Originally posted by: DAPUNISHER
Unrealistic standards and expectations, is a primary reason why so many people struggle with romance and/or achieving intimate relationships.
Originally posted by: lokiju
On the flip side I know females that are holding out for their "Brad Pitt" or whatever when they're overweight and are painfully shy and quiet.
Everyone needs to just drop the bullshit unrealistic desires and just date and date until you find the one you want to keep.
Hell my Brother in law is guilty of this, my wifes best friend is guilty of this on the female side.
You are right, of course. I was just thinking about how some studies site physical appearance of a potential S.O. being much more important to men than women. Women rank intelligence and occupation/financial security above looks in some studies. Anecdotally, it often seems the case to me too.Originally posted by: vi edit
Originally posted by: DAPUNISHER
Unrealistic standards and expectations, is a primary reason why so many people struggle with romance and/or achieving intimate relationships.
Fixed.
Originally posted by: Auggie
There's a technical term for what the OP is discussing. Psychologists refer to this as "shoot middle early" from social experiments where they identified a population of males who target the middle (not the most attractive, not the ugliest) at the beginning of social interactions (at the beginning of a party, for example).
This is also a strategy uncovered in sexual selection studies done by biologists studying animals in the wild. The alpha male usually gets the top females, but the other males usually are equally likely to find a mate because they take the middle road right off the bat instead of fighting for the top 5% female.
Originally posted by: ryan256
This is something I've been trying to tell guys for a long time. Quit looking at porn for what a perfect woman should look like. Of the entire female population .1% have the porn star bod. Meaning you have to be one of the smartest, richest, and sexiest guys to even have a chance. Most people I know would consider this girl to be plain and unattractive. I disagree.
I noticed in reading this whack job's journal that hes mainly mentioning hot nubile 20 somethings that he's masturbating over. YOU ARE OVER 40!! There's your first F'n problem right there! Look for women in your age range and you'll have much better luck! Hell I know women that age that all they want is an occasional good bang. They aren't interested in a relationship. Isn't that every mans dream? Or supposed to be?
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Well, in my experience, ugly women ban be bitches too, and then what have you got?
A bitchy, ugly EX gf or EX wife.
FML
Originally posted by: ryan256
This is something I've been trying to tell guys for a long time. Quit looking at porn for what a perfect woman should look like. Of the entire female population .1% have the porn star bod. Meaning you have to be one of the smartest, richest, and sexiest guys to even have a chance. Most people I know would consider this girl to be plain and unattractive. I disagree.
I noticed in reading this whack job's journal that hes mainly mentioning hot nubile 20 somethings that he's masturbating over. YOU ARE OVER 40!! There's your first F'n problem right there! Look for women in your age range and you'll have much better luck! Hell I know women that age that all they want is an occasional good bang. They aren't interested in a relationship. Isn't that every mans dream? Or supposed to be?
Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
I've dated, been married, and been alone. I much prefer being alone than being with some chick I don't give a damn about. Also Fatties smell bad.
Originally posted by: swbsam
...... then us nerds who smell like chicken soup in the summer.......
Originally posted by: Fox5
Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
I've dated, been married, and been alone. I much prefer being alone than being with some chick I don't give a damn about. Also Fatties smell bad.
You only say that because your libido had died down. If you had the sex drive of a teenager or young 20s, you'd probably put up with anything for sex.
Originally posted by: swbsam
Originally posted by: cheezy321
I give this rant an 8/10.
Even fatties need lovin every once in a while.
But they gotta pay for it!
Sorry, just kidding of course!
Here's the thing - I'm all for people falling in love based on personalities but here's the kicker.
The positives of dating a fatty, even if you're superficial:
1. I've seen it many times - fatty girls in relationships get real happy like, and get un-fatty, often turning into knock outs...
2. You're building your inter-personal skills, even if things don't work out. Not only do you lose your virginity, FINALLY, but you learn how to talk to women.
3. You become a person who gives other people a chance, and that's good for your soul!
4. Fattys are loyal
p.s. I'm a fatty too, so I can say this shit
Originally posted by: SSSnail
How about just give it up more and often?
Originally posted by: surfsatwerk
I've dated, been married, and been alone. I much prefer being alone than being with some chick I don't give a damn about. Also Fatties smell bad.
Originally posted by: StinkyPinky
I'd rather be alone that force myself to date some fatty. Sorry.