If a girl offers to pay on a date, do you let her?

[Wuffsunie]

I have no problem with it. More money for me and I would assume I'm already getting other things.

As for the bonus, then I wouldn't. Just wouldn't be right, you gotta treat your GF some of the time at least.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: DougK62

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
I don't have any issues with "going dutch" but I like to pay for my own half of things.

That sums it up good for me.

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
real women don't offer to pay or make a production out of it Dezign,they just do it!

This is very true. If they REALLY want to pay they'll just beat you to the check and do it before you can object. It's happened to me a couple of times. It's very attractive to see a woman take charge like that.

It's much more attractive to have a woman take charge in *ahem* other ways.

- M4H

 

[dquan97]

I would let her pay if she insists on it

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
real women don't offer to pay or make a production out of it Dezign,they just do it!

Tried to in the past, which resulted in an embarrassing fight-for-the-check.

for me it depends on how much she fights... like maybe 1-2 rounds of push-pull.

and i would not be comfortable with either side paying for everything on a constant basis.

 

[Hammer]

alternate

 

[zmatrix]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
real women don't offer to pay or make a production out of it Dezign,they just do it!

I couldn't agree more

 

[rh71]

As long as I can tell she's willing, that's good enough for me. I don't think I'd let her actually do it unless she absolutely insisted treating me for some given reason.

And no, I feel guilty even when my fiancee pays on occasion for our nights out.

Money is overrated and I don't think it should be a big deal anyway... it's the true thought/intention that matters. I'd rather pay so she doesn't have to when we're out enjoying ourselves. We split our house utility bills/mortgage right in half though (joint account)...

 

[Geekbabe]

The way to get and keep a woman's interest level high is to act as if she should consider herself honored to have the pleasure of your company, her paying your way quickly,cheerfully and really regularly is a sign of her interest level.

 

[Budmantom]

10

 

[Corn]

It depends upon whom planned the date.

If I planned an evening out, I would prefer to pay. However, if she offers to go dutch, I don't see a problem with that.

If she planned the evening and want's to pay, then by all means, go ahead pay, but I'd still offer to pay anyway.

 

[Rainsford]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
real women don't offer to pay or make a production out of it Dezign,they just do it!

Tried to in the past, which resulted in an embarrassing fight-for-the-check.

Try strength training,then you'll be able to wrestle the thing out of his pasty geeken hands

Dezign dates geeks? I was under the impression it was mostly "club" type guys. Of course most of them seem kind of wimpy too, so I guess your point is still valid

 

[sillymofo]

<--- never refused anything that a girl "offers", well, except on few occasions

 

[amnesiac]

Never let a girl pay on the first date.

Her insistance to do so is best parried by "You can get the check next time."

Purpose is threefold:
1) Chivalry - you (guy) are insisting on paying.
2) Diplomacy - shows that you are headstrong and able to work things out
3) Optimism - infers that there may be a second date (very sneaky way of saying "yes I would like to go out again.")

In short: It works. Well.

 

[xEDIT409]

on a lotta my first dates, I believe the woman should pay 1/2 since they're all about equality and crap...

what usually ends up happening is that she has no money, so i say i gotta go to the bathroom, I pay for my part, and then I get the hell outta there, and never see/talk/call that bia again..

 

[kenshorin]

I have a three date rule. First three dates I pay, whether she wants to pay or not. After that, I'll accept if she wants to split the bill, and I'll still cover sometimes. I'll usually let them pay the full amount if we've been together for a bit (maybe after a couple months?) and I just don't have the cash on hand and the circumstance is right... but this is not the usual, in 7 years with my ex I think she paid the full bill MAYBE a dozen times, and most of them were for the little while I was unemployed.

 

[minendo]

The woman and I rotate who pays.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: minendo
The woman and I rotate who pays.

Yeah....but you're married at this point!

 

[PricklyPete]

Whenever I first started dating a girl...I always insisted. Usually the girls I went out with would insist to pay as well...but I usually won. I usually would not give in until I considered us steady. Even then, I usually try to pay most of the time.

My current girlfriend gets mad if I try to pay all the time. I still probably pay 75% of the time, but she definitely trys to pay a lot and sometimes outright insists that she pays.

I really don't mind paying for everything, but I at least like it when the girl acts like she would really like to pay for something.

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: conjur

Originally posted by: minendo
The woman and I rotate who pays.

Yeah....but you're married at this point!

Hush you.

Rotating who pays has been that way since day one.

 

[PricklyPete]

Oh yeah...to your second question...the one about letting her pay for everything... I have to admit my pride would come into play at some point and I probably would like it. I know that sounds pathetic...but it is true.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: Dezign
How many times does a girl have to offer to help pay for some/all of a dinner/movie/etc. on a date before you give in a let her (if you even let her at all)?

EDIT: Bonus question... would you feel comfortable letting her pay for everything on a constant basis?

Yes and Hell Yes!

 

[Saulbadguy]

Sounds like someone is getting desperate, offering to pay for a date. Oh. Pay ON a date. I'd let her, but not on during the "dating" stage. Only during the relationship stage.

 

[gistech1978]

i usually end up paying for dinners and whatnot.
but she does pay once in a while.
but we have been going out for 2.5 years

no, i would never let her pay everytime.

 

[ManSnake]

If she makes more than you, then by all means, let her pay!

 

[SSibalNom]

Originally posted by: ManSnake
If she makes more than you, then by all means, let her pay!

well said