I wish my g/f would lose about 15lbs and tone up a bit

[KerriAnn]

Gurck-
i am not claiming to have never judged anyone, i just feel like it is completely unfair that everyone is so freely judging someone they don't know. and i do know that it is human nature to judge a person on how they look, i do it everyday. but i don't start a thread on the www about it.
and i do not intend to ever try to change anyone else's behaviour. i would have much better luck working on myself, and so would everyone else.

you are absolutely right, i have been treated differently because i am a woman. when i get to the cash register at a computer hardware store, 9 times out of 10, the guy asks me if i know what it is that i just set on the counter, and if i know what to do with it.

 

[dfi]

I think people are reading way too much into this thread. Too many people are trying to draw parallels to their personal lives, and are taking this thread as a way to vent their frustration with their personal issues.

Fundamentally, this thread is about armatron asking his significant other to change. Couples try to adapt and change in a relationship, whether it's a personality change, a physical change, or a change of habits. Is it really so wrong to ask for a change from your significant other? Must one party always suffer in silence for fear of hurting the other's emotions? If there is an aspect of your partner that you don't like, then I feel that tactful communication is the best response.

Don't think for a second that you will never ever try to change someone else's behavior. When you ask your husband to help with the dishes, you are trying to change his behavior. When you ask your child to finish his veggies at the dinner table, you are trying to change his behavior. It is the ability to both change and request change that keeps people together; it's the inability to do so that breaks people apart.

dfi

 

[Yeeny]

lol @ this thread. the funny part is, i have seen quite a few people in it, whining about how they can't get a woman, or keep one, and yet, they talk like they have the option of being so picky.

funny funny stuff.

 

[skace]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
lol @ this thread. the funny part is, i have seen quite a few people in it, whining about how they can't get a woman, or keep one, and yet, they talk like they have the option of being so picky.

funny funny stuff.

eeek its yeeny. I reserve my right to be picky regardless of ability to aquire females . Like a starving person buried under food they don't like.

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: Half the People in this Thread
I have no willpower or motivation and am a lardass, but if the modern world has taugnt me anything it's that I'm blameless for anything and everything I do. Therefore it's someone else's fault... hrm, who better to blame than skinny people? They're all shallow! Hrm, now the only thing left is to sue them for making me fat! Where's the nearest lawyer?

Well said

 

[Gurck]

You may as well try to will yourself to grow ten feet tall as try to change and/or deny the existence of basic human instincts to judge as soon as possible, which means often on sight, and to prefer health & fitness in prospective mates. Sounds like the OP is holding up his end of the bargain by exercising, and that his g/f is slacking. But according to half the people in this thread, he should remain silent or even encourage her weight gain, though it goes against millions of years of evolution... He shouldn't be happy until she's a huge sweaty porker with hygeine issues who can't fit out the door and will develop hypertention, diabetes, and/or heart disease at a young age :disgust: Get a grip people!! This may come as a shock, but you're not perfect! No one is. Those few extra pounds you're carrying around are not beneficial, anyone with less is not unhealthily skinny! I think it's about time we learn the word "responsibility" :roll: The degree to which people have rationalized being overweight and not even looking in the direction of the *concept* of self-responsibility in this thread makes me want to heave.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
[I should also mention that you, being a girl, have probably been given some sort of preferential treatment in your life. This is, of course, assuming that you're remotely decent looking. Unless you were complaining then you have no right to judge and none of us want to hear it.

So sayeth the greasy faced virginal Pimple Farmer.

 

[Lazy8s]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
[I should also mention that you, being a girl, have probably been given some sort of preferential treatment in your life. This is, of course, assuming that you're remotely decent looking. Unless you were complaining then you have no right to judge and none of us want to hear it.

So sayeth the greasy faced virginal Pimple Farmer.

That gave her all the preferential treatment that's spoiling her.

You guys are b!tching about women and their preferential treatment, if you're gonna give them stuff for free and hit on them in line and GIVE them the preferential treatment don't complain they're spoiled.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Lazy8s

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
[I should also mention that you, being a girl, have probably been given some sort of preferential treatment in your life. This is, of course, assuming that you're remotely decent looking. Unless you were complaining then you have no right to judge and none of us want to hear it.

So sayeth the greasy faced virginal Pimple Farmer.

That gave her all the preferential treatment that's spoiling her.

You guys are b!tching about women and their preferential treatment, if you're gonna give them stuff for free and hit on them in line and GIVE them the preferential treatment don't complain they're spoiled.

Men that actually like (love) women would never complain about them getting prefferential treatment.

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Lazy8s

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
[I should also mention that you, being a girl, have probably been given some sort of preferential treatment in your life. This is, of course, assuming that you're remotely decent looking. Unless you were complaining then you have no right to judge and none of us want to hear it.

So sayeth the greasy faced virginal Pimple Farmer.

That gave her all the preferential treatment that's spoiling her.

You guys are b!tching about women and their preferential treatment, if you're gonna give them stuff for free and hit on them in line and GIVE them the preferential treatment don't complain they're spoiled.

Men that actually like (love) women would never complain about them getting prefferential treatment.

How's the weather up there on that horse?

 

[PingSpike]

I'm just dumbfounded so many women even on this forum fall into that stupid "I'm so pathetic, the whole universe thinks I'm fat and is out to undermine my self esteem" trap. Do you enjoy sitting around being societies' big victims? Do you some how get off in placing yourself into a position of helplessness?

Melly, KerriAnn, I'm talking to you. Of course the whole world will judge you by outside appearance. Thats the way it is and I'll give birth to a full grown blue whale well before it ever changes. Some will love the way you look, others will abhor it...but neither really gives them any control over your feelings of self worth. I was depressed and defeated like that too...when I was 13! I grew the fvck out of it and accepted myself, flaws and all. I strive to fix the flaws that I can, and accept those that I can't. If I were you, I'd do the same.

