Those that died on 9/11 due to terrorist actions died a death that was "unnecessary" and born out of hate. A car accident is an accident and with cancer, frequently the dying person, at the very least, gets a chance to say "goodbye" (something that few people who died on 9/11 were able to do). That being said, I do agree with you to some extent. When I saw instant hot cocoa with RED WHITE AND BLUE dried marshmallows for sale (I think by Swiss Miss) I wanted to vomit. Okay, so more people want US flags, so the companies make more US flags. BUT, people who invent a need ("A REAL American would only drink cocoa with red white a blue marshmallows") based on a tragedy are disgusting.
My wife and I had just moved into our first home about a week before 9/11 and I had just gotten my computer unpacked and set up around 9/13 (it seemed like an eternity, but what difference did it make, I didn't have any money left to spend on Hot Deals anyway) and I remember the original post looking for NJHawkeye. I had remembered seeing his avatar on all those posts. I had never PMd him or dealt with him directly, but I still felt bad that one of our (much)extended family was lost. That's what makes NJHawkeye different from "all the others" who died on 9/11. He was one of our own. Certainly no better than anyone else who's ever died, but one that we were closer to.