If you love a girl....

[hzl eyed grl]

The past is the past. If she isn't like that now, no biggie. At least IMO.

 

[GreasyBurger]

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
Saying a gir's sexual history isn't the issue is also bullshit. There is a limitation in everything that we do.

What if a girl has a new bf each month all throughout college? That should tells me that she doesn't take relationship seriously. How can a guy be sure to know that he won't end up like her last BF of January?

Actually it isn't bullshit. It's not our fault you are a some scared, socially inept geek who can't get beyond his own personal insecurities. A woman's sexual history means nothing to me, provided she doesn't bring issues into the relationship, ie. STDs

Get over yourself, you will not be marying the virginal prom queen. Everyone has a past, some more sordid than others.

From a guy who has over 5000 posts in less than 2 years and called me a geek?

 

[dethman]

just go with it and see what happens.

if you 'really' love her enough it won't matter. if it still bothers you she's not the right one for you.

 

[Shawn]

I wouldn't care one bit.... as long as she isn't full of STDs.

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
Saying a gir's sexual history isn't the issue is also bullshit. There is a limitation in everything that we do.

What if a girl has a new bf each month all throughout college? That should tells me that she doesn't take relationship seriously. How can a guy be sure to know that he won't end up like her last BF of January?

Actually it isn't bullshit. It's not our fault you are a some scared, socially inept geek who can't get beyond his own personal insecurities. A woman's sexual history means nothing to me, provided she doesn't bring issues into the relationship, ie. STDs

Get over yourself, you will not be marying the virginal prom queen. Everyone has a past, some more sordid than others.

From a guy who has over 5000 posts in less than 2 years and called me a geek?

Ah yes, the inevitable postcount rebuttal. I never claimed to not be a geek....however I'm not a geek that is socially inept and hamstrung by his own personal insecurities. I'm a geek that's engaged to a woman that does indeed have an interesting sexual history that I don't inquire about. It's none of my business, her past does not change how I feel about her.

Next attempt please.

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
Saying a gir's sexual history isn't the issue is also bullshit. There is a limitation in everything that we do.

What if a girl has a new bf each month all throughout college? That should tells me that she doesn't take relationship seriously. How can a guy be sure to know that he won't end up like her last BF of January?

Actually it isn't bullshit. It's not our fault you are a some scared, socially inept geek who can't get beyond his own personal insecurities. A woman's sexual history means nothing to me, provided she doesn't bring issues into the relationship, ie. STDs

Get over yourself, you will not be marying the virginal prom queen. Everyone has a past, some more sordid than others.

From a guy who has over 5000 posts in less than 2 years and called me a geek?

I too have 5000+ post in less than two years and I am more than qualified to say you are a insecure clueless geek.

 

[deejayshakur]

OP, if you're looking for approval about your girl being a slut, you're not gonna find it.

all i can say is that my current gf is one of the rare virgin women these days and i'm gonna keep her that way until further notice. she's had bfs, and i've had gfs. but nothing like the "average" sexual history as stated here. and no, we're not sheltered either. if virgin is what you want, then wait it out. you will find the right one. yea, you will have a smaller pool to choose from, but at least you'll get what you want. otherwise, just hit it and don't look back. personally, i'd pass.

 

[0roo0roo]

get over it. if you did a lotta women u'd be a "player"

 

[AkumaX]

use her as a FTF?

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
What if my girl has had 2 one night stands and 3 different boy friends in college?

Thats it? Jebus you are dating a saint.

 

[Aves]

If it's in the past, it's in the past.

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: rgwalt
A buddy of mine told me something recently on the same subject... He said that with most girls you meet, unless they are right out of high school (or in high school) or unless they are very religious, you aren't going to tred in virgin territory. You are not Magelan.

Also, when you start dating a girl, but you are not exclusive, you need to face the possibility that any night she isn't with you, she is with someone else.

You need to come to terms with these facts, and learn to deal with it.

R

Sound advice.

 

[tranceport]

I personally would pass on this particular individual. Because I would regret her past. It would have been better if I hadn't known about it.

Although my SO was not a virgin when I started dating her she had not been in dp or gangbangs and I wouldn't want it any other way. She had a small number of bf's which were semi serious relationships. So she gained experienced and learned what she wanted in a SO. I also had a small number of serious relationships in which I also gained experience. I'm happy that I did get to "take" one girls virginity. I personally see it as a nice gesture that she trusted me with it and her.

Also, You may want to try some kinky stuff yourself before you settledown. Try a threesome or something else kinky. It would be good to get it all out of your system as it most likely will not be a lifestyle you live very long.

If you decide to stay with this girl. Make sure she is clean of any std's. Also make sure she REALLY is done with the other guys.

Also my penis says "If you decide to ditch her you might want to check out a 3some or someother kinky wild sex with her."


My wife says "The penis has spoken"


Cheers.

 

[jaydee]

You'd be a better man than I if you could pull it off. I'm sure a lot of people here wouldn't think twice about someone's prior sexual history, but for me, a person's past is a window into the future. Not always, but often and the uncertaintly there would kill any chance of me being able to deal with it.

