If your wife becomes fat [during marriage], would you divorce her?

[Nebor]

Ah, so you think people should injure themselves rather than exercise properly. Got it.

I take back my comment about you being a troll. You're just an idiot.

In the long run, they're better off surviving heart disease and making it to old age as opposed to possibly suffering some mobility problems in their old age.

Either way, you're just making more excuses. Be fat and lazy, or be injured and proactive? The latter, every time.

 

[AstroManLuca]

In the long run, they're better off surviving heart disease and making it to old age as opposed to possibly suffering some mobility problems in their old age.

Either way, you're just making more excuses. Be fat and lazy, or be injured and proactive? The latter, every time.

I'm not making excuses. It is possible to exercise and not injure yourself. If you don't think that's possible or if you think encouraging proper exercise is "making excuses," then there's nothing that can be done for you.

 

[Zebo]

, "If you don't run 2 miles in 18 minutes to this location in order to save your family, they'll all be killed," and you've got an even better motivator.

Indeed, However there is no reason to destroy ligaments, tendons and maybe have a heart attack (for our older members) unless there is a gun to your head - recipe for fail. No reason to not start small. If you go every day "slow start" will be remeided in short order and one will be thin and healthy. I've seen it.
Starting with fast walking in zone for an hour
Then a month or so later HRM goes "beep beep" and is saying "speed up you slug." So one ends up alternating run/walk.
Couple months later running whole time.

HRM is key - puts one where ones need to be arobically and prevents injury.

As far as guys who are saying you need to lift. Fail. Hersal walker never touched a weight, any mesomorph does not have to lift to maintain thick muscle mass Its natural and legs shoulders ass etc get buffed by running, especially when you run intervals of 100x10 after a warm up run. But they as sure heck better run with their propensity for high levels of fatness or they end up with coronary at 50 like so many x football players do.
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[Deeko]

As far as guys who are saying you need to lift. Fail. Hersal walker never touched a weight, any mesomorph does not have to lift to maintain thick muscle mass Its natural and legs shoulders ass etc get buffed by running, especially when you run intervals of 100x10 after a warm up run. But they as sure heck better run with their propensity for high levels of fatness or they end up with coronary at 50 like so many x football players do.
http://www.achievement.org/achievers/wal0/large/wal0-018.jpg

Herschel Walker is an athletic freak of nature, not a fat person trying to lose weight. Not to mention the fact that he regularly plays sports that involve, ya know, strength. Its not like he never engages his muscles other than to run, come on. When you are in a caloric deficit, the vast majority of people's metabolisms will burn both fat and muscle. This is just a fact of the human body. Are there exceptions? Yea, of course, but that doesn't change the fact that this is just how it is for most people.

Not to mention the fact that the advice of "run and you can eat whatever you want" is dangerously false. Its all about caloric balance.

 

[Zebo]

Herschel Walker is an athletic freak of nature,

No he's just a meso who ran his ass off, dozen in any HS football locker room. About 1/3 of population is meso. All body types benefit from running however. And zone 4 1 hour a day none will be fat I don't care what you eat.

 

[Deeko]

No he's just a meso who ran his ass off, dozen in any HS football locker room. About 1/3 of population is meso. All body types benefit from running however. And zone 4 1 hour a day none will be fat I don't care what you eat.

Herschel Walker isn't an athletic freak of nature? Come on dude. Of course he is. Also - you just said a very important word that you're brushing off. football locker room. They regularly play a sport that involves a ton of use of their muscles outside the realm of just running. You don't see a ton of beefy sprinters or cross country runners.

Its is simply untrue to state that no matter what you eat, you won't be fat if you do an hour of cardio a day. That is dangerously untrue advice. Does it burn a lot of calories, making the burden of monitoring your diet less? Absolutely. Does it mean you can eat anything you want? Absolutely, positively not. You seem to underestimate how many calories people can realistically ingest in a day.

 

[Zebo]

Herschel Walker isn't an athletic freak of nature? Come on dude. Of course he is. Also - you just said a very important word that you're brushing off. football locker room. They regularly play a sport that involves a ton of use of their muscles outside the realm of just running. You don't see a ton of beefy sprinters or cross country runners.

Its is simply untrue to state that no matter what you eat, you won't be fat if you do an hour of cardio a day. That is dangerously untrue advice. Does it burn a lot of calories, making the burden of monitoring your diet less? Absolutely. Does it mean you can eat anything you want? Absolutely, positively not. You seem to underestimate how many calories people can realistically ingest in a day.

I'm not brushing it off. They just decided to run. There are millions sitting in sports bars and cubicles across this land burying their potential with a thick layer of fat by being sedentary.

 

[Fritzo]

Mine did am I'm still here. 15th anniversary today

 

[AstroManLuca]

I'm a bit amazed that so many people consider their spouse replacement, whatever the reason.

Mine did am I'm still here. 15th anniversary today

Yeah, I suspect most of the people voting yes aren't married. The way the poll is worded leaves some room for interpretation though.

 

[OutHouse]

I'm not brushing it off. They just decided to run. There are millions sitting in sports bars and cubicles across this land burying their potential with a thick layer of fat by being sedentary.

dude just shut the fuck up already. we get it you like to run, woot! for you. Running isnt for everybody so just fucking accept it and move on, and stop posting flat out wrong information.

