Originally posted by: Shanti
Sounds good to me.Originally posted by: BD2003
You couldnt stop them from dating short of locking them in their room and throwing away the key.
Out of curiosity, do you have daughters?
I can understand that, but the majority of this "older and wiser" group is throwing out (hopefully BS) answers like 30 to 50 years for the girl, and that is just utterly rediculous. Think about it: if you make them wait that long, by the time their own kids are just about ready for college, they'll be getting ready for retirement themselves. IMHO if one's going to have kids, one should get married and start just a wee bit earlier.Originally posted by: Shanti
Regardless of logical thought, there is just this feeling that you have to protect them from anything bad that could ever possibly happen to them...
Originally posted by: Shanti
As I suspected, those of you complaining about the double standard don't have daughters.
And I do realize that I will not be able to stop them from doing what they want. And that I can only do my best to educate them.
But when you have daughters you will understand. Regardless of logical thought, there is just this feeling that you have to protect them from anything bad that could ever possibly happen to them. I have the same feelings with my son. But the fact is that there are more bad things that are likely to happen to a daughter than to a son. So I feel more of a need to protect them from the world.
All the terrible things that I see in the news makes me want to move away to a deserted island somewhere, build electric, barbed wire fences around it, hire armed security guards and guard dogs, and never let my children leave. Not that I would really do this, but that's what my protective father emotions tell me to do.
if you HAD a son or daughter
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: Shanti
As I suspected, those of you complaining about the double standard don't have daughters.
And I do realize that I will not be able to stop them from doing what they want. And that I can only do my best to educate them.
But when you have daughters you will understand. Regardless of logical thought, there is just this feeling that you have to protect them from anything bad that could ever possibly happen to them. I have the same feelings with my son. But the fact is that there are more bad things that are likely to happen to a daughter than to a son. So I feel more of a need to protect them from the world.
All the terrible things that I see in the news makes me want to move away to a deserted island somewhere, build electric, barbed wire fences around it, hire armed security guards and guard dogs, and never let my children leave. Not that I would really do this, but that's what my protective father emotions tell me to do.
Maybe you should stop watching the news so much then, because it is distorting your conception of reality. I understand that emotions often take precendece over reason, but if thats anything, its a flaw. Just because you want to protect your daughters doesnt mean you should, especially when youre overbearing parenting is likely to do more harm than good.
The fact that we dont have daughters should give you a clue. We can see things from the outside, while your intense protectiveness pre-empts you from having any chance of thinking rationally. Go ahead and keep on with your "until you have daughters you wont understand" all you want, but it doesnt change the situation.
Originally posted by: Shanti
Originally posted by: BD2003
Originally posted by: Shanti
As I suspected, those of you complaining about the double standard don't have daughters.
And I do realize that I will not be able to stop them from doing what they want. And that I can only do my best to educate them.
But when you have daughters you will understand. Regardless of logical thought, there is just this feeling that you have to protect them from anything bad that could ever possibly happen to them. I have the same feelings with my son. But the fact is that there are more bad things that are likely to happen to a daughter than to a son. So I feel more of a need to protect them from the world.
All the terrible things that I see in the news makes me want to move away to a deserted island somewhere, build electric, barbed wire fences around it, hire armed security guards and guard dogs, and never let my children leave. Not that I would really do this, but that's what my protective father emotions tell me to do.
Maybe you should stop watching the news so much then, because it is distorting your conception of reality. I understand that emotions often take precendece over reason, but if thats anything, its a flaw. Just because you want to protect your daughters doesnt mean you should, especially when youre overbearing parenting is likely to do more harm than good.
The fact that we dont have daughters should give you a clue. We can see things from the outside, while your intense protectiveness pre-empts you from having any chance of thinking rationally. Go ahead and keep on with your "until you have daughters you wont understand" all you want, but it doesnt change the situation.
Do you have any idea how many women and young girls are raped? How many get pregnant in high school?
My conception of reality is not distorted. It is reality. And I already made it clear that there is a difference between logic and emotion and that I can distinguish between the two. You know nothing of what kind of parent I am. Just because I love my kids and am protective does not mean I am overbearing. I was simply trying to explain why there are so many respones like
son: 15
daughter: over my dead body
The fact remains that you really cannot understand the emotion that leads to that statement unless you have daughters. And like many others, I don't really intend to lock my daughters up and keep them from ever dating even if I sometimes feel like I should. You are the one who doesn't seem to understand that we are being at least partially humorous.
Originally posted by: TommyVercetti
15 for my son.
I won't let my daughter date because she means everything pure to me. But my business partner will secretly marry her and when I find out, I will kill him and bring my daughter back to my mansion, where I will be attacked my Colombians who kill everybody.