Not a professional myself, but my dad is a civil engineer work worked on large steel and concrete structures. Bridges and dams. I grew up around heavy construction.
Yeah, the truther argument comes from a poor understanding of physics, metallurgy and engineering. Jet fuel may not be able to melt steel, but the heat it generates will soften it. Especially when you have a large, sustained fire. This will cause it to deform, in the same way a blacksmith deforms hot metal with a hammer.
So now you have weakened steel supporting the entire weight of the floors above. The beam itself isn't going to give out. What will give out is the weakest points: bolts and welds. When those finally break, it triggers a chain reaction causing the structure to pancake as mass x acceleration adds up.
Fortunately construction techniques have changed since the WTC was built. Fireproofing technology has improved. You also see the use of thicker concrete slabs. The problem with super tall buildings though is they need to be light and sway with the wind. Which the WTC was good at, but ironically made it less structurally sound. Part of why the Empire State Building survived its own place crash was the thick masonry that contained the fire.