I need life advice

bobbobbob

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I want to:
-Play multiplayer online games.
-Learn to master use gimp or advanced painting soft.
-Keep developing single player game.


But this is impossible, as I see.

Im working 8:00 to 17:00 ( so I am busy 6:00 to 18:00 ).
Next few hours is left for shopping, eating and watering. 22:00 go to sleep, because need to wake up early next day.

These 5/7 days, I find no time for multiplayer or programming at all.


During weekend, I am often too dizzy by a work. Getting no motivation to do anything.


And most case, worst of all. As I mentioned - I work full time job, and I earn 400-600 euro month. This is almost impossible to rent 1 room house - pay bills - buy food
all together. If I loose job temporary, I become homeless.
Living at parents house is only possible way. In parents house I dont build rules, neither have voice right.
In parents house I cant do multiplayer & programming. Since there is sister, who constantly injecting my PC components once my PC is turned on ( enought to enter UEFI, neccessary to boot OS ):
Resulting in: horrible internet connection;
PC will work bad: power chokes, explorer.exe crashes, small electric wave surges.
Negotiate is no way.



Overall it is bad. School was pain, now job is pain. Boring life continueing entire years. Any ideas? Have no family and no bank dept.


I want to:
-Play multiplayer online games.
-Learn to master use gimp or advanced painting soft.
-Keep developing single player game.


Is there some kind of option, to skip all that work and get room?
 

ImpulsE69

Lifer
Jan 8, 2010
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If you are truly unhappy with your job, and have no family/debt look for another job that you might enjoy and/or free up more of your time. No reason to stay there given what you've said. (note that doesn't mean quit your job....find a job to replace it).
 

Paladin3

Diamond Member
Mar 5, 2004
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You've got two day off per week and no motivation to do anything during those days off??? You didn't like school and don't like work??? And you expect us to tell you some secret that will allow you to magically obtain super game developer skills when you can't even defeat your sister in the battle to keep your PC virus free???

Try being bit by a radio active nerd spider who likes to game. Or ask your DM if you can roll a D6 to add to your intelligence/motivation stat.

/brutalhonesty

Seriously, there is no substitute for education and hard work.
 

ImpulsE69

Lifer
Jan 8, 2010
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Bill Gates and Warren Buffet have some advice for you:

https://www.cnbc.com/2019/01/24/war...-one-thing-will-make-you-more-successful.html

I didn't say you'd like it. I don't really like it either. But it's good advice.

Yea this is probably what I am most guilty of when I got into my career and comfortable. Lack of drive to extend further because frankly - I work to live. I'm not out to be super rich or successful. I just want to enjoy my life...and since enjoying my life includes doing things that won't make me successful and concentrate on things I enjoy, that's how it is.
 

Red Squirrel

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May 24, 2003
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Try to find a shift work job. Unfortunately it's not that easy as most jobs are 8-5 but worth checking. I have a shift work job and I would hate having to go back to an 8-5. 2 day weekends are just too short. Rather work more 12h shifts and get more time off.

Some 2 weeks on 2 week off fly in type jobs pay well too, but they are hard work, usually mining in cold climates. It's kinda crossed my mind but I don't really like the idea of being away from home for week+ at a time and you're sharing living space etc.

Only thing I must warn is even with shift work and all the time off I get, I find I tend to grow complacent with all the time I have and sometimes get lazy and don't do much. You need self discipline to keep going. I find this is easier in summer as I find myself doing stuff around the yard etc. But yeah with a standard 8-5 it sucks since on weekends you need to do house work like laundry etc so really it's not really a break.

I eventually want to try to break free of this whole idea of needing to work for the man though. We are slaves to the system, and most people will just say to "suck it up and work harder" because that's how we've been conditioned.

Could be worse though, living in a 3rd world country you work even harder than here yet get nothing for it. 16+ hours in a factory for a couple dollars a day.
 

bobbobbob

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If you are truly unhappy with your job, and have no family/debt look for another job that you might enjoy and/or free up more of your time. No reason to stay there given what you've said. (note that doesn't mean quit your job....find a job to replace it).

I tried pizza's baker, shop worker. 160 hours is very much. Was always boring, mental pain daily. Even don't know where to go. Its all bad the same everywhere.

You've got two day off per week and no motivation to do anything during those days off??? You didn't like school and don't like work??? And you expect us to tell you some secret that will allow you to magically obtain super game developer skills when you can't even defeat your sister in the battle to keep your PC virus free???

