If you love a girl....

[SociallyChallenged]

They will almost never change...I dealt with a girl who seemed like that...Yeh, she cheated on me. Be aware that she will probably break your heart.

 

[goog]

People tend not to change, don't think you can change them. If you're not able to trust her now than move on. Find some milder girl to take home to mommy.

 

[n0cmonkey]

Wouldn't bother me.

 

[George P Burdell]

i agree with the guy who spoke about the threesomes

 

[AlienCraft]

The old double standard in effect.... ie.... She must be a virgin, but the guy can be a horn dog.... :roll:
Grow up.
Trust is the first essential element in any relationship.

 

[gotsmack]

Originally posted by: Geekish Thoughts
It depends... if I was in love with the girl, and she didn't have any STDs or serious problems, I'd still go along with it, HOWEVER...

If I just found out about it and we were dating (and still getting to know each other) I'd move on to 'cleaner' girls...

what if she was born a man!

 

[cheapgoose]

i dated a girl like that...did pretty much everything you listed. it bothered me too. but it's not being uptight or whatever. As you said, it's insecurity and the feeling of not measuring up. I don't know how to explain it, but it's like dating a girl whose ex had a 12 inch d1ck. You just don't feel like you can measure up.

of course the past is the past, we all know that. see if you can work it out, this battle is with yourself.

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: rdgr8

Originally posted by: fredtam

You are a fool.

...and so are you, wise boy. Substantiate your statement Mr morse-code operator. And btw, be ambidextrous in handling your sling shot to prevent callous formation and go out sometime...it lessen constant use and you'll see the real world around you. Peace!

[/quote]


OK to "substantiate". I am 31 years old and I've been with a lot of women relatively speaking. Also most of my friennds are women. Just as a disclaimer I will say I am not your average ATOTer with no disrespect meant to those who do fit the stereotype. I started posting on here because I was injured and basically couldn't move. What can I say? It is addicting. Now back on topic. I am glad that my wife did not choose to take my sexual history into account. If she had the philosophy that you have she would not be with me because of her own fears and insecurities. I am totally faithful and would never even consider cheating on her. Using your logic this isn't possible. Why would a woman be any different?

Now to the women friends. They speak quite candidly to me. What they would tell you about their sexual history is different than what they tell me. Why? Because you being the little insecure double standard having geek that you are would say "oh my god, a slut". Newsflash fucktard. Women like sex. When they haven't had it in a while they are thinking the same thing you are. That's right. "God I need to get laid".
This doesn't make her a "slut" anymore than it makes you one.

 

[Klixxer]

Past is past, it wouldn't bother me.

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: rdgr8

Originally posted by: fredtam

You are a fool.

...and so are you, wise boy. Substantiate your statement Mr morse-code operator. And btw, be ambidextrous in handling your sling shot to prevent callous formation and go out sometime...it lessen constant use and you'll see the real world around you. Peace!

OK to "substantiate". I am 31 years old and I've been with a lot of women relatively speaking. Also most of my friennds are women. Just as a disclaimer I will say I am not your average ATOTer with no disrespect meant to those who do fit the stereotype. I started posting on here because I was injured and basically couldn't move. What can I say? It is addicting. Now back on topic. I am glad that my wife did not choose to take my sexual history into account. If she had the philosophy that you have she would not be with me because of her own fears and insecurities. I am totally faithful and would never even consider cheating on her. Using your logic this isn't possible. Why would a woman be any different?

Now to the women friends. They speak quite candidly to me. What they would tell you about their sexual history is different than what they tell me. Why? Because you being the little insecure double standard having geek that you are would say "oh my god, a slut". Newsflash fucktard. Women like sex. When they haven't had it in a while they are thinking the same thing you are. That's right. "God I need to get laid".
This doesn't make her a "slut" anymore than it makes you one.

[/quote]

This man speaks the truth.

 

[DannyBoy]

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: rdgr8

Originally posted by: fredtam

You are a fool.

...and so are you, wise boy. Substantiate your statement Mr morse-code operator. And btw, be ambidextrous in handling your sling shot to prevent callous formation and go out sometime...it lessen constant use and you'll see the real world around you. Peace!

