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The opinion of the Eminem/Slim Shady/Marshall Mathers GenerationOriginally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: Cattlegod
stab her.
What is with this "stab her" garbage ?
The opinion of the Eminem/Slim Shady/Marshall Mathers GenerationOriginally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: Cattlegod
stab her.
What is with this "stab her" garbage ?
Originally posted by: Yield
stab her.
this seems to be common advice lately on the forums! :Q
Originally posted by: gopunk
Originally posted by: Cattlegod
stab her.
Man, I hope you don't take advice from a guy who's been married 5 times. Maybe you should take it from people who have been and still are married onceOriginally posted by: KMurphy
I have a co-worker that has been married five times. His advice to guys is find a woman you absolutely hate, then buy her a house. You get off a lot cheaper that way.
Seriously, there is not much you can do about it because she has custody it sounds like. If you have joint custody, you could hire a lawyer and battle it out to the detriment of your child. Your screwed in so many ways because she could use your child as a bargaining chip.
You do want hair and normal blood pressure, right?
FWIW- Sounds like she had plans to go out and party down on friday night, you inadvertently threw a wrench in the works, and she's POed about it. How late do you have to stay friday? Maybe you could set up a sitter for him friday night (so your ex can get her precious clubbing in) and grab him on the way home if it's not absurdly late?
I'd just stick to the logistics of the thing and end the call when it gets nasty.
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Some answers for you all:
1. I don't exaggerate this situation one bit...trust me; I'd never make up something as horrid as this.
2. She works a full time job.
3. We were never married, engaged, living together or even talking about any of that.
4. I have two jobs...I like to live in a decent apartment and drive a decent truck. The second job is not optional either, at this time.
5. No matter how much I see him or do for him, it's not enough. I can see him on FRI/SAT/SUN, go see him WED night and she'll hit me up for money for somethign. If I say "no", I'm a "useless f*ck" a "scumbag of a dad" and "the worst father ever."
6. There is no winning or even breaking even for me in regards to this situation. I made a decision almost seven years ago to not abandon my son. I'm sticking by it. Someday, his eyes will open and he will see his mother for what she is: A moose-like woman with the temperment of a rabid porcupine, a heart like Gengis Khan and a soul invisible to even God.
Originally posted by: MichaelD
She had two days notice for chrissakes! Sometimes, my job will spring staying late on me at the very last minute...like Friday afternoon. I dont' have a choice in the matter.
Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Some answers for you all:
1. I don't exaggerate this situation one bit...trust me; I'd never make up something as horrid as this.
2. She works a full time job.
3. We were never married, engaged, living together or even talking about any of that.
4. I have two jobs...I like to live in a decent apartment and drive a decent truck. The second job is not optional either, at this time.
5. No matter how much I see him or do for him, it's not enough. I can see him on FRI/SAT/SUN, go see him WED night and she'll hit me up for money for somethign. If I say "no", I'm a "useless f*ck" a "scumbag of a dad" and "the worst father ever."
6. There is no winning or even breaking even for me in regards to this situation. I made a decision almost seven years ago to not abandon my son. I'm sticking by it. Someday, his eyes will open and he will see his mother for what she is: A moose-like woman with the temperment of a rabid porcupine, a heart like Gengis Khan and a soul invisible to even God.
Well Michael,look at it this way,she's just as stuck dealing with you as you are stuck dealing with her... and it doesn't sound like you're on her list of 10 most favorite people either
This job pays my bills, INCLUDING CHILD SUPPORT.
That's a typical woman's point of view, Baff. She should be GREATFUL that I didn't completely bail out right at the beginning. Grateful that I see my son and that he loves his Daddy. Grateful that she get more $$$ in child support per month for one kid than most of her friends get for TWO kids. Grateful that I help out with additional money for clothes and shoes. Grateful that I change my plans with him, at the last minute when she decides "I'm going someplace with him Friday night" and never complain. She should be kissing my @ss not kicking it.
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Some answers for you all:
1. I don't exaggerate this situation one bit...trust me; I'd never make up something as horrid as this.
2. She works a full time job.
3. We were never married, engaged, living together or even talking about any of that.
4. I have two jobs...I like to live in a decent apartment and drive a decent truck. The second job is not optional either, at this time.
5. No matter how much I see him or do for him, it's not enough. I can see him on FRI/SAT/SUN, go see him WED night and she'll hit me up for money for somethign. If I say "no", I'm a "useless f*ck" a "scumbag of a dad" and "the worst father ever."
