I think my x is losing it...

[Armitage]

I posted a message a few months back (which the wonderful search function can't find of course) about my x telling me in the parking lot that she was probably going to lose her job - all kinds of paranoia that they were trying to force her out over allegations that she was having an affair with a married doctor (she's a nurse) and etc.

The next morning she calls to tell me "it was all a big practical joke". :roll: Uhm ... yeah ... ok

Now tonight I get home and find a message on my answering machine from her "I really need to talk to you, it's urgent urgent urgent. Nothing to do with the kids, but you need to come." I check caller ID and she's called 3 times in the past hour.

Ok, WTF??

So I call and she sounds upset and tells me she *really* needs to talk to me. I say ok, about what? Well, she can't talk about it n the phone. S I suggest she call back after the kids are in bed (they are with hr tonight). Nope - she can't talk about it on the phone at all. Then she hints that it has to do with the stuff she told me about before. I don't recall her exact words, but she basically suggested (and sounded like she might be lwsing it. Talked about being paranoid about everything - the people she works with, our pediatrician (who she used to work for), etc.

Then I talked to the kids, and they both sounded sad or stressed as well, but said everything was OK. They are 4 & 7

For what it's worth, she does have a fairly history of mental illness in her family.

So, I told her I would go down to her place at 9 (about an hour from now) after the kids are in bed. I have NO idea what the hell Im walking into. :disgust::|

 

[jumpr]

Originally posted by: Armitage
I posted a message a few months back (which the wonderful search function can't find of course) about my x telling me in the parking lot that she was probably going to lose her job - all kinds of paranoia that they were trying to force her out over allegations that she was having an affair with a married doctor (she's a nurse) and etc.

The next morning she calls to tell me "it was all a big practical joke". :roll: Uhm ... yeah ... ok

Now tonight I get home and find a message on my answering machine from her "I really need to talk to you, it's urgent urgent urgent. Nothing to do with the kids, but you need to come." I check caller ID and she's called 3 times in the past hour.

Ok, WTF??

So I call and she sounds upset and tells me she *really* needs to talk to me. I say ok, about what? Well, she can't talk about it n the phone. S I suggest she call back after the kids are in bed (they are with hr tonight). Nope - she can't talk about it on the phone at all. Then she hints that it has to do with the stuff she told me about before. I don't recall her exact words, but she basically suggested (and sounded like she might be lwsing it. Talked about being paranoid about everything - the people she works with, our pediatrician (who she used to work for), etc.

Then I talked to the kids, and they both sounded sad or stressed as well, but said everything was OK. They are 4 & 7

For what it's worth, she does have a fairly history of mental illness in her family.

So, I told her I would go down to her place at 9 (about an hour from now) after the kids are in bed. I have NO idea what the hell Im walking into. :disgust::|

Bring a friend with you if at ALL possible. The last thing you need is an allegation of domestic violence from a crazy woman.

 

[Dimmu]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Armitage
I posted a message a few months back (which the wonderful search function can't find of course) about my x telling me in the parking lot that she was probably going to lose her job - all kinds of paranoia that they were trying to force her out over allegations that she was having an affair with a married doctor (she's a nurse) and etc.

The next morning she calls to tell me "it was all a big practical joke". :roll: Uhm ... yeah ... ok

Now tonight I get home and find a message on my answering machine from her "I really need to talk to you, it's urgent urgent urgent. Nothing to do with the kids, but you need to come." I check caller ID and she's called 3 times in the past hour.

Ok, WTF??

So I call and she sounds upset and tells me she *really* needs to talk to me. I say ok, about what? Well, she can't talk about it n the phone. S I suggest she call back after the kids are in bed (they are with hr tonight). Nope - she can't talk about it on the phone at all. Then she hints that it has to do with the stuff she told me about before. I don't recall her exact words, but she basically suggested (and sounded like she might be lwsing it. Talked about being paranoid about everything - the people she works with, our pediatrician (who she used to work for), etc.

Then I talked to the kids, and they both sounded sad or stressed as well, but said everything was OK. They are 4 & 7

For what it's worth, she does have a fairly history of mental illness in her family.

So, I told her I would go down to her place at 9 (about an hour from now) after the kids are in bed. I have NO idea what the hell Im walking into. :disgust::|

Bring a friend with you if at ALL possible. The last thing you need is an allegation of domestic violence from a crazy woman.

I wouldn't have thought of that. That is a very good point/idea. Bring a friend!

