I need a girl

[cressida]

Originally posted by: Kroze
thanks. do you think it's good for me to take everything that reminds me of her and gave it all back to her? I now feel really alone because of that. I return everything imagineable. even stuff that's not hers, as long as anything that remind me of her.... now i'm feeling so empty. the only thing i have left is digital pictures of our vacation to the bahamas.

I already removed all of her pictures from my site. www.bao2k.com

Nah, that will just hurt her even more. Just put it somewhere with your old high school stuff and avoid looking at them for a long time.

 

[DPG0wnz]

Originally posted by: lavagirl669

Originally posted by: Kroze
i tried calling her tonight to see if there's any chance at all to patch things up. But hearing her tone and how she's busy. I am so sured that it's definitely over. She sounded really fed up. I'm feeling really shtty right now cause i don't know am i that bad of a person

give it some time dude....she might come around
girls are weird like that sometimes.

Girls are weird like that all the time.

 

[imported_Aelius]

From my experience she wants to sort things out in her head and doesn't feel it helpful for anyone to help her with that.

I have had a similar email conversation going back and forth with my ex.

I have had a very deep relationship unravel on me and went through a similar situation so I can understand some of the feelings you are going through. I been there. It was also my first and never felt anything like it before.

It took some time, a couple of months (I just couldn't get over her), but in my case she cared so much about me that she gave me a chance to have a deep involved discussion and I understood where I went wrong and I had to make a choice.

It was clear that either I choose to understand and chalk it up as education in relationships and choose to have her help me and stay friends (we are so close best friends that I still tell her things I wouldn't tell my mother if she was still alive) or I choose to keep entertaining the notion that its not over and refuse her help in which case she would never talk to me ever again.

Belieave me when I say that when you are as close to a girl as I was, and virtually still am, that it will hurt a lot and you will cry yourself to sleep on many nights and will think about suicide and how you will never have anyone like her again.

You will never be able to reach the same level of intimacy and to be so in tune with another girl in your life if you refuse to get over it.

It won't happen overnight but it must happen. Do not be afraid to let go and try to make the best of your relationship that you can.

If you were ever truly as close to her as you let on then it's very possible that you two can still be best of friends and can share a LOT togeather if you let it.

Someday someone else will come along and you will have the confidence and education of your past experience to make the best of that relationship.

I know it hurts and I know you feel betrayed. I was in a similar situation with a close friend (just to make it feel worse). It hurt me for over six months and one of my friends was in a similar situation with his first GF and was hurting for two month.

The only thing that helped me was that I let her help me out of it and after I realized that we are still best of friends and that I could tell her anything in the world our bonds of trust was renewed.

Today I trust my best friend more than anyone on this planet.

I hope my own experience helped to understand your situation a little better.

 

[Kroze]

thank you that help a lot actually.

like i said, i tried to call and talk to her. I apologized for my friend's action and my lack of inactions for the other night. I assured her that nothing like that will ever happen again.

My friends are very different from me. you wouldn't think how my type would know those type of people. Always fighting & all have warrants. but they were all just looking after me i told her.

So...we hung up at that....


me telling her nothing like that will ever happen again & that i want us to be able to say hi next time we see each other.

 

[Kroze]

i tried sleeping but couldn't from then on till now posting on AT. everytime i try to lay down, i'm just tearing up.

 

[bradruth]

Originally posted by: Kroze
i tried sleeping but couldn't from then on till now posting on AT. everytime i try to lay down, i'm just tearing up.

It'll be rough for awhile, but what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.


...unless you get a disease...that'll just make you weaker.

 

[Kadarin]

It sucks a lot when it happens, but it's just one more facet of life that we all go through. The only things I know of that cure the feeling are time and meeting new people. Good luck to you, and you have my best wishes.

 

[imported_Aelius]

Originally posted by: bradruth

Originally posted by: Kroze
i tried sleeping but couldn't from then on till now posting on AT. everytime i try to lay down, i'm just tearing up.

It'll be rough for awhile, but what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.

He is right. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

At least it is true in this case.

Just take the relationship for what it is now as opposed to what it should be or worse... what it could have been.

Just give her time and give yourself time.

The worst thing you can do right now is rush into action.

 

[Reikon]

Originally posted by: bradruth

It'll be rough for awhile, but what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.


...unless you get a disease...that'll just make you weaker.

lol

 

[imported_Dragon]

Kroze,

I would also advise against calling her for a while.

Best advice I can give you right now is to have a real good cry, then a real good workout.

Take each day one at a time and you will soon know if it is meant to be.

Be strong and be safe.

 

[DeeKnow]

Originally posted by: Kroze
I need a girl

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