In these 'free 2 days' I even cant relax. Im nervous, because of unbearable fact, that I will have to work 5 days soon.
I am so nervous that " ohh look its free air, lets breath it alot " I even don't know what to do at all.

Sister actually injecting via electromagnetic waves.
It is not the OS fault. I even tried with computer who has: disabled LAN, WiFi, SATA in UEFI settings.
 

bobbobbob

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Aug 31, 2016
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I eventually want to try to break free of this whole idea of needing to work for the man though. We are slaves to the system, and most people will just say to "suck it up and work harder" because that's how we've been conditioned.
Atleast could make NO CHILDRENS. So this could be avoided.
Also without attempts to "be best worker", could be achieved better results.
 

Kaido

Elite Member & Kitchen Overlord
Feb 14, 2004
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I want to:
-Play multiplayer online games.
-Learn to master use gimp or advanced painting soft.
-Keep developing single player game.


But this is impossible, as I see.

Im working 8:00 to 17:00 ( so I am busy 6:00 to 18:00 ).
Next few hours is left for shopping, eating and watering. 22:00 go to sleep, because need to wake up early next day.

These 5/7 days, I find no time for multiplayer or programming at all.


During weekend, I am often too dizzy by a work. Getting no motivation to do anything.


And most case, worst of all. As I mentioned - I work full time job, and I earn 400-600 euro month. This is almost impossible to rent 1 room house - pay bills - buy food
all together. If I loose job temporary, I become homeless.
Living at parents house is only possible way. In parents house I dont build rules, neither have voice right.
In parents house I cant do multiplayer & programming. Since there is sister, who constantly injecting my PC components once my PC is turned on ( enought to enter UEFI, neccessary to boot OS ):
Resulting in: horrible internet connection;
PC will work bad: power chokes, explorer.exe crashes, small electric wave surges.
Negotiate is no way.



Overall it is bad. School was pain, now job is pain. Boring life continueing entire years. Any ideas? Have no family and no bank dept.


I want to:
-Play multiplayer online games.
-Learn to master use gimp or advanced painting soft.
-Keep developing single player game.


Is there some kind of option, to skip all that work and get room?

Once you audit it honestly, the reality of how much time you actually have available as a working adult stinks, especially if you want to be a healthy, high-energy person. I've found there are 4 keys to maintaining high energy:

1. Early bedtime with sufficient sleep for what your body requires
2. Macro-based diet (i.e. eat according to what your body requires for protein, carbs, and fats)
3. Exercise daily (30 minutes brisk cardio, minimum)
4. Stress management (I use GTD)

This produces two naturally-occurring results:

1. Energy
2. Motivation

If you don't foster a healthy environment on a daily basis for your body, then you are cutting off that natural spring of energy & motivation, so instead of having an internal motor powering you, you have to go & find it outside of yourself every day. This is how the majority of American lives, in a nutshell...kinda tired, kinda low energy, hunting around Netflix & the Internet for some kind of entertainment to fend off boredom & to feel some kind of motivation. Imagine the opposite situation:

1. Stay up late & don't get enough hours of sleep
2. Eat whatever you want, whenever you want
3. No exercise
4. No stress management = high stress, high anxiety, lack of preparedness, procrastination, etc.

It's basically choosing to live life on easy mode vs. hard mode. If you have to fight your body to feel good & have energy all day, that's a real chore, and as you've discovered, your weekends become wasted because you have no motivation to do anything. So step one is deciding to live a healthier life, because otherwise you're going to have a huge daily low-energy & no-motivation barrier to overcome, which is not fun to deal with at all. Step two is auditing your time & finding available pockets to work within. Can you listen to an audiobook while you work? Can you study during your commute? Can you work on your projects at lunch? It's really easy to window-shop projects & ideas & have wishlists of stuff to do, but being honest about (1) managing your energy, and (2) finding & using pockets of time throughout the day requires both work & a lifestyle shift. So let's break down your situation:

1. I'm assuming your job is low-paying in your area. The solution to that is education. Outside of your work hours, what training options are you pursuing to increase your monthly earnings? You are going to be working for at least the next 40 years, so it's worth figuring out what you want to do & then getting the education required to do it. It's also worth working on switching jobs to a comfortable living wage so that you're not stressed out about living paycheck to paycheck & becoming homeless.