 

[Audiotherapy]

and a bulletproof vest... ask her to shoot your heart not head, so the vest will be more effective

 

[Armitage]

WTFWTFWTF
She just called back again to tell me to just forget it - she thinks she's just going to change jobs. I guess it's all just a joke again :|

I told her no - she got me this spun up, worried about the situation with the kids, etc. I'm coming and she's going to tell me what hte hell is going on.

Bringing a friend is a god idea - unfortunately I don't know anybody right now that I could bring into this.

 

[Ultralight]

And whose watching the kids? Also, how long has this behavior been going on? Does it seem to reflect the family illness you speak of?

 

[BobDaMenkey]

I'll third the bring a friend. She's probably literally losing her sanity. It happened to my mom, it's not a pretty thing at all. Try and keep close tabs on her, and start looking into possible ways to get the kids away from her.

My mom went from being a grade school art/music teacher(who still had a license to practice law and used to be a tax or realty attorney) to being a homeless broke and jailed lunatic. She got evicted from her appartment, got a house, got that repoed, crashed her car 3 times, jailed twice, institutionalized against her will once, a restraining order out against her for hitting a neighbor kid, almost killed her dog, tried to light her brothers house on fire.... The list goes on and on.

 

[essasin]

Originally posted by: Dimmu

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Armitage
I posted a message a few months back (which the wonderful search function can't find of course) about my x telling me in the parking lot that she was probably going to lose her job - all kinds of paranoia that they were trying to force her out over allegations that she was having an affair with a married doctor (she's a nurse) and etc.

The next morning she calls to tell me "it was all a big practical joke". :roll: Uhm ... yeah ... ok

Now tonight I get home and find a message on my answering machine from her "I really need to talk to you, it's urgent urgent urgent. Nothing to do with the kids, but you need to come." I check caller ID and she's called 3 times in the past hour.

Ok, WTF??

So I call and she sounds upset and tells me she *really* needs to talk to me. I say ok, about what? Well, she can't talk about it n the phone. S I suggest she call back after the kids are in bed (they are with hr tonight). Nope - she can't talk about it on the phone at all. Then she hints that it has to do with the stuff she told me about before. I don't recall her exact words, but she basically suggested (and sounded like she might be lwsing it. Talked about being paranoid about everything - the people she works with, our pediatrician (who she used to work for), etc.

Then I talked to the kids, and they both sounded sad or stressed as well, but said everything was OK. They are 4 & 7

For what it's worth, she does have a fairly history of mental illness in her family.

So, I told her I would go down to her place at 9 (about an hour from now) after the kids are in bed. I have NO idea what the hell Im walking into. :disgust::|

Bring a friend with you if at ALL possible. The last thing you need is an allegation of domestic violence from a crazy woman.

I wouldn't have thought of that. That is a very good point/idea. Bring a friend!

good idea and i hope everything works out...dont forget to update!

 

[jimbob200521]

Just take it one step at a time, and don't, DON'T, do anything hasty.

 

[Xyclone]

Originally posted by: Armitage
WTFWTFWTF
She just called back again to tell me to just forget it - she thinks she's just going to change jobs. I guess it's all just a joke again :|

I told her no - she got me this spun up, worried about the situation with the kids, etc. I'm coming and she's going to tell me what hte hell is going on.

Bringing a friend is a god idea - unfortunately I don't know anybody right now that I could bring into this.

She might have either paranoid schizofrenia (very mild), or borderline personality disorder (unstableness), or even histrionic personality disorder (doing all this for shallow attention).

Bring a friend.

 

[Armitage]

Just called the neighbors who know both of us and explained the situation, and promised to call them back tonight. That's about the best I can do to cover myself - theres one othr person I would consider bringing along, but they are out of town this week.

And the family history - one brother was a coke addict and killed himself, the other was schizophrenic and killed himself (and almost her mom). She's kind of old to be developing that I thought though - 42

 

[stormbv]

It's possible to develop schizophrenia at any age.

 

[Ultralight]

Originally posted by: Armitage
Just called the neighbors who know both of us and explained the situation, and promised to call them back tonight. That's about the best I can do to cover myself - theres one othr person I would consider bringing along, but they are out of town this week.

And the family history - one brother was a coke addict and killed himself, the other was schizophrenic and killed himself (and almost her mom). She's kind of old to be developing that I thought though - 42

Usually, however, schizophrenia begins showing up around age 19. Is she just now showing these symptoms or has this been going on for some time? My second Masters degree is in clinical counseling and I have two years worth of emergency psychiatric unit work. Just trying to help.

