I think my x is losing it...

[Armitage]

So she called again tonight - tried 6 times in 90 minutes before I got home. Crying on the phon and says she needs me - that I need to come down again. WTFWTFWTF

And get this - I called the emergency number for the Dr. she's seeing, and the local mental health crisis line for some advice. No answer at either of them :|

I'm gone again...

 

[RU482]

I feel for ya man.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: Armitage
So she called again tonight - tried 6 times in 90 minutes before I got home. Crying on the phon and says she needs me - that I need to come down again. WTFWTFWTF

And get this - I called the emergency number for the Dr. she's seeing, and the local mental health crisis line for some advice. No answer at either of them :|

I'm gone again...

Man I feel for ya. Mental Illness is a sick, sick, nasty disease. Best of luck, and I agree it is time to start seriously documenting/recording things for the sake of your children in addition to seeking legal advice.

 

[Krazefinn]

Man, you need to do your best and talk to her, see if she'll give up the kids at least temporarily to reduce her stress levels. She has to be cognizant enough to realize her present condition is not healthy for them. Do your best to establish that rapport with her, and offer to help her anyway you can...not that its easy, but since she is in the medical field surely she would ageree with you on that point.....and another suggestion might be to have a friend or someone nearby to act as an impartial witness, if thats possible.

With treatment prognosis can be quite good. Psychiatric disorders do not have to completely destroy lives like they once did, but key is appropriate diagnosis and treatment. Does she have any close friends/confidantes you might talk to if they have observed what you are? But like you know, if she percieves you as threat...it could escalate and she may decoensate rapidly....which also might get her involuntarily placed and evaluated.

 

[Fritzo]

Whoa...someone needs da medz!

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: Krazefinn
Man, you need to do your best and talk to her, see if she'll give up the kids at least temporarily to reduce her stress levels. She has to be cognizant enough to realize her present condition is not healthy for them. Do your best to establish that rapport with her, and offer to help her anyway you can...not that its easy, but since she is in the medical field surely she would ageree with you on that point.....and another suggestion might be to have a friend or someone nearby to act as an impartial witness, if thats possible.

With treatment prognosis can be quite good. Psychiatric disorders do not have to completely destroy lives like they once did, but key is appropriate diagnosis and treatment. Does she have any close friends/confidantes you might talk to if they have observed what you are? But like you know, if she percieves you as threat...it could escalate and she may decoensate rapidly....which also might get her involuntarily placed and evaluated.

while great advice, the first step is to realize there is a problem.

My advice? OP sees a therapist as well as an attorney and not listen to us.

"one cannot hope for the best without preparing for the worst"

Nasty disease it is, and it happens fast. Weird thing is the logical course of action isn't the best. Only a mental health professional can assist now, she's over the edge and reaching out...needs help, immediately.

 

[Armitage]

I'm back - holy sh|t I'm exhausted. Haven't ben sleping well for weeks to begin with.
She wasn't nearly as delusional tonight as she was last week - we talked in the house for one thing, instead of the car. She is still convinced her coworkers are "playing games" with her "testing" her. But overall, I would describe her state tonight as closer to nervous breakdown the schizophrenia. Talking about quitting her job and trying to get one up in Denver (1.5 hour drive on a good day). Kept going on and on that she's afraid to lose the kids because she's afraid she's going to lose her job & house.

And here's where it got twilight zone wierd, at least for me. She asked if I would take her in if that happened - so we could be a family again. Then started on that she wants to take time off from working - maybe 2 years - so she can stay home with the kids. Maybe we could try again, etc. Yea, that's just what I need - an unemployed mentally ill person who I can still barely stand to be in the same room with living in my home. I didn't put it that bluntly, but I explained that I didn't think that was going to happen. And I asked if she felt that way when she was feeling good - of course the answer was no. I'm not going to be the goddamn garbage man - scraping her of the floor and propping her up until she feels better so she can screw everything over again :|

And you're right spidey - I do need to see a counselor myself. And I played phone tag with my attorney all day. You guys probbly all think I'm an attention whore at best - shens at worst. Doesn't matter. It's helpful to me to write it down and helpful to me to get some occasional advice or just a kind word.

Anyway - gnite

 

[kermalou]

I had a close buddy of mine display those scenarios. In college we all went away for summer and he would stay there and while alone sometimes he would lose it. He would make up stories of how his father died (never dead), walk hours on end, and thought people were after him. We even had an intervention and he seemed normal. T

In a nutshell, he turned out to be schizophrenic. now 5 years later, on medication he became class president of his dental school.

seriously look into her being a schizo. also, tell the police and your lawyer EVERYTHING, just to cover your bases and your kids, they are innocent in all this.

