I'm engaged. Thank you, ATOT.

[iamme]

good luck.

i know every situation is different, but i think this much is true:

6 weeks isn't enough time to see the best and worst of a person. everyone puts their best foot forward and can usually sustain that for a while. it's after all the chivalry and honeymoon period wear off, when you see if you guys will truly make it for the long run.

marriage isn't about the "lovey-dovey" feelings you see in movies.

i said good luck and i don't mean that sacrastically. i hope you guys are ready to make a lifetime commitment.

:beer:

 

[DanTMWTMP]

lol @ brut's comment hehehe

anyways, I've dated my xgf for like 1-2 yrs. In the beginning I thought, or rather, both of us thought we can be together forever. But blah oh well lol. I don't plan on even considering marraige until 28-early 30's, because I want to be financially able first (as in have a stable job, have some money, etc). But well, since he's a grad CS student, there's no problem in that. But you never knw.

I'm glad your happy, and wish you the best..but dang, 6 weeks is a bit too hasty no?

but that's just me. I've known some people who've gotten engaged quickly is still married (like my cousin, dad's friends, etc) ..and then again I know quite a few who's marriages ended in divource...or engagement was called off...

but yeah, finding a grad CS major student is pretty good and probbaly almost guarantees a successful career for him. So a stable household will not be a problem heehhe



all i can say is much luck and congrats!

 

[Zim Hosein]

Congrats Dezign :beer:

 

[yhlee]

It's Linus Torvalds meets Margaret Cho.

Best of luck to you

 

[kalster]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: CPA
so is it shizoid or an acquitance of shizoid?

He's a friend of schizoid's... they're both first-years in USC's Computer Science Ph.D program.

wow
i went to USC for my masters

this dude cud have been my t.a,

no wait you said first year in phd

 

[azncoffeeboi]

congrats

 

[MithShrike]

Wow, that was quick... hmm... lans evilly:

Meh.

 

[ultimatebob]

Congratulations! You might want slow down a bit, though.

 

[shimsham]

you sound like my best friend. hes already been married once. dated the girl for five years, engaged for one, split up after 7 mos. now, everytime he dates a new girl:

first couple weeks, he talks about how cool she is, and shoves his head up her ass
next couple weeks, he talks about how he thinks he could marry her, and shoves his head farther
next couple weeks, he talks about how they have discussed marriage, and farther up still
next couple weeks, realizes she is a totally different person, and now feels stuck in a relationship that he has to crush the woman to get out of, and he finally tries to pull his head out
about a month after that, the nasty break-up begins.

its happened this way the past 3 times now. with his last gf, and current one, he dont even discuss with me how its going, because we both know.

my point is, how the fvck can you know someone after six weeks? six months? you can date someone for years and think you know them, but as soon as you just move in together, not even being married, its a whole different world.

let me guess, your last few bf have been a$$holes, or didnt treat you how you wanted to be treated. this guy comes along, probably hasnt had many gf, and treats you like a queen. your heads been swimming on cloud nine for the past six weeks, and he is just perfect. he is the one. you dont know this guy. of course hes perfect, your a good looking girl, hes been wanting some, and he dont want to fvck it up by being himself, so its been nothing buy best behaviour. have you two even had an argument yet?

id be willing to bet money that if all the people who got engaged/married so quickly could answer honestly with no consequences the majority would tell you they wouldnt have done it, or wait at least a year. now they cant say that because they are commited and cant just get out.

either way, congrats?

 

[JEDI]

is the fiancee an ATOT'er? or just schitzoid's friend?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Well, actually, look at it this way. If you're that "close" so fast, it's not going to hurt like it would if you'd worked for years to develop it. So maybe that's the key!

 

[Jgtdragon]

Remeber marriage is a life time commitment.

Good luck.

Congrats!:beer:

 

[CTrain]

I'll be the first one to say it.....that guy is a total nerd.

 

[boomdart]

A little early in a relationship to get married, don't you think?

Well, best of luck to you both!:wine::beer:

 

[Koing]

wow 6 weeks is a short amount of time but if you guys feel that way go a head

Also it isn't as if she is going to get married within 6 weeks of meeting this guy. She has known him for 6 weeks so far and is engaged. The wedding is a few years or at leat a year away so that is a bit longer.

Good luck Dez.

Koing

 

[minendo]

Originally posted by: CTrain
I'll be the first one to say it.....that guy is a total nerd.

No reason to throw insults around, Ronald.

 

[cerebusPu]

everyones said everything i wanted to say. in any case, ATOT will miss you dezign.

 

[SethK28]

"As for marriage, we're going to wait at least until he graduates before formally tying the knot... depending on whether he just completes his Master's or goes on to finish his Ph.D in the CS program at USC, it could be anywhere from 1-3 years. "

~ signed, the future Mrs. IslandBoy ~





Hate to burst your bubble, but it is a well documented fact that long term engagements are not a good idea, combine that with the fact you have known the guy for only 6 weeks of dating your relationship is doomed. It takes alot longer than 6 weeks to find out stuff about someone who you are going to marry. I has taken me over 2 years to get to know the girl I plan on marrying, and for both of us to make sure that we are right for each other. Hell 6 weeks into dating her I wasnt even comfortable enough to fart around her. Judging from some of your previous posts about your problems with guys etc etc it is pretty evident that you are relationship dependent. Someone finally gave you some attention that you so obviously crave. Have fun.......I give it 6 months max before you come back here bitching and moaning about how your relationship is over.

 

[MrDingleDangle]

Originally posted by:


Hell 6 weeks into dating her I wasnt even comfortable enough to fart around her

so funny, but so true

 

[sxr7171]

Originally posted by: Cal166
I just have a bad feeling about this but if this is what you want am happy for you. Hope everying works out great.

I dated my Ex-GF for about 3 years, the first year was was amazing but the last year I finally start to see the real side to her.

It really takes a long time to get to know someone so for 6 weeks, that just lust love.

Have you ever imagine waking up next to a person what you only known for 6 weeks?

So true, it takes a while for true colors to show.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle

Originally posted by:


Hell 6 weeks into dating her I wasnt even comfortable enough to fart around her

so funny, but so true

so painful! :Q

 

[SethK28]

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle

Originally posted by:


Hell 6 weeks into dating her I wasnt even comfortable enough to fart around her

so funny, but so true

We are so comfortable around each other that I give her a "dutch oven" every now and again just to piss her off

 

[MaxDepth]

Hmm, you've said me the same thing that Jennifer did when she told me about her fiance, Ben.

 

[Rudee]

Marriage proposal after 6 weeks? I hope this is a April Fools joke, because your chances of staying married past 7 years is slim to none, and slim left town. Best of luck to you both though.

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

The guy is smart. He now has exclusive rights to her tang until her looks go (around 30). After which he'll just split.