 

[Armitage]

I'm out of here folks - wish me luck

 

[Xyclone]

Originally posted by: Armitage
Just called the neighbors who know both of us and explained the situation, and promised to call them back tonight. That's about the best I can do to cover myself - theres one othr person I would consider bringing along, but they are out of town this week.

And the family history - one brother was a coke addict and killed himself, the other was schizophrenic and killed himself (and almost her mom). She's kind of old to be developing that I thought though - 42

I knew it. Be careful.

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: Dimmu

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Armitage
I posted a message a few months back (which the wonderful search function can't find of course) about my x telling me in the parking lot that she was probably going to lose her job - all kinds of paranoia that they were trying to force her out over allegations that she was having an affair with a married doctor (she's a nurse) and etc.

The next morning she calls to tell me "it was all a big practical joke". :roll: Uhm ... yeah ... ok

Now tonight I get home and find a message on my answering machine from her "I really need to talk to you, it's urgent urgent urgent. Nothing to do with the kids, but you need to come." I check caller ID and she's called 3 times in the past hour.

Ok, WTF??

So I call and she sounds upset and tells me she *really* needs to talk to me. I say ok, about what? Well, she can't talk about it n the phone. S I suggest she call back after the kids are in bed (they are with hr tonight). Nope - she can't talk about it on the phone at all. Then she hints that it has to do with the stuff she told me about before. I don't recall her exact words, but she basically suggested (and sounded like she might be lwsing it. Talked about being paranoid about everything - the people she works with, our pediatrician (who she used to work for), etc.

Then I talked to the kids, and they both sounded sad or stressed as well, but said everything was OK. They are 4 & 7

For what it's worth, she does have a fairly history of mental illness in her family.

So, I told her I would go down to her place at 9 (about an hour from now) after the kids are in bed. I have NO idea what the hell Im walking into. :disgust::|

Bring a friend with you if at ALL possible. The last thing you need is an allegation of domestic violence from a crazy woman.

I wouldn't have thought of that. That is a very good point/idea. Bring a friend!

<chris rock>if you're gonna bring a friend, bring a white friend!</chris rock>

mods, if that's offensive please delete - its just a joke from one of chris rock's comedy acts


in all seriousness, good luck! i hope things go well:thumbsup:

 

[George P Burdell]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Armitage
I posted a message a few months back (which the wonderful search function can't find of course) about my x telling me in the parking lot that she was probably going to lose her job - all kinds of paranoia that they were trying to force her out over allegations that she was having an affair with a married doctor (she's a nurse) and etc.

The next morning she calls to tell me "it was all a big practical joke". :roll: Uhm ... yeah ... ok

Now tonight I get home and find a message on my answering machine from her "I really need to talk to you, it's urgent urgent urgent. Nothing to do with the kids, but you need to come." I check caller ID and she's called 3 times in the past hour.

Ok, WTF??

So I call and she sounds upset and tells me she *really* needs to talk to me. I say ok, about what? Well, she can't talk about it n the phone. S I suggest she call back after the kids are in bed (they are with hr tonight). Nope - she can't talk about it on the phone at all. Then she hints that it has to do with the stuff she told me about before. I don't recall her exact words, but she basically suggested (and sounded like she might be lwsing it. Talked about being paranoid about everything - the people she works with, our pediatrician (who she used to work for), etc.

Then I talked to the kids, and they both sounded sad or stressed as well, but said everything was OK. They are 4 & 7

For what it's worth, she does have a fairly history of mental illness in her family.

So, I told her I would go down to her place at 9 (about an hour from now) after the kids are in bed. I have NO idea what the hell Im walking into. :disgust::|

Bring a friend with you if at ALL possible. The last thing you need is an allegation of domestic violence from a crazy woman.

Excellent advice, it wouldn't have occured to me.

 

[S Freud]

How old is she? I ask becuase I would think that if she has two kids that she would be more grown up about jokes like that, especially because she has kids?

Mental illness huh? That sucks.

 

[MrDudeMan]

im curious how this is going to pan out...

GL armitage

 

[MazerRackham]

GL dude!! Keep your kids safe!

 

[stormbv]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
im curious how this is going to pan out...

GL armitage

Me too.

 

[bootymac]

Be careful

 

[five40]

So far this looks like the perfect setup for a shens thread. A little history...check. A little credibility...check. A good story...check. No mention of end...check. I hope this isn't a shens and it's not a big deal for the op.

 

[ArJuN]

Good luck man.

 

[NGC_604]

Good Luck. I would be careful. Sounds like she wants to stab someone or herself. Get the kids the hell out of there.