This whiney crap is annoying and fruitless.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Gurck

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Lazy8s

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
[I should also mention that you, being a girl, have probably been given some sort of preferential treatment in your life. This is, of course, assuming that you're remotely decent looking. Unless you were complaining then you have no right to judge and none of us want to hear it.

So sayeth the greasy faced virginal Pimple Farmer.

That gave her all the preferential treatment that's spoiling her.

You guys are b!tching about women and their preferential treatment, if you're gonna give them stuff for free and hit on them in line and GIVE them the preferential treatment don't complain they're spoiled.

Men that actually like (love) women would never complain about them getting prefferential treatment.

How's the weather up there on that horse?

Pretty good. How's the view from under it's tail?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Yeeny
lol @ this thread. the funny part is, i have seen quite a few people in it, whining about how they can't get a woman, or keep one, and yet, they talk like they have the option of being so picky.

funny funny stuff.

It is funny,and what's funnier is that many here going on and on about how disgusting a few extra pounds are will themselves never look as good at age 20 as we do at our ages.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: melly

Originally posted by: TuffGuy

Originally posted by: melly
But that's just it, TG, it's not natural to have t & a without having a few extra pounds around the midsection, since t & a are comprised primarily of fatty tissue. Why can't males understand that? Also, I know plenty of stick-thin gals who have cellulite--that's genetic.

Wrong... My past two gfs both had very flat stomachs. One was 5'7" with 32Bs, the other was 5'2" with 34Cs.

And if you call those curvy tits you are wrong...38 C here.

Please don't be dissing your smaller chested sisters Melly

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Gurck

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Lazy8s

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
[I should also mention that you, being a girl, have probably been given some sort of preferential treatment in your life. This is, of course, assuming that you're remotely decent looking. Unless you were complaining then you have no right to judge and none of us want to hear it.

So sayeth the greasy faced virginal Pimple Farmer.

That gave her all the preferential treatment that's spoiling her.

You guys are b!tching about women and their preferential treatment, if you're gonna give them stuff for free and hit on them in line and GIVE them the preferential treatment don't complain they're spoiled.

Men that actually like (love) women would never complain about them getting prefferential treatment.

How's the weather up there on that horse?

Pretty good. How's the view from under it's tail?

touche

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: melly

What a crock of sh1t. Guys always have it easier.

Bullsh|t. Child custody. Car insurance rates. Health insurance rates. Etc. Both sexes have a hard time, just in different ways, don't give me that crap.

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Yeeny
lol @ this thread. the funny part is, i have seen quite a few people in it, whining about how they can't get a woman, or keep one, and yet, they talk like they have the option of being so picky.

funny funny stuff.

It is funny,and what's funnier is that many here going on and on about how disgusting a few extra pounds are will themselves never look as good at age 20 as we do at our ages.

wow... so in other words, "it's wrong to judge people on their weight, tubs!"... cute

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Gurck

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Yeeny
lol @ this thread. the funny part is, i have seen quite a few people in it, whining about how they can't get a woman, or keep one, and yet, they talk like they have the option of being so picky.

funny funny stuff.

It is funny,and what's funnier is that many here going on and on about how disgusting a few extra pounds are will themselves never look as good at age 20 as we do at our ages.

wow... so in other words, "it's wrong to judge people on their weight, tubs!"... cute

No,the way many here totally rip others to shreds because they don't look like fashion models and then whine because they can't seem to get a date is what's wrong.

 

[Gurck]

Who the hell is ripping anyone to shreds over not looking like a fasion model? Nobody! You're past defensive on this issue, you're launching retalitory nukes without provocation... If it's any consolence though, you have plenty of company :disgust:

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Gurck
Don't think anyone's saying they'd refuse to date a girl because of a few extra pounds, I know I certainly wouldn't.

Of course not. But that doesn't mean we're totally in love with those few extra pounds either. Don't tell me anyone here hasn't thought there were a couple things on their SO they might like to be a little different. That doesn't mean you don't love them or would leave them, it just means they aren't perfect. But who's perfect?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Gurck
Who the hell is ripping anyone to shreds over not looking like a fasion model? Nobody! You're past defensive on this issue, you're launching retalitory nukes without provocation... If it's any consolence though, you have plenty of company :disgust:

people talking about a 5ft 10 inch tall woman as if she were about to morph into a 350 pound pig at an estimated weight of 140 is what I'm talking about.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

No,the way many here totally rip others to shreds because they don't look like fashion models and then whine because they can't seem to get a date is what's wrong.

It's so disturbing how few perfect people there are out there in the real world!! Well there is Alkemist:laugh:

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Gurck
Don't think anyone's saying they'd refuse to date a girl because of a few extra pounds, I know I certainly wouldn't.

Of course not. But that doesn't mean we're totally in love with those few extra pounds either. Don't tell me anyone here hasn't thought there were a couple things on their SO they might like to be a little different. That doesn't mean you don't love them or would leave them, it just means they aren't perfect. But who's perfect?

No,we'd never leave them,instead we can complain about those imperfections on internet forums and ask total strangers for suggestions on how to get them to fix things to be more to our liking.

 

[Gurck]

It's a very real possibility. Now out of 270 posts you should be able to find and quote at least one instance of someone "ripping someone to shreds" over being 15 or fewer pounds overweight.. right?

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: melly
But that's just it, TG, it's not natural to have t & a without having a few extra pounds around the midsection, since t & a are comprised primarily of fatty tissue. Why can't males understand that? Also, I know plenty of stick-thin gals who have cellulite--that's genetic.

Out of curiousity; what is your height and weight?