Originally posted by: luvly
Okay, before I proceed, Chaotic42, I'm dying to have some things clarified. You stated in another thread that you were protected from your parents because they were negligent/abusive (not physically). You said your mum used to take you to drug houses. So your grandparents adopted you.
Now, I am so confused, and I do not like to be! Therefore, my question is, are the parents you were referring to the same parents whom you mentioned one had gotten into an accident and later died, and the other is now old? It seems rather odd what you stated in the other thread about how glad you were that you were shielded from them. If they aren't the same parents, then were you adopted or what? Your stories are confusing.
I like Mississippi. I've lived there most of my life. I will be around my family and my old friends. I have a back up place to live (possibly) with my Uncle and his family in Louisiana.My advice: Go only if you really like the state of Mississippi (MS, right?). Reason: Your relative having a gf is a bad, bad news. He won't give her up in the event of a conflict and will probably often side with her. So be sure you're set to move out very quickly to avoid a bad relationship with you two. For this reason, you should be sure you don't mind a life in Mississippi.
I've been independant since I was 18. I went to college at 16, but I moved back home. I've been busting my behind, paying bills, dealing with things like getting the power cut off, all of that on my own.Most importantly, you really want to be independent. I think it's time for you to do that. You may get more injured if you try to bond so much at this point in time, where you're trying to establish yourself. During holidays, you can visit your relatives or adoptive family. Personally, I would choose a state that I would love to explore. I would then "adopt" a family there.
Originally posted by: Mermaidman
I vote for move to MS because you like the area, have family, and plan to go to college there (qualify for in-state tuition). I do have a few questions:
What kind of accommodations does your cousin have in Gulfport? Is it spacious enough so that you can have your own space? I'm not talking just having your own room, but is the room on the other side of the house, etc.
Are you sure about landing a job there? Once Christmas is over, there'll be fewer jobs and more applicants.
Originally posted by: Mermaidman
What about qualifying for in-state tuition? Is that a non-issue for you?
Originally posted by: luvly
Hope you read my edit, Chaotic42! I'm sorry I seemed so confused . . . I was just in a chaotic state. :Q I think now I got the complete gist. Based upon the clarification, I do think you should move back to MS now. If your relationship with your relatives is decent, then there's a lot to enjoy for that period. You may want to make peace with Indiana, though, before leaving. Make your last month the best, so you would almost for a second think of staying there. As I said, I think you make your experience fun or miserable. It is easy to fill that void by convincing yourself that life would be much more fun if you were with your relatives. . . .
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
Chaotic42 as you may recall I am in MS too about 2 1/2 hours from where you may be living. Although I'm really a transplanted Northerner and MS isn't my cup of tea, I do enjoy the milder weather and the coast reminds me of my beloved Florida (except the crappy water..lol).
If you're unhappy and you wish to pursue this opportunity at USM I say by all means do it. Given your situation I am surprised you aren't in a depressed funk right now! I know I'd rather live here than Indiana any day.
Originally posted by: Chaotic42If you want pretty water, book a ferry to Ship Island. There's a casino owner who wants to blow up the barrier islands so that the water is blue. It may happen, you never know.
Originally posted by: EagleKeeper
Recommend that you pack you items into a U-Haul and pull them down to MS.
You do not sound happy in Indiana.
Do not sell you items, the $$$ will not be as much as you expect.
$700 seems awlful steep to move your stuff - unless it is a professional doing it. If so, do it yourself.
Make sure the the cousin GF is OK with you staying there. You do not want to ruin the relationship.
As soon as you can start looking for work and living near where you wish to go to school.