 

[OutHouse]

Mine did am I'm still here. 15th anniversary today

congrats to you!

next june it will be 24 years for us. when we got married she was 120, she is now 178. big fucking deal my love for her has not changed and she is still a freak between the sheets! heheh

 

[rh71]

not for that reason alone... if she got lazy and let herself go then I'd bring it up. Kids are a factor too... they definitely care less after kids. But it's not like she's the only one taking care of them.

 

[alkemyst]

No he's just a meso who ran his ass off, dozen in any HS football locker room. About 1/3 of population is meso. All body types benefit from running however. And zone 4 1 hour a day none will be fat I don't care what you eat.

Dude, you are truly delusional if you think Walker was not gifted genetically.

You harp on fatties, but don't you have some serious degenerative injuries that keep you from doing it all?

Fuck, fat or not at 200lbs+ running becomes a real burden for most and at that point it's just for the cardio of it and hardly the fat burning.

I get my best results fat loss wise by hitting heavy weights. If I only diet my body wants to carry a certain amount of fat no matter what. Once I hit the gym it all comes off and I am constantly eating. I can run, but it's not the same.

 

[Ninjahedge]

This is still going on?


As a quickie, it would not be the fat that bothered me so much as the lack of motivation to do anything about it.

You are fat = GO EXERCISE. PFS.

 

[Siddhartha]

If you answered "yes" to this poll you probably should not be married and not be married for very long.

 

[HAL9000]

If you answered "yes" to this poll you probably should not be married and not be married for very long.

I agree completely, I tried raising this point a few posts ago and people starting trying to argue you can't love someone if your not physically attracted to them, shallow idiots. It's insane.

 

[Andy22]

I have to admit I am struggling with this now. My wife weighed 105 at 5'1 when we got married. She maintained her weight pretty well over the years including after both kids. I got pretty big before our first daughter was born and decided to lose weight and never gain it back. Now, in the last year we have gone in opposite directions. I am in the best shape of my life and she is at her heaviest (around 150). She refuses to buy new clothes to fit her so she wears the same things every day, does not go out with me, will not allow any pictures to be taken, etc. About the only thing that hasn't stopped is sex because I can find enough attraction to have sex with no problems. I would never divorce her strictly because the weight gain but the problem is that the weight gain creates many other issues that I have to deal with like her moodiness, our social life, etc. She told me she will work out when she is ready. Guess I have to accept that for now. Pushing the issue will only create resentment but leaving it alone seems to send the message to her that I have no problems with it.

 

[vi edit]

I agree completely, I tried raising this point a few posts ago and people starting trying to argue you can't love someone if your not physically attracted to them, shallow idiots. It's insane.

Like the previous post said, and others have said usually the weight itself is just a byproduct of a larger issue. My own wife has struggled with weight problems and it's not really the weight that's the issue. It's the insecurity, self loathing and apathy that accompanies it.

They know they aren't what they want to look like, are completely frustrated about it, but yet do nothing to fix it. And whenever you try to bring up the conversation you are met with defensive, spiteful comments.

It's not fun.

 

[SlitheryDee]

I hope my future wife doesn't mind me getting fat. Right now I'm in great shape, but I really love to eat in excess. I'm able to control it and my weight when I want to, but it pains me constantly. I don't want to cut this great source of pleasure out of my life forever. Everyone dies, and you only live once. In the face of that, all this fussing over appearance seems rather trivial. It would be great to get a wife who who understands that.

I doubt I'd ever get obese anyway, but I might put on 20-30 pounds from time to time.

 

[Fritzo]

congrats to you!

next june it will be 24 years for us. when we got married she was 120, she is now 178. big fucking deal my love for her has not changed and she is still a freak between the sheets! heheh

Holy CRAP she's old!!!!

 

[OutHouse]

Holy CRAP she's old!!!!

milf dude, milf

 

[HAL9000]

Like the previous post said, and others have said usually the weight itself is just a byproduct of a larger issue. My own wife has struggled with weight problems and it's not really the weight that's the issue. It's the insecurity, self loathing and apathy that accompanies it.

They know they aren't what they want to look like, are completely frustrated about it, but yet do nothing to fix it. And whenever you try to bring up the conversation you are met with defensive, spiteful comments.

It's not fun.

That's perfectly fair, I did mention that unless the weight gain was also linked to a personality change in my original post. It seems though that rathat than this being the case a lot of people are saying they would divorce based on physical appearance alone.

 

[TridenT]

That's perfectly fair, I did mention that unless the weight gain was also linked to a personality change in my original post. It seems though that rathat than this being the case a lot of people are saying they would divorce based on physical appearance alone.

I would divorce based upon physical appearance unless I become soooo significantly bonded that I just don't care anymore. (Unpossible)

 

[HAL9000]

I would divorce based upon physical appearance unless I become soooo significantly bonded that I just don't care anymore. (Unpossible)

Then I don't believe you've ever felt true love.

 

[Deeko]

Then I don't believe you've ever felt true love.

haha you're talking to Trident....