

See what she says and post it here for my amusement.

EDIT: Do not, under any condition, in your next e-mail or conversation with her, say that you are willing to go out again. Make her confess and ask you again. You have to make yourself worth something and this is your opportunity to make her want you more.

 

[dxkj]

Well just remember now, youve got hand... you are the one with power. She came crawling back to you with a message :I cant stop thinking about you:

Dont let that change over. You dont have to rub it in, but you can use it to maintain control of the relationship, that alone is worth seeing where this goes

 

[Gravity]

Good job on the cliffs. Any woman, ignored totally, will usually be attracted to the ignorer.

 

[K1052]

While this could be good for you, I'd suggest a measure of caution.

Maybe I'm just being a bit paranoid but the circumstances are suspicious.

 

[GuitarDaddy]

So much over analysis in this thread

It's pretty simple, if you like the girl go out with her, if not don't.


There are a million possible reasons why she snubbed you 4mos ago and has now reversed course and you will likely never know.

 

[Spineshank]

Just go out with her if you want to or not if you dont. Who cares why she came crawling back. Its a date, youre not getting married.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
You were probably the best of a discard pile, or maybe it just took her this long to work down to your depth in the pile. It seems like a reasonable assumption. Now that things didn't work out with whoever she chose first, she needs some one else to buy her food and pay for her movies.

Tell her you'll go out with her again, but you expect her to put out on the first date this time.

I like this whole post, but particularly the bolded part..

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: rstove02
Think one of the many reasons is because I am an engineer. if only they came with a fixed list of requirements that do not change.

since when do you get that in engineering

 

[Zee]

maybe the email wasnt meant for you and she was drunk

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Wapp
Go for it but if she doesn't put out by the third date, I think it's time you move on.

At the rate he's going, the "third date" will be another four months after the second:evil:

 

[Zalez]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
don't waste your time trying to understand women. many have tried, all have failed.

Not true, I understand them.
Def. Women - noun: All **cking nuts, Don't know what they want. Sex is non-existent when they marry you. Not trustworthy!

I mean honestly, How can a man trust something that bleeds 3-7 days and not DIE!!

 

[Aquila76]

I believe Verdi has it right:

Rigoletto - La donna e mobile

Women are unsettled
As feathers in the wind,
Each moment changes their minds.
In tears, or even smiles,
Yes, women's lovely face,
Forever beguiles us!

 

[jman19]

Originally posted by: woowoo
Maybe she is not "Active" right now....
Modern drugs can work wonders.

LOL terrible...

 

[rstove02]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: rstove02
Think one of the many reasons is because I am an engineer. if only they came with a fixed list of requirements that do not change.

since when do you get that in engineering

That's what work extentions and change of requirement forms are for. Either way, they are up front in writing.