2. It sounds like you have the option of living at home, although the rules are strict. If you do move back home, then take control of the situation: be honest with your parents about what your goals & what you're doing. Take over shopping, cooking, cleaning, and other household chores - make your parents & sister happy to have you home.

3. Get a sinewave battery for your computer to protect it from power surges, and put a BIOS password & Windows password on it so that your sister can't mess with it.

4. Create some plans & a schedule for all of your activities. This is where you whip up a work/life balance: when do you work, and when do you play? It's pretty easy to get sucked into video games all night; they are literally designed to be addictive. Even spending just 10 minutes a day learning GIMP or similar software would yield tremendous results over time...10 minutes a day, every day, is 60 hours of training per year - it really adds up! So what is your plan for studying GIMP? What is your plan for developing your single-player game? What is your plan to allow yourself some play-time, without getting sucked in for too long & ruining your schedule & your health?

In a nutshell, you have to shift to living a proactive life instead of a reactive one. It's easy to complain & look for shortcut options; it's hard to commit to real work (boring) & to change (requires effort & overcoming fear), especially when it involves putting yourself in situations you don't want to be in (like living with your parents). However, no one is holding a gun to your head...the world is your oyster! You can do anything you want to, you just can't do it immediately or without effort. I am a late-bloomer myself...I did terrible in high school, I did poorly for most of college, and had a string of low-paying, stressful jobs during that time. It took me awhile to figure things out & get my act together, but my life is a lot better these days - by choice & by effort.
 

Kaido

Elite Member & Kitchen Overlord
Feb 14, 2004
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I tried pizza's baker, shop worker. 160 hours is very much. Was always boring, mental pain daily. Even don't know where to go. Its all bad the same everywhere.



In these 'free 2 days' I even cant relax. Im nervous, because of unbearable fact, that I will have to work 5 days soon.
I am so nervous that " ohh look its free air, lets breath it alot " I even don't know what to do at all.

It sounds like you're missing a personal productivity system in your life, aka a way to manage your life, your commitments, and your projects so that you're not so stressed out. What tools do you use right now in terms of project management, personal planning, and scheduling?
 

Fritzo

Lifer
Jan 3, 2001
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Life never lets you do what you want to do, does it. It seems like after the age of 21 you become enslaved.
 

bobbobbob

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It sounds like you're missing a personal productivity system in your life, aka a way to manage your life, your commitments, and your projects so that you're not so stressed out. What tools do you use right now in terms of project management, personal planning, and scheduling?

After work -> I charge laptop battery & go to forest/yields to play 15 years old single player games. Tribal trouble, Rage rally, HoMM4, Hard truck 2.
Its descent during summer and when is no rain.
Since sun light is bright. I use tent, it covers major sunshine.
https://www.senukai.lt/p/tentas-zalias-vagner-sdh-6-x-10-m/4qq2

Sitting on the ground + portion of tent, bringing alongside pillow.

Once battery is out or back starts feel pain -> I return to home. If some hours left that day, I go back with laptop.


During cold'er days, i move to city library, and play old pc games there.


If weather conditions is not in my favor and-or library is closed -> I lay-walk-wandering in parents house.
 

Kaido

Elite Member & Kitchen Overlord
Feb 14, 2004
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After work -> I charge laptop battery & go to forest/yields to play 15 years old single player games. Tribal trouble, Rage rally, HoMM4, Hard truck 2.
Its descent during summer and when is no rain.
Since sun light is bright. I use tent, it covers major sunshine.
https://www.senukai.lt/p/tentas-zalias-vagner-sdh-6-x-10-m/4qq2

Sitting on the ground + portion of tent, bringing alongside pillow.

Once battery is out or back starts feel pain -> I return to home. If some hours left that day, I go back with laptop.


During cold'er days, i move to city library, and play old pc games there.


If weather conditions is not in my favor and-or library is closed -> I lay-walk-wandering in parents house.

Are you in Lithuania?
 

snoopy7548

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Jan 1, 2005
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Sounds like this guy needs therapy, myself. He's got Anxiety problems, for sure. They got meds for that, though.

OP will be miserable no matter what job he has. Sounds like he has depression and anxiety. I'm struggling with the same thing, but I've been taking anxiety medication for the past year and it has helped a lot. I still feel like doing nothing on the weekends/after work, but if I push myself to work on projects I feel a lot better.
 

BD231

Lifer
Feb 26, 2001
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move to a country that supports inbreeding on a monumental scale then get denied pussy for most your entire adult life, you won't care about any of that i promise.
 
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