 

[preslove]

Originally posted by: DaiShan

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
What if my girl has had 2 one night stands and 3 different boy friends in college?

Thats it? Jebus you are dating a saint.

I'm confused, are we talking about the above scenario or the one in the OP:

Scandalous past=porn star, one night stands, double penetration by both guys at the same time, etc

One of these is normal and the other somewhat wild. Double penetration is illustrative of a wild, possibly irresponsible personality, but whatever, it sounds like fun

 

[Zanix]

Originally posted by: tranceport
I personally would pass on this particular individual. Because I would regret her past. It would have been better if I hadn't known about it.

Although my SO was not a virgin when I started dating her she had not been in dp or gangbangs and I wouldn't want it any other way. She had a small number of bf's which were semi serious relationships. So she gained experienced and learned what she wanted in a SO. I also had a small number of serious relationships in which I also gained experience. I'm happy that I did get to "take" one girls virginity. I personally see it as a nice gesture that she trusted me with it and her.

Also, You may want to try some kinky stuff yourself before you settledown. Try a threesome or something else kinky. It would be good to get it all out of your system as it most likely will not be a lifestyle you live very long.

If you decide to stay with this girl. Make sure she is clean of any std's. Also make sure she REALLY is done with the other guys.

Also my penis says "If you decide to ditch her you might want to check out a 3some or someother kinky wild sex with her."


My wife says "The penis has spoken"


Cheers.

:thumbsup: agreed, and I'd like to add...


I like the idea of being with girls (read: dating, relationships) that have had similar sexual histories as myself. Girls with fewer partners than me, then they might feel "weird". Otherway around, then it's me who's "weird". But, my girlfriend right now has been with ~twice as many as I. (not that many though) It made me a little unconfortable at first. Everybody wants a lady in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. Well, not to sound like an ass or anything, but she's "commented" my "endowment" and well, her past doesn't bother me anymore.

Insecurities will get ya everytime.


Plus, we trust eachother totally.
Everything is good.

 

[Mean MrMustard]

Originally posted by: fredtam
Oh and just so you know the rule is to add five to that.

LOL!

There's a lot to learn from American Pie.

 

[GreasyBurger]

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
Saying a gir's sexual history isn't the issue is also bullshit. There is a limitation in everything that we do.

What if a girl has a new bf each month all throughout college? That should tells me that she doesn't take relationship seriously. How can a guy be sure to know that he won't end up like her last BF of January?

Actually it isn't bullshit. It's not our fault you are a some scared, socially inept geek who can't get beyond his own personal insecurities. A woman's sexual history means nothing to me, provided she doesn't bring issues into the relationship, ie. STDs

Get over yourself, you will not be marying the virginal prom queen. Everyone has a past, some more sordid than others.

Even if she had 100 BF's within 4 years span and needed a janitor walking around right behind her with a mop? I don't expect to marry a virgin, that doesn't mean I want to marry a slut either.

 

[anxi80]

ahhh, the good ole idiot gear.

And then 4 months down the road the idiot gear kicks in and I ask about the ex-boyfriend which as we all know is a really dumb move but you know how it is -- you don't want to know, but you just have to know, right?

some good advice in this thread, let the past be the past. and now ill finish up with a louis logic lyric from the song 'idiot gear'

This Cinderella sh*t's totally irrelevant. You'll never get a girl older than 7 that's been celibate/
Cause every chick has been around the block with a guy or 10, and guys are sensitive. It's better that you lie to them/

 

[GT1999]

It depends... if I was in love with the girl, and she didn't have any STDs or serious problems, I'd still go along with it, HOWEVER...

If I just found out about it and we were dating (and still getting to know each other) I'd move on to 'cleaner' girls...

 

[Koing]

Well imo don't be with this girl. You have too many doubts already.

Go find another girl that you have less doubts about and it will work much better for the both of you.

Koing

 

[mobobuff]

Man... I'm so tired of this...

Listen... guys, never make any topics on ATOT asking whether you should be wary about ANYTHING remotely related to young women. If you do, 40320390 hypocrites will hop on the bandwagon and call you insecure and out of touch with reality.

Stay away from the lashes of this trend and use your common sense or gut feeling to tell you what to do when you come across these sort of relationship problems. #1 rule of thumb: If you're having doubts early in the game, it's best to leave it at that and move on.

 

[krunchykrome]

I say go for it. She's gonna be alot better in bed than those unexperienced girls. I dated a girl once who had been with 10 guys before me...who cares. At first it might kinda bother you, but once you see it paid off, you wont have a problem with it.

 

[moks78]

Originally posted by: fredtam

You are a fool.[/quote]...and so are you, wise boy. Substantiate your statement Mr morse-code operator. And btw, be ambidextrous in handling your sling shot to prevent callous formation and go out sometime...it lessen constant use and you'll see the real world around you. Peace!

 

[BespinReactorShaft]

Ignorance is bliss. Or, as in this case, would've been bliss.