6. There is no winning or even breaking even for me in regards to this situation. I made a decision almost seven years ago to not abandon my son. I'm sticking by it. Someday, his eyes will open and he will see his mother for what she is: A moose-like woman with the temperment of a rabid porcupine, a heart like Gengis Khan and a soul invisible to even God.
Well Michael,look at it this way,she's just as stuck dealing with you as you are stuck dealing with her... and it doesn't sound like you're on her list of 10 most favorite people either
That's a typical woman's point of view, Baff. She should be GREATFUL that I didn't completely bail out right at the beginning. Grateful that I see my son and that he loves his Daddy. Grateful that she get more $$$ in child support per month for one kid than most of her friends get for TWO kids. Grateful that I help out with additional money for clothes and shoes. Grateful that I change my plans with him, at the last minute when she decides "I'm going someplace with him Friday night" and never complain. She should be kissing my @ss not kicking it.
Originally posted by: BD2003
That's a typical woman's point of view, Baff. She should be GREATFUL that I didn't completely bail out right at the beginning. Grateful that I see my son and that he loves his Daddy. Grateful that she get more $$$ in child support per month for one kid than most of her friends get for TWO kids. Grateful that I help out with additional money for clothes and shoes. Grateful that I change my plans with him, at the last minute when she decides "I'm going someplace with him Friday night" and never complain. She should be kissing my @ss not kicking it.
You dont get a cookie for doing WHAT YOURE SUPPOSED TO DO. You should be slapped in the mouth for even writing this paragraph. Geez. :disgust:
Originally posted by: MichaelD
You do want hair and normal blood pressure, right?
Bwuahahahahah!!!!! God, you know me all too well. High blood pressure and hair loss---->yep, that's me.
FWIW- Sounds like she had plans to go out and party down on friday night, you inadvertently threw a wrench in the works, and she's POed about it. How late do you have to stay friday? Maybe you could set up a sitter for him friday night (so your ex can get her precious clubbing in) and grab him on the way home if it's not absurdly late?
My, my, my. Did you hit it right on the head! That's exactly it. Friday night is her whoring around night and I did throw a wrench into it. Tough nuggies on her; she likes the fact that I have money to buy him clothes and stuff...well, the job pays for that.
A sitter is out. Having the GF (yes, I do have one) is 101% out. I have been told by BroomHilda that "If you don't care enough about your son to pick him up yourself, then you won't see him." After almost three years, she refuses to meet my GF. I have tried. She is just jealous that my son likes my GF a lot.
She is a psycho. Oh, why did I hook up with her? Here's the whole thing in a nutshell. I was a different person back then...a bit...footloose and fancy-free...I had very low standards back then. I am not proud of this...it was a low-point in my life.
She had her own place, I was rooming w/another guy. She was Cain and I was ABLE. Seven or eight months and 1,001 fights later, we broke up for the tenth and final time. Six weeks after that, she turned up pregnant. The rest, you know. You PLAY, you PAY. I have learned that, now.
Changing jobs is not an option. For a person with only an AA, I make very good money, I have excellent insurance and a pension plan. I have almost 10 years invested in this job and at 34 years old, I am not changing jobs.
She had two days notice for chrissakes! Sometimes, my job will spring staying late on me at the very last minute...like Friday afternoon. I dont' have a choice in the matter.
Thanks for the words of encouragement; it helps.
The reality is that most guys would have run for the hills as soon as they found out the woman was pregnant.....ESPECIALLY if they were never legally involved. At the very least, most guys are dickheads about paying child support. Mike's willingness to support his son and his overall high level of involvement in his life shouldn't be the exception to the rule, but sadly it is. God knows there are plenty of kids with absentee dads here in ATL.Originally posted by: BD2003
That's a typical woman's point of view, Baff. She should be GREATFUL that I didn't completely bail out right at the beginning. Grateful that I see my son and that he loves his Daddy. Grateful that she get more $$$ in child support per month for one kid than most of her friends get for TWO kids. Grateful that I help out with additional money for clothes and shoes. Grateful that I change my plans with him, at the last minute when she decides "I'm going someplace with him Friday night" and never complain. She should be kissing my @ss not kicking it.
You dont get a cookie for doing WHAT YOURE SUPPOSED TO DO. You should be slapped in the mouth for even writing this paragraph. Geez. :disgust: