If you love a girl....

[kermalou]

ORGY ORGY ORGY

let me say one more time.....

ORGY

 

[Rainsford]

...insecurity is my biggest problem. How do you cope with this if you're in my situation?

You hit the nail on the head right there. This problem it totally your problem, nothing she or anyone else can do about it. What you have to do is grow some balls and realize that someone's past doesn't change who they are.

Do you like her right now? Don't think about her past or anything else...do you like her? If the answer is yes, you are done. There is nothing more to do except for you to get over your worries about her past causing some kind of problem. If something comes up, then deal with it. But worrying about nothing seems a little overkill, IMHO.

As a quick note here, I honestly don't care about a girl's history. As long as she's clean (no STDs for me, thanks), I couldn't care less. Virgin? Great. Campus bicycle? Why not. As long as I enjoy being with her now, how does her past matter? It doesn't, unless I choose to be insecure about it.

 

[Ladiesnhan]

If you like her then give her a try. If not get over it and find another girl that you are less insecure about.

 

[maziwanka]

its simple. most of the responses in this thread have something in common - it all comes down to being comfortable with your partner's sexual history. Your thread responses seem to indicate that you probably never will be at ease with her past.

i don't have worthwhile advice to offer you.

 

[dquan97]

As used in investments: "Past performance does not guarantee future returns"

The past is the past, as long as she doesn't have any desire to return to that way of life.

 

double penetration by both guys at the same time

I would have to draw the line here.
I dig chicks who have been with chicks though .

 

[GreasyBurger]

Originally posted by: raildogg
Um check her out?

GIRL

 

[GreasyBurger]

I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

 

[Mandos]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
...but she had scandalous past in her wilder days? But she has great personality and beautiful, and completely change now.

Was it a big deal to any of you? What would you do in that situation?

Scandalous past=porn star, one night stands, double penetration by both guys at the same time, etc

I'm very confused right now because the thought of her going at it with another guy or guys just break my heart. It's not her fault but it's my insecurity is my biggest problem. How do you cope with this if you're in my situation?

I have felt the same way. It hurts you to think that she did those things. I'll enjoy reading these replies.

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

Then, I wish you the best of luck getting over your own insecurities and hope your relationship works out.
:beer:

 

[Geekbabe]

Yeah, gotta have a virgin, that's open to the idea of wife swapping parties down the road, lol!

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

Then, I wish you the best of luck getting over your own insecurities and hope your relationship works out.
:beer:

Wow.... just... wow.

Good luck GreasyB.

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

Then, I wish you the best of luck getting over your own insecurities and hope your relationship works out.
:beer:

Wow.... just... wow.

Good luck GreasyB.

I was being sincere.

 

[HamSupLo]

what's wrong with double penetration? :Q

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

Then, I wish you the best of luck getting over your own insecurities and hope your relationship works out.
:beer:

Wow.... just... wow.

Good luck GreasyB.

I was being sincere.

And that's the sad part.

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

Then, I wish you the best of luck getting over your own insecurities and hope your relationship works out.
:beer:

Wow.... just... wow.

Good luck GreasyB.

I was being sincere.

And that's the sad part.

You want to go back and read the original post? Here I'll help you out.

It's not her fault but it's my insecurity is my biggest problem. How do you cope with this if you're in my situation?

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

Then, I wish you the best of luck getting over your own insecurities and hope your relationship works out.
:beer:

Wow.... just... wow.

Good luck GreasyB.

I was being sincere.

And that's the sad part.

You want to go back and read the original post? Here I'll help you out.

It's not her fault but it's my insecurity is my biggest problem. How do you cope with this if you're in my situation?

Yeah, I'm pretty sure he said that after dozens of people helplessly claimed that it was his own insecurities.

 

[WayneTeK]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
...but she had scandalous past in her wilder days? But she has great personality and beautiful, and completely change now.

Was it a big deal to any of you? What would you do in that situation?

Scandalous past=porn star, one night stands, double penetration by both guys at the same time, etc

I'm very confused right now because the thought of her going at it with another guy or guys just break my heart. It's not her fault but it's my insecurity is my biggest problem. How do you cope with this if you're in my situation?

I only go for PURE women... cause I'm pure too... I would NEVER go out with somebody who has had a scandalous past.. it hurts me too much...

 

[imported_Papi]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Some of you guys are way too uptight. I don't know her situation, but how can you criticize a girl for sexual experimentation when most of you would cheerfully engage in much the same behavior if given a chance? If she has emotional baggage, that's one thing, but if she is ok with who she is, then you should be too.

i concur.

only a bitter person would shun someone for their life before present. jealousy I would assume plays a part here.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: WayneTeK

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
...but she had scandalous past in her wilder days? But she has great personality and beautiful, and completely change now.

Was it a big deal to any of you? What would you do in that situation?

Scandalous past=porn star, one night stands, double penetration by both guys at the same time, etc

I'm very confused right now because the thought of her going at it with another guy or guys just break my heart. It's not her fault but it's my insecurity is my biggest problem. How do you cope with this if you're in my situation?

I only go for PURE women... cause I'm pure too... I would NEVER go out with somebody who has had a scandalous past.. it hurts me too much...

It all depends on what you would define as a scandalous past.

I used to only want to date virgins. Now I have a more realistic goal in mind, I don't care if they are virgins. However, I do care if they have STDs. Several of my friends tell me that it's actually better to date a girl who is not a virgin, just simply due to experience. She'll know what she likes more, and might be willing to teach you if your not as experienced. However, there are some women out there who wouldn't want to date a virgin either. They want someone with experience.

Your perception of women will change as you grow mentally, emotionally, and socially.

If you strictly want to go out with virgins, then you might end up needing to hit the local convent =)

Even women who are very religious are not necassarily virgins. God does not forbid sex. As for that church rule that says that you have to wait for marriage before having sex. 80-90 percent of catholics (I'm catholic) i'm pretty sure don't follow that rule. The rest, I could almost guanartee you that they are charamastic fundamentists (ie. bible thumpers) and I seriously doubt that unless you are like them, that you want to date one.

 

[kami333]

Originally posted by: Ladiesnhan
If you like her then give her a try. If not get over it and find another girl that you are less insecure about.

Exactly. If you don't get your heart broken every now and then, how are you going to know it's still there?


Oh, and for the inevitable, The Streets - Dry Your Eyes = best i got dumped song ever

 

[MainframeGuy]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
I have made my decision. I will keep her because she's too important. I don't know what the hell i'm going to do without her.

there's a piece of follow up advice no one gave. Now you have made your decision and (hopefully) worked through this - drop it and leave her past behind, try to live in the present with her and don't bug her about it. Women can find an insecure man very unattractive in my experience/opinion.

 

[nan0bug]

If you have to ask this, you don't love her for who she is. End of story.

 

[lavagirl669]

Originally posted by: Kibbo
Dude,

My current GF has one heck of a past. Go with it. I trust her more than I've been able to trust any GF prior to her. It's great to know that she's gotten all that out of her system, and won't be wondering what is possibly around the corner. And experience certainly has its advantages.

I really don't see why a "clean" girl is better. I (breifly) dated a virgin, and dealing with that tension ruined the whole thing. And a number of years ago I dated a girl with not much experience, and she ended up leaving me basically out of curiosity for the greener grass.

Your relationship will be so much better if you can be laid back and open about sex. That is much more probable if the girl is experienced. Also, I'm sure that there are actions in your sexual past that you're not proud of. If you haven't discovered where your own moral "limits" are wrt sex, maybe you shouldn't be thinnking about a serious relationship just yet.

:thumbsup:

 

[lavagirl669]

Originally posted by: GreasyBurger
Saying a gir's sexual history isn't the issue is also bullshit. There is a limitation in everything that we do.

What if a girl has a new bf each month all throughout college? That should tells me that she doesn't take relationship seriously. How can a guy be sure to know that he won't end up like her last BF of January?

Did you ever consider the fact that maybe those bf's were each losers
instead of looking at it as being an issue with her?

Good incentive to not join the ranks of the losers and become Mr October.