OK to "substantiate". I am 31 years old and I've been with a lot of women relatively speaking. Also most of my friennds are women. Just as a disclaimer I will say I am not your average ATOTer with no disrespect meant to those who do fit the stereotype. I started posting on here because I was injured and basically couldn't move. What can I say? It is addicting. Now back on topic. I am glad that my wife did not choose to take my sexual history into account. If she had the philosophy that you have she would not be with me because of her own fears and insecurities. I am totally faithful and would never even consider cheating on her. Using your logic this isn't possible. Why would a woman be any different?

Now to the women friends. They speak quite candidly to me. What they would tell you about their sexual history is different than what they tell me. Why? Because you being the little insecure double standard having geek that you are would say "oh my god, a slut". Newsflash fucktard. Women like sex. When they haven't had it in a while they are thinking the same thing you are. That's right. "God I need to get laid".
This doesn't make her a "slut" anymore than it makes you one.

[/quote]

Although I've had disagreements with you in the past fred, I couldn't have said it better myself.

It is annoying how people automatically brand women "sluts", if they seem too "easy" when it comes to sex.

 

[faenix]

It seems as if I'm part of the minority and agree wholeheartedly with the OP. I guess it's just me, but I'm dating a virgin, and for now, I will only look at virgins. Call me insecure but yes, I'd rather date a 'clean' girl than a girl that's lost it.

*flamesuit on*

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: faenix
It seems as if I'm part of the minority and agree wholeheartedly with the OP. I guess it's just me, but I'm dating a virgin, and for now, I will only look at virgins. Call me insecure but yes, I'd rather date a 'clean' girl than a girl that's lost it.

*flamesuit on*

To each his own, but you obviously have some issues if you refer to virgins as "clean" girls.

One thing though, you say that you will only look at virgins? HOW do you think you are going to know if they are virgins by looking at them? There is actually NO way of knowing, you will have to ask and hope she is honest.

 

[tamfred]

<----fredtam's wife

Of course it's your insecurity!! Why is there a double standard in regard to men and women having sex with more than one partner? A man can fvck as many women as he pleases only to be hailed as a god to all other men but when a woman has more than one partner she is considered a slut by most men and some prudish women. As a woman, I appreciate a man with some experience, I like to be pleasured, but I am afraid that an inexperienced, double standard having litltle tight ass might not be able to satisfy me. While some of you may now be viewing me as a slut, my husband of eight years appreciates a woman with some experience. He also has insecurities but realizes that my experience does not detract from my faithfullness.

If you find the woman you are dating to be intellectually stimulating as well as physically attractive, keep her. If the relationship fails somewhere down the road, so be it.

Your insecurities seem to be based on your fear of being hurt. Everyone gets hurt! If you are so afraid of getting hurt that you are unwilling to take chances, lock yourself in your house and never leave!

Oh and by the way, moshquerade, I enjoy a few beers.

 

[RagingBITCH]

GB - if you seriously love her, screw everyone else's opinion - why do you need our confirmation/opinion? It bothers some of us, and it doesn't bother some of us.

 

[Acanthus]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
What if my girl has had 2 one night stands and 3 different boy friends in college?

hahahhahaha wtf?? if youre judging someone for that youre cutting out pretty much 90% of college girls.

Start looking at your local church.

 

[tamfred]

Originally posted by: faenix
It seems as if I'm part of the minority and agree wholeheartedly with the OP. I guess it's just me, but I'm dating a virgin, and for now, I will only look at virgins. Call me insecure but yes, I'd rather date a 'clean' girl than a girl that's lost it.

*flamesuit on*

How do you know she is a virgin? If she is, somewhere down the road she will get curious. She will look at other men (good looking men) and wonder. Although her wonder may not turn to action, problems will manifest. Belive me, a woman who has had some sexual encounter is better than one who hasn't. Everyone has their first love, is it really worth cutting down your choices for an extra piece of skin?