 

[stormbv]

Originally posted by: kermalou
I had a close buddy of mine display those scenarios. In college we all went away for summer and he would stay there and while alone sometimes he would lose it. He would make up stories of how his father died (never dead), walk hours on end, and thought people were after him. We even had an intervention and he seemed normal. T

In a nutshell, he turned out to be schizophrenic. now 5 years later, on medication he became class president of his dental school.

seriously look into her being a schizo. also, tell the police and your lawyer EVERYTHING, just to cover your bases and your kids, they are innocent in all this.

Dental school...how fitting!

 

[Phoenix86]

I'll tend to agree with spoidy07, while some of us are trying to offer good help, we aren't professionals by any means. With a mental disease, logic doesn't really apply, and coming from us, logic is what you are going to get.

Good luck with the situation. Hope everything turns out better for your family and ex.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: essasin

Originally posted by: Dimmu

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Armitage
I posted a message a few months back (which the wonderful search function can't find of course) about my x telling me in the parking lot that she was probably going to lose her job - all kinds of paranoia that they were trying to force her out over allegations that she was having an affair with a married doctor (she's a nurse) and etc.

The next morning she calls to tell me "it was all a big practical joke". :roll: Uhm ... yeah ... ok

Now tonight I get home and find a message on my answering machine from her "I really need to talk to you, it's urgent urgent urgent. Nothing to do with the kids, but you need to come." I check caller ID and she's called 3 times in the past hour.

Ok, WTF??

So I call and she sounds upset and tells me she *really* needs to talk to me. I say ok, about what? Well, she can't talk about it n the phone. S I suggest she call back after the kids are in bed (they are with hr tonight). Nope - she can't talk about it on the phone at all. Then she hints that it has to do with the stuff she told me about before. I don't recall her exact words, but she basically suggested (and sounded like she might be lwsing it. Talked about being paranoid about everything - the people she works with, our pediatrician (who she used to work for), etc.

Then I talked to the kids, and they both sounded sad or stressed as well, but said everything was OK. They are 4 & 7

For what it's worth, she does have a fairly history of mental illness in her family.

So, I told her I would go down to her place at 9 (about an hour from now) after the kids are in bed. I have NO idea what the hell Im walking into. :disgust::|

Bring a friend with you if at ALL possible. The last thing you need is an allegation of domestic violence from a crazy woman.

I wouldn't have thought of that. That is a very good point/idea. Bring a friend!

good idea and i hope everything works out...dont forget to update!

Extremely good idea. It may be intervention time.

**EDIT**
She sounds Bipolar Schizophrenic. At least Bipolar. They have drugs that can help with that. The trick is to have the patients continually take the medication because when they feel better and don't have a spell, they stop, but the drug needs to be taken regularly because your body chemistry starts to need it to function better.

You can check out some Homeopathic remedies. B6, B12, Exercise, St. John's Wort, and a change in diet sometimes helps (less caffeine and processed sugars). It can sometimes even get rid of the spell completely, and is less invasive as the drugs because the homeopathic remedy actually makes the person feel better, not just medicated. If she is already on medication though, a homeopathic remedey will not be as effective because of body chemistry changes. If she is severely impaired prescription drugs are the only way.

Get her to go to a doctor about it. Hold an intervention with friends.

 

[Syrch]

Ilike the bullet proof vest idea

 

[Acanthus]

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
You need to start a journal and document all of this stuff. Save your cell phone records so you can cross reference dates and times of contact from her to you to back yourself up.

Document
Document
Document

This is the way to get the kids out, you will need TONS of dates and specific incidents.

 

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: Phoenix86
I'll tend to agree with spoidy07, while some of us are trying to offer good help, we aren't professionals by any means. With a mental disease, logic doesn't really apply, and coming from us, logic is what you are going to get.

I'm not looking for medical advice - she is seeing a Dr. I'm just talking - whatever advice people want to offer, fine. ATOT is more or less just my sounding board/rant page/escape valve at the moment. I can't really talk to alot of people here in real life - many would know her in some manner and I don't think it would be helpful to start the rumor mill going and make her even more paranoid. Some I have talked to of course. But an anonymous place to vent is helpful for me at the moment.

If this conversation isn't appropriate or people aren't comfortable with it, I'll stop updating the thread.

Good luck with the situation. Hope everything turns out better for your family and ex.

Thanks

 

[spidey07]

Armitage,

You may want to consider a daily diary. It can be very therapeutic to just get it all off your chest/mind.

 

[Phoenix86]

No, if you want advice, keep posting. Especially if it's helping you. I'm just saying take the advice with a grain of salt, as we don't really know you/your ex either.

 

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: Phoenix86
No, if you want advice, keep posting. Especially if it's helping you. I'm just saying take the advice with a grain of salt, as we don't really know you/your ex either.

Believe me - I take everything here with a HUGE grain of salt. But occasionally there's a bit of wheat in the chaff.