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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Damn... how old are you guys?
I am 29 and she is 27.
That stuff only happens when I am not here. The place never looks like that when I am here.
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Damn... how old are you guys?
Originally posted by: UsandThem
Originally posted by: shimsham
hes only 3. they go crazy in an instant. since its his first offense with you there just make sure he knows he cant do it, and next time its a spanking.
This is about his tenth offense. Once it happened when I was here with him. He put a marker in his underwear and went to his room and colored all over a blanket. He understood that night not to do that again.
The other times were all when my wife was here with him.
I think he is becoming a repeat offender
Originally posted by: HomeBrewerDude
Originally posted by: UsandThem
What a nice sleep I had...my neck is killing me.
Well, luckily I got most of the marker out of the carpet, however it is still noticeable.
Just to clarify it wasn't a screaming match in front of the kids. The kids went to their rooms, and it was never much of a true screaming match. I just stated what I wanted to say.
I guess why I was so upset (besides seeing the black marker on the carpet) is she has been driving me nuts lately.
She has gotten into a bad habit of staying up and watching TV until like 4am, and she ends up only getting three hours of sleep before she has to go to work (she works part time) or getting up with kids. She has been doing this for six months or so, and she is barely functional the next day......she will go to sleep in less than a minute sometimes when she is sitting on the couch. When this happens the kids will just destroy the house.
I will come in and the house will be destroyed. She will be cooking and she is so out of it, she will let the food boil over and get all over the stove and drip pans (which I always seem to have to clean).
I took several pictures of what it looked like before because she does not seem to see the same things that I do, but I still have two picture left that I did not delete. I deleted out most because it seems to be a fight I can't win.
I have brought it up to her several times, but she seems to think it is ok, and doesn't think it is that bad.
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IMO, you're wife is depressed. Seek professional advice and help asap.
Originally posted by: UsandThem
What a nice sleep I had...my neck is killing me.
Well, luckily I got most of the marker out of the carpet, however it is still noticeable.
Just to clarify it wasn't a screaming match in front of the kids. The kids went to their rooms, and it was never much of a true screaming match. I just stated what I wanted to say.
I guess why I was so upset (besides seeing the black marker on the carpet) is she has been driving me nuts lately.
She has gotten into a bad habit of staying up and watching TV until like 4am, and she ends up only getting three hours of sleep before she has to go to work (she works part time) or getting up with kids. She has been doing this for six months or so, and she is barely functional the next day......she will go to sleep in less than a minute sometimes when she is sitting on the couch. When this happens the kids will just destroy the house.
I will come in and the house will be destroyed. She will be cooking and she is so out of it, she will let the food boil over and get all over the stove and drip pans (which I always seem to have to clean).
I took several pictures of what it looked like before because she does not seem to see the same things that I do, but I still have two picture left that I did not delete. I deleted out most because it seems to be a fight I can't win.
I have brought it up to her several times, but she seems to think it is ok, and doesn't think it is that bad.
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Originally posted by: brxndxn
If you don't use corporal punishment, you deserve it and the years of hardship that follow..
Originally posted by: dullard
You both are asses. The reason your wife is an ass is obvious. So obvious even Helen Keller could spot it a mile away. So I won't go into that. I will point out how you were an ass.
Never, ever say anything like that in the heat of the moment. Your wife was correct, it wasn't helping the situation "right now". Right now, the mess needed cleaning and the kid needed punishment. Those should have been your only two priorities. Talk to her in person, AWAY FROM THE KIDS, the next day. Get on the same page as her on your own time, not in panic time around your kids.
What good can possibly come from arguing in the presence of your children? Is that how you want your children to treat their spouses when they grow up (remember they'll do anything you do, but 10 times worse)? Think about it.
Originally posted by: UsandThem
What a nice sleep I had...my neck is killing me.
Well, luckily I got most of the marker out of the carpet, however it is still noticeable.
Just to clarify it wasn't a screaming match in front of the kids. The kids went to their rooms, and it was never much of a true screaming match. I just stated what I wanted to say.
I guess why I was so upset (besides seeing the black marker on the carpet) is she has been driving me nuts lately.
She has gotten into a bad habit of staying up and watching TV until like 4am, and she ends up only getting three hours of sleep before she has to go to work (she works part time) or getting up with kids. She has been doing this for six months or so, and she is barely functional the next day......she will go to sleep in less than a minute sometimes when she is sitting on the couch. When this happens the kids will just destroy the house.
I will come in and the house will be destroyed. She will be cooking and she is so out of it, she will let the food boil over and get all over the stove and drip pans (which I always seem to have to clean).
I took several pictures of what it looked like before because she does not seem to see the same things that I do, but I still have two picture left that I did not delete. I deleted out most because it seems to be a fight I can't win.
I have brought it up to her several times, but she seems to think it is ok, and doesn't think it is that bad.
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Originally posted by: UsandThem
I will come home, and every dish in the house is dirty and on the counter. I will ask her how that many dishes got dirty and say that she is not leaving them for me to clean.
She will say "Well you left a plate and bowl for me to clean yesterday"
We have been married for six years, but I don't think I can take much more. I have been trying to do my best for the kids, but I am at a breaking point with her.
Originally posted by: bamacre
:thumbsup: Or has a drug problem. Or both.
Originally posted by: AMCRambler
Yeah my brother is going through the messy face with his kids now. They were nuts and decided to have 3 kids with no more than two years between them. They got a 5yr, 3yr and 1yr. Your house looks neat compared to theirs. I dont think your wife is having troubles with depression so much as she's having trouble maintaining some authority with the kids. Something tells me you're the enforcer and she's the good cop. I think you need to get on her about not letting the kids do anything they want. My brother and his wife are working on this also. Start with the coloring, and make them stay in one spot and color. Say the kitchen table. Markers when they come out stay in the kitchen on the table. No running around the house with the markers or they get taken away. It works. They had the same problem with the kids bringing their juice cups all over the house and then dumping grape juice on the carpet. Now juice stays in the kitchen. Just gotta get the Mrs to buy in.
Originally posted by: Fireball77
Okay, you had every reason to get mad. Sounds like your wife is taking the hands off approach to raising children....that house is a mess....what does she do all day....does she work at all? Looks like a full day of watching tv, staying on the internet, and just slinging food or markers at the kids to keep them out of her hair. I am not saying this to be mean....I was once married to the same type of woman with two step-children. She didnt do crap, and never cared....so seeing this hit close to home. I feel sorry for you, I know what you are going through
Originally posted by: HomeBrewerDude
IMO, you're wife is depressed. Seek professional advice and help asap.
Originally posted by: tw1164
Remember in marriage you have two options
1) You can be right
or
2) You can be happy
You can't have both.
Originally posted by: AStar617
Still kinda curious if OP ever told his wife all about herself like she so desperately needs.