 

[Yossarian]

Originally posted by: faenix
It seems as if I'm part of the minority and agree wholeheartedly with the OP. I guess it's just me, but I'm dating a virgin, and for now, I will only look at virgins. Call me insecure but yes, I'd rather date a 'clean' girl than a girl that's lost it.

*flamesuit on*

how can you tell by looking at them if they're virgins? if there's some telltale sign I'd really like to know let me guess, you're about 18?

 

[Klixxer]

Originally posted by: tamfred

Originally posted by: faenix
It seems as if I'm part of the minority and agree wholeheartedly with the OP. I guess it's just me, but I'm dating a virgin, and for now, I will only look at virgins. Call me insecure but yes, I'd rather date a 'clean' girl than a girl that's lost it.

*flamesuit on*

How do you know she is a virgin? If she is, somewhere down the road she will get curious. She will look at other men (good looking men) and wonder. Although her wonder may not turn to action, problems will manifest. Belive me, a woman who has had some sexual encounter is better than one who hasn't. Everyone has their first love, is it really worth cutting down your choices for an extra piece of skin?

My daughters hymen had to be removed when she started mensturating, for some it breaks without having sex. So that is no good way of determining virginity either.

Of course an experienced woman is better, experience is how you learn.

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: Klixxer

Originally posted by: tamfred

Originally posted by: faenix
It seems as if I'm part of the minority and agree wholeheartedly with the OP. I guess it's just me, but I'm dating a virgin, and for now, I will only look at virgins. Call me insecure but yes, I'd rather date a 'clean' girl than a girl that's lost it.

*flamesuit on*

How do you know she is a virgin? If she is, somewhere down the road she will get curious. She will look at other men (good looking men) and wonder. Although her wonder may not turn to action, problems will manifest. Belive me, a woman who has had some sexual encounter is better than one who hasn't. Everyone has their first love, is it really worth cutting down your choices for an extra piece of skin?

My daughters hymen had to be removed when she started mensturating, for some it breaks without having sex. So that is no good way of determining virginity either.

Of course an experienced woman is better, experience is how you learn.

Yep hymen breaks before sexual encounters in many cases. Especially with athletic girls but I know you understood the point.


Wife went to bed after hijacking my PC.

 

[Pacfanweb]

Originally posted by: cherrytwist
Seriously - if it bothers you now, you'd probably resent her for it. Work out your own issues before taking on such a relationship.

Heed these words.

Also, if these things bother you, don't get serious because in all likelyhood, she'll do all or some of that stuff again.

Basically, know what you're getting into.....if it bothers you know, it ain't going to get any better.

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: Pacfanweb

Originally posted by: cherrytwist
Seriously - if it bothers you now, you'd probably resent her for it. Work out your own issues before taking on such a relationship.

Heed these words.

Also, if these things bother you, don't get serious because in all likelyhood, she'll do all or some of that stuff again.

Basically, know what you're getting into.....if it bothers you know, it ain't going to get any better.

It won't get any better because of his issues not the girl's. I agree that he needs to work on his own issues first.

 

[moks78]

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: rdgr8

Originally posted by: fredtam

I wish the world is a perfect place...guys are OK if they have lots of girls but women are chastised if they do the same. Nymphomania...there is no equivalent word for men it applies only to women...such an injustice.

"will say I am not your average ATOTer with no disrespect meant to those who do fit the stereotype." We're the same bro, so don't call me names and don't even question me abt insecurities. I admit it, I had my share of women, so when I got married I never again even thought of cheating.

"I started posting on here because I was injured and basically couldn't move. What can I say? It is addicting. Now back on topic. I am glad that my wife did not choose to take my sexual history into account" I feel your pain...I hope your most important body part is still functioning properly.

Like you said "Newsflash fucktard. Women like sex. When they haven't had it in a while they are thinking the same thing you are. That's right. "God I need to get laid". I'm really glad that your wife never questioned your sexual history/performance...more power to both of you. I really admire your wife for being considerate and understanding and hope it will never end. Peace!

 

[raildogg]

Um check her out?

 

[vshah]

doh. i didn't read the part where you explained "scandalous past"

stay away. you're in way over your head.

-Vivan